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How to overcome low self esteem?
2023.04.01 13:12 RedditKingKlay How to overcome low self esteem?
I’m sure this is asked a hundred times an hour hear but I’ll just ask into the void anyway. I’m 21, nearing a respectable degree in school, told I’m well above average in looks, fit, regimental. But at the end of the day I still usually feel like I wont let myself live past 30 before I end it all. I’ve been single my whole life with a smaller but close group of friends from High-school that I never branched out from. What I’m getting at is there are things still missing that I think will help me but I have no drive to seek them since I always just assume its wasted effort. This probably doesn’t tell enough does it?
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2023.04.01 13:02 CommercialTower1156 weird dream
weird dream
this may be random but i dreamt that it was my birthday and celebrated by people (family, boyfriend, and boyfriend’s friends/classmates). I was all glammed up for my boyfriend and my boyfriend told his friend that he regretted cheating on me after seeing how pretty I was. then at night, his other friends told what he said to me right in front of him. I didn’t reacted angry.
Fast forward, all went home, and I was walking around outside my condominium building. this is where i came inside a school that is now closing but i get a chance to wander around inside. upon exiting, i saw a classroom with students and a teacher. I asked the guard “Are they still having class at this hour?” mind you, it was like 10 pm in my dream and the guard said I shouldn’t be joking like that. With that, I left and looked for alternative entrance inside the condominium but it was all closed now. Its like walking along the alley. And then when I finally get to the lobby, I see a baby in a stroller that weirdly looks like me when I was a baby—but this kid has a massive grown women p*bic hair. Nevertheless, I touched the baby’s arm with my index finger and her one eye opened and smiled. After that, I turned my back while still looking at her and proceeded to continue on my way up to my unit. after that, I woke up.
is there a meaning to this?
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this may be random but i dreamt that it was my birthday and celebrated by people (family, boyfriend, and boyfriend’s friends/classmates). I was all glammed up for my boyfriend and my boyfriend told his friend that he regretted cheating on me after seeing how pretty I was. then at night, his other friends told what he said to me right in front of him. I didn’t reacted angry.
Fast forward, all went home, and I was walking around outside my condominium building. this is where i came inside a school that is now closing but i get a chance to wander around inside. upon exiting, i saw a classroom with students and a teacher. I asked the guard “Are they still having class at this hour?” mind you, it was like 10 pm in my dream and the guard said I shouldn’t be joking like that. With that, I left and looked for alternative entrance inside the condominium but it was all closed now. Its like walking along the alley. And then when I finally get to the lobby, I see a baby in a stroller that weirdly looks like me when I was a baby—but this kid has a massive grown women p*bic hair. Nevertheless, I touched the baby’s arm with my index finger and her one eye opened and smiled. After that, I turned my back while still looking at her and proceeded to continue on my way up to my unit. after that, I woke up.
is there a meaning to this?
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2023.04.01 13:01 hElpme10089876543 accidentally killed my cousin, read story for more rabbit holes
2021, my cousin (age 12) died because of heart attack. I remember that day ago, we we're playing on our gadgets. In his funeral, i remember his gadget having a full universe about things. After the funeral, i asked her mother to get some time to handle his gadgets because they are gonna purposefully burn all of his things (family tradition) to erase his existence and move on easily. His mother het me do it, so i searched up on his tablet.
First, i go on his youtube, saw that he dont have any youtube videos, like its just his pfp. I go to search more on his tablet, i saw a note on his notes app saying some code:
12116201516
81184 4189225
i decided to research about this 'cipher' and found out its was that basic number to alphebet cipher.
laptop
hard drive
when i finally know it, i rushed to their house (prob 2 blocks away from us) and got permission to get my cousins laptop, my dad is a technician, told him to get the hard drive and get the data and put it on a computer, i sincerely sacrificed mine to use. 2 hours later, my dad finally have put the hard drive on the computer, i realized i did a waste because the hard drive of my computer is just removed and will be put on later, i stored all data to my usb, then told my dad to put the original hard drive to it again, another 2 hours (i think), i finally got access to the data, searched on it, saw a folder named:
851216
another cipher, the same as the one earlier;
help
without knowing that name, i opened the folder, but it was actually locked by bitlocker. I moved it on my desktop (since it was in the flie exlporer) and decided to leave it. Saw another folder, named:
2052420
another cipher, this time i had the code printed and in my wall, so i easily decoded it:
text
opened the folder, theres two folders,
one named "d1514t"
and one named "15p514"
noticed 1,5,1,4 is repeating, so i tried every cipher possible and found out it was amix of word and that cipher earlier.
