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I have a 2011 Ford Escape with 256k miles. It shows its age on the accel and transmission, but all in all the car has been very reliable.
I'm saving up for an AWD Ford Transit or 2024 Tacoma, but I want to go ahead and get going with what I have until it dies. Life is short, I can't keep waiting forever.
I don't need much but I can't leave the cat behind, so I need to install some cooling. I'm looking for recommendations on units that have auto settings that would be used on next build as well.
I'm going to get a 240 Ah 12V battery (maybe two 100 AH), small fridge, star link and cell booster (so I can work), and build my shelving/platform from wood.
I know some cooling units have options for heat as well, I'm open to options that have both, but a separate diesel heater is not out of the question.
Any recommendations would be greatly appreciated.

Now there are lots of posts with a bunch of Daddy's describing how they are. The best thing I can do is be myself within this dynamic, so happy to describe how I am:
Me: Loving, supportive, very affectionate. The goal - as I see it as your Daddy - is to lift your spirit up. If I do, I know that I'll get the best sub/little possible. In public we're equals, always encouraging your schooling or career and celebrating successes together. However, in private, things can shift. You know your role and I know mine but it's all with an intimate bond that we've created. I can also be firm in a myriad of ways. Perhaps I'll be rough and leave marks or it might just be a loving squeeze of the neck as a reminder of who you belong to, eyes locked, making sure you know who leads us. But the underlying layer is the world we've created, a connection and bond deeper than others.
I certainly have a bit of a pleasure Dom side to me, so there would also be lots of praise coming your way.
I'd like you to be fun, open minded, and intelligent. Having Interests outside of the dynamic is important, please enjoy being active, and craves the kind of Daddy I described above. We'll let things evolve naturally until trust is established.
Open to online as well

Open to opinions on whether we should reopen on the 14th or remain private until demands are met.

My dad and stepmom moved to the other side of the country when I was a baby. I lived with my mom for a bit and then with my grandparents. My whole childhood was neglectful and terrible but that another post.
I talked to my dad on the phone a few times a year, and saw him maybe 5-8 times throughout my childhood and teens. It was regular but superficial conversation always. Like slightly different versions of the same conversation. He didn't put zero effort but he was the classic Disney dad.
This story is about 10 years ago when I was 25 and graduating college. They wanted to come fly in for my graduation ceremony, which I was fine with initially.
Then he said they wanted to stay a whole week to spend time together. I told him that it wouldn't be a good time to stay for a week unless they had other people to visit or something. I had finals until the day of the ceremony and only two weeks between graduation and starting my new post graduation job to find an apartment, say goodbye to my college friends, and move. They said that was fine and they would just find things to do in the area when I was busy. I told them it would be better to visit after I was situated if they wanted to stay longer but they insisted.
So when they get in I'm doing my finals still and my dad calls me like drop what your doing and meet me at the bar for drinks to celebrate. I said no and he said you don't need to worry about finals bc you already got the job you wanted after graduation. I still declined. After the ceremony he left to drop my stepmom with her aunt, which they hadn't previously told me and my dad wouldn't explain why.
All week my dad was trying to get me to blow off my other stuff to hang out with him. Trying to stay in my small college apartment in a sleeping bag instead of his hotel even though I made it clear beforehand I didn't want anyone spending the night. Trying to convince me not to work out my two week notice at my part time job I had in school so I could go party with him. Just in general being intrusive and stressing me out while I was trying to get situated.
The one thing he did do that was helpful on the last day he helped me move but he made comments about how I needed to relax the whole time. Then I was supposed to be dropping him off at the hotel so I could go to my apartment and unpack but he insisted I come up to his room.
He opened a beer and I said I didn't want to drink bc I need to go unpack and he starts going into this long monologue about him and my stepmom are having problems and might get divorced and that why she's not here. It ended up taking the whole night, I didn't get any unpacking done.
I realized that he only came bc he basically wanted an emotional support vacation away from her, no matter how inconvenient to me. Every year when I see graduation pictures I get upset bc I remember how one of my biggest accomplishments was unnecessarily stressful and full of boundary pushing. Him and my stepmom are still married and I haven't seen them since.