"dont"
"open"
decided to open "open", saw a notepad, opened it and realized it was his journal. Heres the text (i have it on my usb, stored on a folder named "cousin's storage").
2021, May 14.
Our school is so close to end, like bro. I wanted to go on the beach, not sacrificing my white tone skin!!!!!!, but anyway, i got bullied again and got detention for a thing i didnt do. I think thats all for t- wait, out meal was sooo good, i just come to forget the name, ok i gotta sleep, my parents would ground me again for such a simple thing HAHAHA.
2021, May 15
YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! finally, it is my time to chill.
We visited my cousins house, his room is sooo messy.
2021, May 18
why do he have to do that? my right eye is now blind, all of my friends have been laughing on me. I know this a joke, but why do he have to do it? i could have just stabbed my own 2 hands, in that case, i will still be ok. I feel so depressed.
2021, May 27
how come do they think im overthinking? All students in the school are bullying me, as well as my parents, they think im just a little too off. Are they dumb? Cant they see? i've been suffering for 2 weeks. I hope he is not awake forever.
why do they have to do this to me.?
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May 27, struck me. What? I asked my mom about the thing he wrote in his journal, my mom said that, were playing on my room on may 15, i accidentally stabbed him, and then he throws the game case holder on me, with the games, i got unconsious, they both drove us to hospital, i got a coma (serious skull damage) he got blind on his right eye. After that night, got an nightmare of me, actually stabbing him on the eye, and then, woke up. I tried to go on the data the last time, i saw a notepad text, named "LOL", i go through it and saw this:
LOL, i just broke my cousins party, that will be his BEST BIRTHDAY LOL
Finally knew the story. After the night, i sincerely tell my family if they forgive me about what i have done to my cousin, because its my fault, and they did, he is peaceful now and we can forgive each other of what we did to him. My dad burned the whole data (that cousin's storage in my usb is just the notepads) and i cried looking at it in the balcony.
What thing that haunts me 'till this day is what the "dont" and the bitlocked file has.
We have moved to a far house from them, me is still depressed, now 14 years old, i could have stopped the whole things from happening is if i didnt do a prank on his crush on his birthday.
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First, i go on his youtube, saw that he dont have any youtube videos, like its just his pfp. I go to search more on his tablet, i saw a note on his notes app saying some code:
12116201516
81184 4189225
i decided to research about this 'cipher' and found out its was that basic number to alphebet cipher.
laptop
hard drive
when i finally know it, i rushed to their house (prob 2 blocks away from us) and got permission to get my cousins laptop, my dad is a technician, told him to get the hard drive and get the data and put it on a computer, i sincerely sacrificed mine to use. 2 hours later, my dad finally have put the hard drive on the computer, i realized i did a waste because the hard drive of my computer is just removed and will be put on later, i stored all data to my usb, then told my dad to put the original hard drive to it again, another 2 hours (i think), i finally got access to the data, searched on it, saw a folder named:
851216
another cipher, the same as the one earlier;
help
without knowing that name, i opened the folder, but it was actually locked by bitlocker. I moved it on my desktop (since it was in the flie exlporer) and decided to leave it. Saw another folder, named:
2052420
another cipher, this time i had the code printed and in my wall, so i easily decoded it:
text
opened the folder, theres two folders,
one named "d1514t"
and one named "15p514"
noticed 1,5,1,4 is repeating, so i tried every cipher possible and found out it was amix of word and that cipher earlier.
"dont"
"open"
decided to open "open", saw a notepad, opened it and realized it was his journal. Heres the text (i have it on my usb, stored on a folder named "cousin's storage").
2021, May 14.
Our school is so close to end, like bro. I wanted to go on the beach, not sacrificing my white tone skin!!!!!!, but anyway, i got bullied again and got detention for a thing i didnt do. I think thats all for t- wait, out meal was sooo good, i just come to forget the name, ok i gotta sleep, my parents would ground me again for such a simple thing HAHAHA.
2021, May 15
YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! finally, it is my time to chill.
We visited my cousins house, his room is sooo messy.
2021, May 18
why do he have to do that? my right eye is now blind, all of my friends have been laughing on me. I know this a joke, but why do he have to do it? i could have just stabbed my own 2 hands, in that case, i will still be ok. I feel so depressed.
2021, May 27
how come do they think im overthinking? All students in the school are bullying me, as well as my parents, they think im just a little too off. Are they dumb? Cant they see? i've been suffering for 2 weeks. I hope he is not awake forever.
why do they have to do this to me.?
---------------------------------------------------------------
May 27, struck me. What? I asked my mom about the thing he wrote in his journal, my mom said that, were playing on my room on may 15, i accidentally stabbed him, and then he throws the game case holder on me, with the games, i got unconsious, they both drove us to hospital, i got a coma (serious skull damage) he got blind on his right eye. After that night, got an nightmare of me, actually stabbing him on the eye, and then, woke up. I tried to go on the data the last time, i saw a notepad text, named "LOL", i go through it and saw this:
LOL, i just broke my cousins party, that will be his BEST BIRTHDAY LOL
Finally knew the story. After the night, i sincerely tell my family if they forgive me about what i have done to my cousin, because its my fault, and they did, he is peaceful now and we can forgive each other of what we did to him. My dad burned the whole data (that cousin's storage in my usb is just the notepads) and i cried looking at it in the balcony.
What thing that haunts me 'till this day is what the "dont" and the bitlocked file has.
We have moved to a far house from them, me is still depressed, now 14 years old, i could have stopped the whole things from happening is if i didnt do a prank on his crush on his birthday.
2023.04.01 13:01 CommercialTower1156 please interpret
weird dream
this may be random but i dreamt that it was my birthday and celebrated by people (family, boyfriend, and boyfriend’s friends/classmates). I was all glammed up for my boyfriend and my boyfriend told his friend that he regretted cheating on me after seeing how pretty I was. then at night, his other friends told what he said to me right in front of him. I didn’t reacted angry.
Fast forward, all went home, and I was walking around outside my condominium building. this is where i came inside a school that is now closing but i get a chance to wander around inside. upon exiting, i saw a classroom with students and a teacher. I asked the guard “Are they still having class at this hour?” mind you, it was like 10 pm in my dream and the guard said I shouldn’t be joking like that. With that, I left and looked for alternative entrance inside the condominium but it was all closed now. Its like walking along the alley. And then when I finally get to the lobby, I see a baby in a stroller that weirdly looks like me when I was a baby—but this kid has a massive grown women p*bic hair. Nevertheless, I touched the baby’s arm with my index finger and her one eye opened. after that, I woke up.
is there a meaning to this?
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this may be random but i dreamt that it was my birthday and celebrated by people (family, boyfriend, and boyfriend’s friends/classmates). I was all glammed up for my boyfriend and my boyfriend told his friend that he regretted cheating on me after seeing how pretty I was. then at night, his other friends told what he said to me right in front of him. I didn’t reacted angry.
Fast forward, all went home, and I was walking around outside my condominium building. this is where i came inside a school that is now closing but i get a chance to wander around inside. upon exiting, i saw a classroom with students and a teacher. I asked the guard “Are they still having class at this hour?” mind you, it was like 10 pm in my dream and the guard said I shouldn’t be joking like that. With that, I left and looked for alternative entrance inside the condominium but it was all closed now. Its like walking along the alley. And then when I finally get to the lobby, I see a baby in a stroller that weirdly looks like me when I was a baby—but this kid has a massive grown women p*bic hair. Nevertheless, I touched the baby’s arm with my index finger and her one eye opened. after that, I woke up.
is there a meaning to this?
2023.04.01 12:55 ThrowRa_aja Advice are much appreciated 18m, 20f
My very first relationship ever, me (18m) and with my (20f)
My first relationship in this life, my first experience in love just ended last night. We have been together in 8 months things were going great, we are actually getting more deeper in the relationship. Just recently at the start of the month (March) we had a conflict, its was about a cheating issue from me with my a friend from school that I'm not really too close with, but we did talked about some things. Me from my perspective I did not cheat, but i was being friendly in her in chat, I showed her everything we talked about online. she said that it was cheating,. I haven't talked to her about the people, friends in school. i always told her that I'am mostly alone, yes this is true. I lied a bit of not having friends in school because i dont feel like i will have a deeper connection with this people and also i thought that they are not really important people to talk about my gf.i approached casually a girl that is my only a friend, and i lied a bit of not having friends in school. I know to myself that i did not cheat, seeking other girl never came in my mind, but lying can also be considered a form of cheating right.