I know this is purely based off of personality but in the name of science, I would love to know 3 songs from each of you that call out to you. Is there a common vibe between the gays? Is there no correlation? We really don’t know until you share.
My three at the moment are: Libianca- People, Jessie Ware- Tough Love (Cyril Hahn Remix), & Grimes- Realiti
If you’re open to sharing, I am open to listening and hope some of you are too!👂

Father's day is around the corner and I plan to DM a oneshot where my Dad is the 'hero' and the main spotlight. I want him to have a magic item that he received from his dad to be the source of power. I'd love feedback on your opinions whether certain abilities are "too" powerful(tho my goal is to make him feel strong) while others might be underwhelming. Or more suggestions to add to the list of possible outcomes.
Also plan to play at level 12, with 8 party members (classes unknown)
Your item recharges after you rest for an hour or longer, or by someone expending a level 6 spell slot.

At any time you may expend your item's charge you may roll a d8 on the table below and gain the following ability.

1. Turn off the lights. Due to your energy conservation efforts, you gain another charge of Action Surge. Roll on this table again.
   
2. Stern Look: Until your next long rest you may use your reaction whenever a creature damages you to force that creature to be frightened of you for 10 minutes.
   
3. Caring heart. Until your next long rest you can use your action to heal 12d8 split up among as many creatures that can see or hear you. You may do this once.
   
4. Dad's Jokes: As an action you mat deal 6d6 psychic damage to a creature. You may use this ability 1d4 times.
   
5. Do it myself: You gain 1d6 charges. Whenever someone fails a check. You can make spend a charge to make the same roll yourself and take either roll. If "your" roll was chosen and succeeded, you regain the expended charge.
   
6. Bathroom break. The next short rest regain all your hitdice. For each hit die spent on that rest you gain temporary hitpoints equal to the amount it healed AND you gain that many inspiration charges.
   
7. Gamer Fingers: for the next 1d4 hours, you gain +5 to dexterity modifier or strength modifier. Chose when you gain this ability.
   
8. Roll on this table twice. Any additional rolls of 8 until your item is recharged let's you choose the result of the roll instead
   

This is a long story so buckle up. I've always had a bad relationship with my mother. I'm her youngest child she had on accident when she was 41. (I'm 22 now) my siblings are both 30. She's always treated them so well. She'd never out right say she didn't love me but she'd always say "I have 2 kids I love so much" "my 2 kids are everything to me" and stuff like that. After my older siblings moved out (I was 12 at the time) my dad left her after enduring her abuse for 20 years... but he didn't take me with him. Which may have been for the best as my mom had convinced me he was an addict and I was scared of him. My mom would sit in her room and scream for hours on end calling him every name in the book. It was super scary to see because she wasn't talking to anyone. I'd just be in my room and hear her screaming like she was dying for HOURS everyday when I came home from school.
Soon this escalated to her hitting me everyday and then telling people I would hit her? She'd scratch her arms and say I did it in a rage when even when she was hitting me I never hit her I'd usually just take it until she'd start choking me and then I'd push her away because I didn't want to die. She's broken 3 of my toes pretty badly from stepping on them on with all her body weight and when I cried she laughed and said I deserved it. Cps showed up twice and ultimately made things worse as when they left she'd freak out at me and call me a liar and say im "evil and not of Jesus christ" my moms a mormon but she really doesn't practice very religiously. We only went to church sometimes so I never took it super seriously but she'd act like we were a super Christian godly household.
She would take me to so many therapists and psychiatrists saying that there was something wrong with me. The psychiatrists were very prescription happy. But the therapists always tell me when I was alone with them that my mom was seriously mentally ill. When they'd try and have her work on herself too she'd rage quit therapy and go find another one. Last time I talked to her she was telling me about how hard it is having a mentally ill child "I've spent so much money on therapy and pills for you! My other children didn't need any of that!"
I ended up going to live with my dad when I was 14-16 but my step mother took issue with me. To this day im unsure why. I was always nice to her and helped around the house, did well in school. She was constantly mean. So they sent me back to live with my mom and the cycle of abuse with her started again.
I got through my senior year and she kicked me out without notice on my 18th birthday. I was going to move out once school was out but she demanded I left sooner. So I did. I had to live in my car with everything i owned for a week before I found an apartment. She told everyone that she kicked me out because I hit her and threw a book at her face and that just didn't happen. I did throw a book but it wasn't at her or anywhere near her.
Shortly after my senior year I ended up getting pregnant. Really stupid move on my part. I still feel guilty and it's been 3 years. I tried my best to keep my birth son but i was homeless and working 10 hour days at 7 months pregnant. So I ended up asking a nice infertile couple who I knew were looking to adopt if they would adopt my boy. They did and they have been amazing. At first my mom was like "oh my daughters so great she chose life" and all that BS. (I'm not pro life. Just her) The adoption is open so we both get to see him sometimes and she's kind of like an extra grandma to him and I'm like an aunt maybe? But it eventually turned to her shaming me for being an unfit mother. Calling me fat because of baby weight. Shaming me for getting pregnant by a guy who hit me. (He didn't start till after I was pregnant)
It's gotten to the point where she legitimately tries to make me jealous by going on about how she's my birth sons favorite person. I've never seen them together and if that was the case I wouldn't care but her trying to use my baby as a pawn weirds me out so much. He's only 2! She also didn't see him for months because she told his adoptive parents "you guys seem stressed Maybe you should give him to someone better fit to parent" when the adoptive mom was struggling a bit caring for a new born because it's so hard!
She's taking my siblings to Italy this summer for a big trip and told them that she can't take me because I'm mentally ill. I told her very respectfully that I was very hurt I felt like the "redheaded step child" to which she just said I was a spoiled brat and she doesn't owe me anything and that it's my own fault I'm "miserable" and that ill never heal unless i got on medication again and stop blaming her etc. She has them over every weekend to do stuff and not me.
For the most part I'm no contact with her. I still am around my siblings. They have helped me immensely and I love them. But I just am so lost on how to handle my mom. My son's birthday is on the 3rd and she's gonna be there. I'm so nervous. She makes me physically ill to be around. She's accused me of hitting her even as an adult and runs around like she's a victim of abuse. She tells people that I hit her and her stories don't line up at all and are so blatantly fake and then says the stories I've told of my childhood are made up in my mind because I'm mentally ill and that I abused her from the ages of 10 and up. Even sometimes tries to shame me for temper tantrums I had in my terrible 2's.
Idk whats wrong with her. She's been diagnosed with autism and depression but that's it.

When I first started, I was rated 800. For a while I hovered about there, and for a point in time I fell down into the 700s. I have maybe about 1500 games under my belt now with a few openings that I'm decent with for each side. As of today, my elo is at an all-time high of 1220. I have so much left to learn, and so much left to practice as we all do.
I saw that post the other day where someone came in incredibly discouraged and frustrated because they felt like they couldn't beat their friends who didn't study at all. If you enjoy chess, and you want to actively get better, that's all you have to do: keep playing to get better, and please don't stop having fun. If I can get better at the game, I know you can, too.
Some things that really worked well for me:

1. Study openings. That's the first thing players who understand the basics of the game should do. If you don't know what to study for black because you're responding to white, there are some strong universal options that should work in many cases against the most popular white openings. You can also pick two to get decent with, and then stick to one for white until you get bored and want to play with another set. (Though I will say I always open with The Italian or some other variation, and I'm still not bored because there are so many ways a game can go when you're in lower elo.)
2. Puzzles! Puzzles have elevated my game like crazy. Seriously. And you only need 15 minutes a day doing them. Once you find that you're just getting repeatedly stumped, it means your brain is fatigued and you can't hold anymore new patterns. The whole objective behind puzzles is to intuit patterns. There are so many re-occurring patterns in chess, and once you can recognize them off the bat, they will seriously elevate your gameplay. I cannot tell you how many games I have won because of a single multi-exchange I recognized the pattern of, but could tell my opponent did not. If sacrificing material for an advantage, or even a win, in game is something you've always enjoyed the thought of, puzzles will unequivocally get you there.
3. Don't worry about theory yet. Seriously, the first two points here are so much more important than chess theory that most people below 1100 haven't even googled. I'm just now at the point where theory is coming into play, I can feel the pace of the game has significantly changed because of it. When you're in low elo, you're gonna be playing chess with big irrational moves and low levels of forethought. Theory is time-consuming, and you're going to really take advantage of these big moves with solid foundations you've developed in your openings, and pattern recognition than you will through understanding that "the middle game is supposed to be for grinding out edges against your opponents" (this is reductive, but the point stands).

If there's anything else I'm missing here, I welcome the veterans and stronger players to chime in. But don't get discouraged, seriously. If I can climb, then unequivocally, so can you. There are so many brilliant resources out there to elevate your game. Keep learning. Keep having fun.

hi! i am looking for a place to watch the sunrise near roseville. most of the spots i know don’t open until after 7am but the sunrise is earlier. in need of suggestions! thanks!

Hello everyone, I started golfing last summer and I’ve been having a great time, on my last round of the summer last year I ended up getting a 90 and I was really excited to get back at it this summer, I went to the range once and then a round of 18 with my dad which I felt great, fairways off basically every tee and my irons weren’t going towards the flag per day but I was hitting greens in regulation or just missing and having to chip on. So I was feeling really good until my last round, I made it through 8 holes and had to stop because I couldn’t hit a ball anymore.
I don’t mean oh I topped a few here and there I mean like I truly couldn’t hit a good ball to save my life, I topped two drives in a row into a pond that was like 20 years In front of me, don’t think I even got an iron shot off the ground unless I chunked it 20 feet in front of me and my favourite part of the game, with my 56, I love chipping and doing little flip shots with that thing I spent hours and hours at the range getting that club down, it felt like I was holding the club for the first time ever.
Nothing felt right or comfortable but I couldn’t tell you what I was doing wrong, after tipping the ball for my 6th time in a row I specially was like I’m not lifting my head until my swing is done completely and still I ended up topping it but I was for sure looking at the ball!
Then I tried again this weekend with my dad again and just embarrassed myself for 9 holes, friken people were trying to give me pointers and shit which frustrated me even more cause like damn I know how to hit a ball.
Basically I’m just wondering if this a normal occurrence in causal golf players? I’ve heard a of pitchers getting the yips or a shorter going on a cold streak but to go out there and look like I literally just picked up a club was embarrassing and disheartening to the point I left after the 8th hole.
Have you had this happen and if so what helped get your game back?
I go to the range at least once a week sometimes twice if I had a bad round.

(23F here) I really really like this guy. We met online in February and have been texting, FaceTiming and having phone calls since then. We haven’t met in person, but the conversations we have are so compelling and I never feel like I’m talking too much or embarrassed about saying something, and I think I’m really catching feelings for him. He has told me he recognizes I’m not a woman that he wants to just mess around and play with but actually learn me. He’s so handsome and he’s so kind, he listens to me and is super encouraging. I got out of a really bad abusive situationship in January and I opened up to him about it, how I’m still healing from it and learning to love myself more, and he didn’t come back with the cliche “oh I’m not gonna do that to you” he just… listened to me without judging or feeling like he had to defend his ego.
I am super health conscious and told him I thought that we should both go together to get STD tested before we got physical (if that ever happened) & he responded saying “I don’t want to become physical with you until you’re my wife, but I wouldn’t mind going to get tested together” and that is just SOOOO RARE to ME. Then I start thinking omg does he want me to be his wife? Does he see me that way??? (Maybe im thinkin too deeply about it?) He lives 8 hours away from me and we planned on meeting, I just feel a twinge in me that doesn’t wanna feel too quickly and then I end up scaring him off, I don’t want to scare him off at all :( I won’t say I’m in love, cause love is not something that is easy or simple, it’s complex, but he feels like someone I could experience real love with. Am I scared of love? Oh gosh idk. I’m just venting.