The conflict started at the start of March this yea, i have been trying to keep things together until last night. We talked, i explained parts of the conversation online with my classmate that is a girl. There is a part of the conversation where im asking the girl how is she because she has been silent in our groupchat, my gf asked why im asking the girl how is she. I explain to her that the same day in the group chat, everyone was worried of her the girl being silent so she(gf) gave me bet if what i said is true we will continue the relationship, if not true we will end it right now. So she said show me that in the group chat where everyone is talking about our friend that is a girl being worried for being silent, i agreed in the bet.
But i lost the bet, the one i'm talking about happened in the different day. I was talking about the wrong day. HVRGRGVUWEBEFWQUB *keyboard noise*. and so the relationship ended, i know i did not cheat on this girl, and iam never got interested in my friend in school in any way.
We are in the same circle of friends with my gf, i have known and met my gf since 2018,we just recently started. in our friends eyes Im a liar, lowly cheater. honestly im not worried or i dont even care about that much. what im worried is her condition (gf) she is tired in life,in the past she had suicide attempts, im worried, if she can do that in the past she still can today. She is tired, she is mentally unstableand needs a break from life, i realized that im still a kid and im not giving her that peace in her mind. i accepted what happened. i just wish her to be alright, to live and to treasure her life.
A part of me still wants her back but a bet is a Bet. im not mad on anyone but to myself only. i dont know how to face her if i'll see her again somewhere. Any advice on moving forward
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My first relationship in this life, my first experience in love just ended last night. We have been together in 8 months things were going great, we are actually getting more deeper in the relationship. Just recently at the start of the month (March) we had a conflict, its was about a cheating issue from me with my a friend from school that I'm not really too close with, but we did talked about some things. Me from my perspective I did not cheat, but i was being friendly in her in chat, I showed her everything we talked about online. she said that it was cheating,. I haven't talked to her about the people, friends in school. i always told her that I'am mostly alone, yes this is true. I lied a bit of not having friends in school because i dont feel like i will have a deeper connection with this people and also i thought that they are not really important people to talk about my gf.i approached casually a girl that is my only a friend, and i lied a bit of not having friends in school. I know to myself that i did not cheat, seeking other girl never came in my mind, but lying can also be considered a form of cheating right.
The conflict started at the start of March this yea, i have been trying to keep things together until last night. We talked, i explained parts of the conversation online with my classmate that is a girl. There is a part of the conversation where im asking the girl how is she because she has been silent in our groupchat, my gf asked why im asking the girl how is she. I explain to her that the same day in the group chat, everyone was worried of her the girl being silent so she(gf) gave me bet if what i said is true we will continue the relationship, if not true we will end it right now. So she said show me that in the group chat where everyone is talking about our friend that is a girl being worried for being silent, i agreed in the bet.
But i lost the bet, the one i'm talking about happened in the different day. I was talking about the wrong day. HVRGRGVUWEBEFWQUB *keyboard noise*. and so the relationship ended, i know i did not cheat on this girl, and iam never got interested in my friend in school in any way.
We are in the same circle of friends with my gf, i have known and met my gf since 2018,we just recently started. in our friends eyes Im a liar, lowly cheater. honestly im not worried or i dont even care about that much. what im worried is her condition (gf) she is tired in life,in the past she had suicide attempts, im worried, if she can do that in the past she still can today. She is tired, she is mentally unstableand needs a break from life, i realized that im still a kid and im not giving her that peace in her mind. i accepted what happened. i just wish her to be alright, to live and to treasure her life.