A note before RC’s article below: If you are ever fearful, uncertain, and/or doubtful about GameStop’s ability to overcome the parasitic criminal shorts, JUST REMEMBER: THIS is the man we’ve entrusted with BILLIONS of dollars. Read it, read it again, and then watch the FUD completely evaporate
Link to original article: https://www.entrepreneur.com/article/349890
By Ryan Cohen May 4, 2020
Everything I know — from empathy to the principles of making money — I learned by following in the footsteps of my late father, Ted Cohen. We spoke for hours every day. He was, and always will be, my best friend, advisor and biggest advocate. A successful glassware importer with an impeccable work ethic, my father never missed a day on the job. If he were here today, he’d be worried about the millions of unemployed and struggling businesses across the country. The warehouse workers, drivers, construction workers and small-business owners — those are the people he respected most. Looking back on his life and influence, the following five principles he showed me were critical to my success building Chewy.com and investing.
Watch your expenses
Disciplined capital allocation is one of the most important skills for running a successful business. Thanks to my father, I had the privilege of learning this firsthand. He kept track of every expense —his power bills, daily gasoline prices that impacted transportation costs, the individual prices of hundreds of glassware products that he sold. My father also kept tabs on Chewy’s metrics. He memorized the key performance indicators in both of our businesses.
At Chewy, we had maniacal discipline when it came to how we spent money. The company-wide culture of frugality came from his example. Free cash flow was our unwavering governor of growth. We grew Chewy from $200 million in sales in 2013 to $3.5 billion in 2018 while spending only $130 million in capital, all of which went into opening distribution centers across the country and acquiring new customers.
Delight your customers
My father always repeated this quote from his own father: “If you take a carload of this (pointing to a pallet of glassware) you’ll make more money. But if you take a carload of that (pointing to a different pallet), you’ll make less money, but you’ll keep the customer. So, take a carload of that.”
When we started Chewy in 2011, selling pet food online wasn’t a novel idea. The field was crowded with competitors, including Amazon. But our mission was to delight customers in a more personal way. We believed combining the experience of the neighborhood pet store with the convenience of shopping online was a key differentiator. The focus was fast shipping, competitive pricing and providing customers with a hyper-specialized experience. My father showed me how building lifelong relationships with customers was far more valuable than optimizing for short-term profits.
Be the person others want to follow
My father led by example, but not in a deliberate way. It’s who he was. He never patronized anyone. He admired the blue-collar worker. I watched him roll up his sleeves and help his employees move shipments of glassware from trucks into the warehouse, then put his suit jacket back on, shirt drenched in sweat, and do administrative work. I’ve never seen anyone work harder.
I was fortunate to find employees at Chewy who worked relentlessly to grow the company from a three-person operation to a household brand with more than 10,000 employees. We didn’t disrupt the pet industry by accident. Our team made huge sacrifices. We opened our first fulfillment center in early 2014, and everything from the warehouse management system to the Wi-Fi would constantly break down. The team worked 16-hour days for weeks until our supply chain was humming. Everyone from the fulfillment staff to the directors and executives were committed to Chewy’s success. You don’t get that level of dedication by leading through fear. My father always said, “You catch more bees with honey than with vinegar.”
Take the long view
My father was never looking to make a quick buck. He had no interest in material possessions. Every year, through thick and thin, he invested his savings into the stock market. He believed the real money was made through time in the market, not timing the market. When I was 13, he gave me a chart comparing real estate to stock market returns since the 1920s. Real estate annualized returns were around 4 percent, and the stock market was around 9 percent. It didn’t take long for me to figure out which I preferred. I’ve been investing ever since. My father never invested in any fancy funds or paid management fees. He bought blue chip companies and held them forever. His 20-year annualized stock returns were over 10 percent. He never borrowed money or paid interest.
As we scaled Chewy, many advised us to slow down and raise prices. We disagreed. Key to our success was obsessing over customers and market leadership. Over the long term, customers and profits intersect.
Trust yourself
Entrepreneurs don’t operate with a handbook. My father taught me how to be independent and trust my own moral compass. He encouraged me to separate myself from the herd and think critically. When I told him I had no desire to go to college, he shrugged. Whether he agreed with my decisions or not, he supported me unconditionally. Letting me make my own decisions sowed the seeds for me to become an entrepreneur. The confidence to never compromise my vision of building Chewy into the largest pet retailer came from knowing if I failed, he would always love me.
For 45 years, he was the first employee to open his office and last one to leave. He showed me how perseverance and discipline ultimately pay off. Not only was his work ethic unmatched, so was his commitment to family. He gave me unconditional love and showed me how to be a father. Above all, he taught me that the best decisions come from heart, instincts and empathy.
Dad, I will forever be grateful.
Ryan Cohen is the founder and former CEO of Chewy.com, a company he started when he was 25 years old. In 2017, Cohen made history when he sold Chewy to PetSmart for $3.35 billion in the largest ecommerce deal in history. In 2019, Chewy went public at a valuation of $8.7 billion.

My Xperia 1 iii is just out of warranty (which is frustrating because I've been trying to get it fixed since before the warranty ended but got some bad Intel from CS and a lot of runaround.)
My camera randomly stopped working last year. I was renting a uhaul to move cross country and whipped it out to take pictures of the truck, but it wouldn't focus on anything. Within about a minute the camera completely stopped working. Ever since, I've had the "unknown error" when trying to open any stock camera app. And various other errors (like "camera is in use by another app") with third party apps.
I've tried starting in safe mode. Tried pressing and bending all around the main board and cameras. Factory reset several times. Run all updates. Clear cache and data obviously. Opening directly to front camera doesn't work. QR scan doesn't work. Snapchat. Nothing.
Seems to me that all of the cameras going out at once is not a hardware issue (with the cameras I mean.) And is either software or main board related. But for what... 8 months now? I have periodically tried everything I can find to fix it short of opening it up and nothing has worked. I half suspect a solder issue from the overheating. No local repair shops deal in camera issues. They won't even look at it.
The last time I called Sont Repair Center they quoted me minimum $280 to fix it. The trade-in value is $100. But I really would rather just get the 1 V.
The agent at the repair center mentioned that Sony has been known to offer people special additional trade-in credit for these kinds of issues if it's towards a pre-order of the next device. But I haven't been able to find any evidence of this (or had time to contact support again to ask about it.)
Has anyone here had any experience with such an offer?

Is it normal for a puppy to have some diarrhea after getting her third round of puppy vaccines? It’s afterhours and I ed to know if I need to go to an emergency vet or if we are safe to wait until tomorrow, when my vet’s office opens.
Age: 4 months Breed: Aussiedoodle (mini) Weight: 17lbs
History: Puppy had her second round of shots six weeks ago, at which time she was diagnosed with giardia, given a 5 day course of panacur and probiotics, and was in good health after that, with mostly good poops, between two and four times a day. Issue: She received her third round of shots (including rabies shot) at around 17:00 today. An hour later, around her normal time, she had a normal poop. Then starting at 19:00 she had a very mushy poop, at 20:30 another poop, basically a cow pattie (not green but two shades of brown), and just now at 21:30 she pooped again, just a pool of brown mush.
Is this an emergency or should I wait and see? We gave her some pumpkin at 21:00, and she is now asleep.
Thank you for any help and advice you have!