A part of me still wants her back but a bet is a Bet. im not mad on anyone but to myself only. i dont know how to face her if i'll see her again somewhere. Any advice on moving forward
2023.04.01 12:53 RevolutionaryFocus23 my parents are getting divorced and it’s messy, advice ?
my parents (44f, 43m) are getting divorced and my mom is making it incredibly difficult for everyone. also i’m apologizing in advance is 5:30am and i haven’t slept so it’s not gonna be worded the best this is also my first post i didn’t know where else to go :,)
i (19f) have two siblings (18f and 13m) my sister is heavily autistic and my brother is a trouble maker, he’s already been arrested before. my parents started their divorce because my mom cheated on my dad right after i graduated high school. now my family has never been the picture perfect family but it was okay, now my dad lives in california (we live in florida for context) he originally moved because of a job offer he couldn’t pass up, he was only supposed to be there for three months but decided to stay indefinitely. i used to be really close to my mom but after i found out how my dad found everything out i lost all respect for her .
(i apologize for all the details but i have no one else to tell, she sent nudes to someone and ended up getting black mailed out of 500 dollars she took from my dad) now my mom is acting like she’s 20 and has no responsibilities, my dad pays for everything, the house in fl, his rv in cali, groceries for my siblings and i because my mom refuses, the power, water, wifi, literally everything. she has a nice car and doesn’t even pay for that, though she’s supposed to. i’ve only called her out on this once, i told her she’s acting like she figured out 20 years too late she didn’t want kids. she’s always at her boyfriends house. she’s never home anymore, and when she is she only is for the night and is gone in the morning. my dad is constantly upset because he hates that my siblings and i have to go through this.
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i (19f) have two siblings (18f and 13m) my sister is heavily autistic and my brother is a trouble maker, he’s already been arrested before. my parents started their divorce because my mom cheated on my dad right after i graduated high school. now my family has never been the picture perfect family but it was okay, now my dad lives in california (we live in florida for context) he originally moved because of a job offer he couldn’t pass up, he was only supposed to be there for three months but decided to stay indefinitely. i used to be really close to my mom but after i found out how my dad found everything out i lost all respect for her .
(i apologize for all the details but i have no one else to tell, she sent nudes to someone and ended up getting black mailed out of 500 dollars she took from my dad) now my mom is acting like she’s 20 and has no responsibilities, my dad pays for everything, the house in fl, his rv in cali, groceries for my siblings and i because my mom refuses, the power, water, wifi, literally everything. she has a nice car and doesn’t even pay for that, though she’s supposed to. i’ve only called her out on this once, i told her she’s acting like she figured out 20 years too late she didn’t want kids. she’s always at her boyfriends house. she’s never home anymore, and when she is she only is for the night and is gone in the morning. my dad is constantly upset because he hates that my siblings and i have to go through this.
he’s offered for me to move in with him in cali so i have better options college wise and i’m seriously considering it. my only issue is my life here, i have a long term bf i’m very serious about and my best friend of 5 years i don’t know if i could live without. i hate living with my mom but she won’t let me get my license, she won’t let me get a job, so i can’t even save up to move out because she doesn’t want me to leave and lose her free babysitter. on the days i don’t see my bf i rot in my room and play video games. i don’t know what to do, i’m so stressed i really could use some advice. i’ll answer any questions, thank you for reading this i hope you have a nice day/night
2023.04.01 12:52 spaceswiftie Sigh...
Backstory: an allosexual guy started hitting on me very quickly after a few days of meeting, and I at first gave it a chance because he seemed sweet and I thought we could get to know each other and be friends, but now I'm put off by the pace he's setting and don't want anything to happen anymore. Besides, I don't have any energy for relationships and need to focus on my life. (see my previous post for more context)
It's more of a vent, I guess. I started getting anxiety attacks because of the whole situation, but more so because of realising how the world isn't built for demi people at all.
So, me and this guy (he's from the language classes I just started to attend) went on one date after he dm'd me and asked me out. In retrospect, he was a bit insistent on going to a bar and smoking shisha, which I'm not a big fan of, as I like to get to know someone better and just go for a walk or a coffee and have conversations, but decided to agree and be open-minded. He also asked me to come to the station close to his place, and even before the first date he was inviting me to hang out at his place. I was a bit wary of that as I think guys should understand that not every girl finds it safe to come over, especially since I'm in a foreign country and have just moved there and barely know anyone.
On a date, he seemed chill and didn't make romantic advances, which I appreciated. I decided to trust him and mentioned I like to take things slow, and opened up about my previous experiences (in one I was pressured into going too fast with someone I barely knew, and then the other was my close friend but it started quickly and burned out just as quickly as I discovered they're far from as great as I imagined them). The last one was a queer relationship too so I told him I was bi to potentially weed out a homophobe (I now live in a rather lgbtq+ friendly country but I come from a conservative background so I'm still a bit careful with sharing this). He seemed to react well, I was even happy that he doesn't seem to be homophobic, and seems understanding of my boundaries, as I mentioned I don't like to be pressured and rushed. I also mentioned to him that my close family member died recently, and thought he'd understand it's not a good time for me with romantic stuff.
This week at the course we only exchanged a few words, admittedly I was feeling a bit awkward and overwhelmed with my own problems and was avoiding him as much as I can, but there's not much time to talk between classes anyway and I decided it is necessary for me to not get distracted and focus on learning the language.
Friday evening, I'm going home and he messages with the offer to go to his place and smoke the damn shisha and have "netflix and chill". I say I'm going home and want to lie in, as I was having an third anxiety attack this week and needed to calm down. He says "that's fine we can do tomorrow". I get a bit annoyed but say I can't because I'm not doing well mentally and am going to lie down all weekend. He says "I understand" but idk if he really understands. I would have been more direct with him if it wasn't for the course we're both attending, it already stresses me out as there's a few more weeks of it and I don't want any awkwardness. I know there's "nice guys" who don't take rejection well, and he doesn't seem like he's one of them, but who knows.
It's just so upsetting that you tell all these things to the person and they seem to be understanding but still are actively trying to get into your pants and probably taking advantage of you. I was even considering giving in but I'd be so disappointed with myself if I did, it's like going against all my principles. I can't even blame him because the allosexual culture is strong and he may assume girls immediately want to sleep with him. And an allo girl probably would, because he's attractive, but I need a much deeper connection for this. Now I feel guilty that I hurt the guy by rejecting his offer, even though we're just incompatible.
Also some older relatives and my neighbor who see relationships in a very shallow way say I'm stupid for having principles and standards, and act like my only goal in life should be to find a husband and make babies. This makes me feel like there's something fundamentally wrong with me and that perhaps I should be giving in to whatever a guy wants to do, even though I've been getting better at establishing boundaries and proud of myself for it.
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It's more of a vent, I guess. I started getting anxiety attacks because of the whole situation, but more so because of realising how the world isn't built for demi people at all.
So, me and this guy (he's from the language classes I just started to attend) went on one date after he dm'd me and asked me out. In retrospect, he was a bit insistent on going to a bar and smoking shisha, which I'm not a big fan of, as I like to get to know someone better and just go for a walk or a coffee and have conversations, but decided to agree and be open-minded. He also asked me to come to the station close to his place, and even before the first date he was inviting me to hang out at his place. I was a bit wary of that as I think guys should understand that not every girl finds it safe to come over, especially since I'm in a foreign country and have just moved there and barely know anyone.
On a date, he seemed chill and didn't make romantic advances, which I appreciated. I decided to trust him and mentioned I like to take things slow, and opened up about my previous experiences (in one I was pressured into going too fast with someone I barely knew, and then the other was my close friend but it started quickly and burned out just as quickly as I discovered they're far from as great as I imagined them). The last one was a queer relationship too so I told him I was bi to potentially weed out a homophobe (I now live in a rather lgbtq+ friendly country but I come from a conservative background so I'm still a bit careful with sharing this). He seemed to react well, I was even happy that he doesn't seem to be homophobic, and seems understanding of my boundaries, as I mentioned I don't like to be pressured and rushed. I also mentioned to him that my close family member died recently, and thought he'd understand it's not a good time for me with romantic stuff.
This week at the course we only exchanged a few words, admittedly I was feeling a bit awkward and overwhelmed with my own problems and was avoiding him as much as I can, but there's not much time to talk between classes anyway and I decided it is necessary for me to not get distracted and focus on learning the language.