Hello relationship_advice community. As I read through the posts here, they were immensely helpful but wanted to see if I can get a more personal feedback.
I've met my girlfriend (unsure if she is ex or not as it is in the limbo state) and have been dating for ~6 months.
Around 2 weeks ago, out of nowhere (at least that's why it felt), during the night out at a bar, she said she didn't feel the love for me anymore and said she wants to take time to think about herself. That date was obviously very awkward and I thought she was going to say something about the date, but didn't expect this to hit. She also didn't seem like she was going to spill it at that exact moment (although now I know she probably was thinking about it for awhile). She said she liked my looks, who I am inside and even the intimate / romantic aspect was great. But she said it seemed too perfect and she lost interest. I was stunned and told her that I felt like I accommodated everything for her without really expressing how I felt out of insecurity because I never liked someone this much. I was not myself and was being the "beta" man and she likely lost attraction from me for not being a man. Or i don't know maybe there was something else but that's what I think after thinking through about this. Because it was so sudden we didn't really get a chance to talk, set guidelines on what this "taking a break is" and we went to each other's home. The morning that this happened, we woke up together, cuddled, watched TV and went out for a walk and seemed fine. But the dinner and date after seemed off and awkward though but didn't expect this. She did clarify when we were saying goodbye that this didn't mean it's over and she needed to think.
The next day, reality hit me and I was in serious grief. I texted her the next morning asking her if we can get a chance to talk in person before she makes decision because everything was so sudden I couldn't relay my feelings. She didn't respond. The next day, reached out again but let her know that if she didn't want to talk, I will write her a note on how I feel to not have regrets. She responded that all these messages (i've sent two asking for time to talk, not answer....) are not helping and is making her anxious and unable to breathe. And as of that moment, the answer is a no and with time it may change but she is not sure. She also said that if I was hurting too much i should move on because she doesn't want to hurt me. I responded saying i'm sorry, i care about her and that i will give her space and time. I did not write up a note and send her because i got that she really needed space to her own.
Right after then, I started to not talk to her and give her space. We still followed each other on snapchat and IG and we still looked at them. At first it was hard, but i started to think that this is out of my control, and I really cared for her so wanted to give her what she wanted. I just focused on myself. Going to gym, spending time with friends, working harder professionally.
She seemed like she was seeing friends trying to clear her head and that was fine. I did the same thing. But one day, she made posts on concerts and movies we went together few weeks ago, and I know we had an amazing time there. Maybe she was thinking about me and wanted me to see them? Of course tried to not read too much into it but as a human being, felt kind of hopeful.
Few days later, I had a ticket to a rock concert that she wanted to go which we were planning to go together. I went with my friend and posted pictures of me at the show and the show itself, and she liked those stories. I was bit confused because I thought she wanted time and space. Next day, she also liked my story on going hiking with my friends. I also looked through her snapchat stories and she looked like she was going through a lot of pain, perhaps missing me, posting songs about losing loved one and feeling down, etc. I never posted things to show I was hurt and was focusing on having a good time with friends, going to gym, going for a walk/hike, etc.
Honestly, I felt like she was going through what I was going through in the beginning, thinking about good memories and missing and being worried about loosing someone. But the next day, she started to post stories and posts on very vague things that maybe suggested she is trying to move on. Things like although it hurts I'm focusing on myself. I'm bit worried that she may be trying to move on, or maybe she is just posting those things to feel better, or to show me she is doing better just as I've showed that I was doing better. Obviously I want her to be confident and know her self worth, I care for her, but i feel bit worried that if I take too long, she will move on.
The thing is, I saw the things like "no contact rule" which I logically agree, but I'm not someone who is going to go through that in length. I don't like playing mind games in she will come back in months or maybe year if you truly work on yourself and she sees that she lost you. I get it, but I would rather talk to her and if its over, accept its over and give her the best of luck because I care about her. If she wants to try things again, that's amazing and I'd love that. Also we didn't actually break up. Maybe it was on her side telling me to break up, but I don't think it is as she said it wasn't on that day. Also, I really love her and want to try things again but be more myself this time. We never had any major problems and she agrees. She just lost attraction because I was being too nice, naive and trying to be perfect on paper and that felt fake (and this is true, that wasn't me and even I didn't feel comfortable doing that). I want to do this again and be myself and if it doesn't work out, it is what it is and I can accept that.
I do think the ideal way is to give her bit more time (it's been around 2 weeks now) for her to reach out, not because of "no contact power move she should miss you as much as you do" but because I feel that it is respectful that she comes back after having her time especially after she initiating the "taking break phase". Of course I want her to come back with open heart but even if it is not, I just have to swallow it as I know relationship is not a one way street. But don't get me wrong, I am going through a lot of emotions and it has been hard, but just think this needs to get to some kind of answer soon. I really don't want to do, just move on and ghost away without talking about how we feel or at least felt and saying goodbye and good luck if we need to.
I'm confused on:
- How much longer do I wait? Should I tell her that I've had time to think and wanted to see how much more time she needs? I know best answer is "until she needs and until you can take it" but this has been hard, especially after her social media posts and interactions. I am willing to give her more time if she needs, but after certain point, I will tell her that I need to move on.
- What's in her mind seeing all of my stories and liking stories of me going to concert we were supposed to go together and at the same time posting heartbroken songs and clips? Did she want to reach out but just was too embarrassed or shy to do so after initiating the break and was hinting that I reached out?
Any or all advice / thoughts would be greatly appreciated even if not directly related to two questions above. I love this person and wants to do what is right and do my best to get her back, but also realize that if needed, we need to end things in the right way and move on. That is best thing for me and her who I really love.
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Thank you all. Have a wonderful day.
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P.S. I also have my stuff in her house and her stuff in my house which i assume we need to exchange at some point...
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TLDR: Ex asked for a time to think / take a break, without set guidelines and we didn't get a chance to talk about it. I gave her space but now am confused about her reactions and what the best thing to do.

I've read and pretty much studied quite a bit of Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents and I'm fairly certain my parents shouldn't have had me, nor my sister
my sister has thankfully gotten out and is living with friends having a goodtime with life from what I can tell, she is able to be herself and I love hearing that... But before that? She was an anxious wreck that I could only describe as a terrified animal backed into a corner
I'm gonna keep it as short as I can but I've felt really neglected and have made that clear, not a single response
I want to be defiant, like turn off my phone and go over to a friend house for a day against their wishes when they want me to come with them to church... Of which I openly despise, the bible is full of inconstancy and imo is nowhere near what a "true" Christian should be, and at least the church I go to falls into that inconsistent category, but I'm not here to rant about my parents forcing religion on me
There's a lot of bad shit they've done to me that I've forgotten about until I read that book, I'm furious yet deeply saddened at the same time, why are they like this? Why can't they have a sliver of self awareness and how they actually affect other people?. maybe even realize that other people are human beings with lives too would be great
I want to make it clear I do not want them to interact with me unless they can be anything but toxic about it
I wish I could feel welcomed and could be myself when I get home
I wish I had someone to talk to deeply that was in my home
I wish I could actually mean something other than a trophy to them
Legitimately I don't know what to do but I'm done with this shit, if I don't figure it out before Sunday then in the early morning I'm giving my friend a call and I'm gonna nope out of my house, go to school, and make it clear I don't wanna deal with thier shit (you know maybe then they might give a damn about who I am)
And I swear to God the next time I hear "because I said so I am the adult and you are inferior" I am going to straight up just leave wherever we are and get away, there's not a chance they would actually be able to catch me or restrain me without hitting me with a car or something
I wish I was a human being to them, that's the bare minimum I would appreciate