Friday evening, I'm going home and he messages with the offer to go to his place and smoke the damn shisha and have "netflix and chill". I say I'm going home and want to lie in, as I was having an third anxiety attack this week and needed to calm down. He says "that's fine we can do tomorrow". I get a bit annoyed but say I can't because I'm not doing well mentally and am going to lie down all weekend. He says "I understand" but idk if he really understands. I would have been more direct with him if it wasn't for the course we're both attending, it already stresses me out as there's a few more weeks of it and I don't want any awkwardness. I know there's "nice guys" who don't take rejection well, and he doesn't seem like he's one of them, but who knows.
It's just so upsetting that you tell all these things to the person and they seem to be understanding but still are actively trying to get into your pants and probably taking advantage of you. I was even considering giving in but I'd be so disappointed with myself if I did, it's like going against all my principles. I can't even blame him because the allosexual culture is strong and he may assume girls immediately want to sleep with him. And an allo girl probably would, because he's attractive, but I need a much deeper connection for this. Now I feel guilty that I hurt the guy by rejecting his offer, even though we're just incompatible.
Also some older relatives and my neighbor who see relationships in a very shallow way say I'm stupid for having principles and standards, and act like my only goal in life should be to find a husband and make babies. This makes me feel like there's something fundamentally wrong with me and that perhaps I should be giving in to whatever a guy wants to do, even though I've been getting better at establishing boundaries and proud of myself for it.
2023.04.01 12:50 iplatinumedeldenring I didn’t find anybody in college
I’m (21f) taking my last classes right now and preparing for my internship, maybe grad school (fully online), and graduation. I’ve been at the same university for four years, but I’d taken some dual enrollment during high school and was a guest student at a community college during last summer to knock out some gen ed requirements. I’ve had 5 boyfriends my entire life, but I’ve seen other people and some of them were close to getting serious. Most recently, an almost serious one ended and there’s less than one month of classes left. My entire life, especially through middle and high school, I was told “you’ll meet somebody in college!” “don’t worry, there’ll be someone at your college for you.” I don’t know if I’m looking for advice or sympathy, but I feel like I’m never going to find anyone. I’m agoraphobic, germaphobic, and from a small town without resources to leave so my only option to meet anyone would be work and that is something that I consider to be unprofessional for myself (dating apps are hard as a demisexual person). The world, and economy, wasn’t designed for me to walk life alone but I fear that I’m going to.
tl;dr college student who didn’t find SO in college
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2023.04.01 12:48 TheFallenWater AITA for not wanting to talk (and connect) with my family?
Before beginning this whole text of a heckhole, I want to mention: I am aware that I am the bad guy to an extent.
I think I want to start this whole ordeal from the beginning. I (20 F) am a second-year university student, studying an asian language. I was born in the capital city of our country and most of the closest maternal family members live there as well. Due to my paternal family living 2,5 hours away, and my father wanting to help them out, we moved to the countryside where my brother (18) was born.
I remember that around the time my brother was about to be born, I think I felt neglected and there are stories about me getting jelous over stuff with him, which also continued well into our teenager years. That's not particularly important, but I wanted to mention this, because the feeling of jelousy also came from the neglect that I might have gotten from my parents. My father wanted to have kids but he didn't really tend to us physically, nor mentally. I understand that there are people who just can't deal with kids and their world, the way they keep talking etc. Around the time my brother was born, my father went abroad to work there, and continued to come home every weekend. Due to the language barrier, which he continuously tried to close, he didn't have much of a patience. My mother had a very deep depression after my brother was born, which came down to me, a very outspoken little girl being quite annoying. My first trauma might have come from that, and also, my father didn't even try to help my mother get out of depression as far as I'm concerned, only my maternal parents (who moved with us to the countryside) were taking care of her.
Either way, I always felt that my brother got everything he asked for, while I always had to work really hard and even then I was always reprimanded that I have to take care of my brother while our parents are away (me 5-8, my brother 3-6), have to grow up, have responsibility towards my actions. Due to this I always felt like I wasn't really able to understand and get into the fun groups of my peers.
Backing up a bit, we had the old school discipline, slaps sometimes, verbal abuse sometimes, but the main things that I remember are stuff like: I was around 4-7 and wanted to play with my father. He said no multiple times but I really just wanted to connect with him and play. After maybe the 3-6th no, he got really mad and he shouted at me to get out he didn't want to play. Another time was when my mother asked me to give our dog (house with big garden, so dog lived outside) fresh water, but instructed me that the season being winter, I have to get the ice out with warm water and then give the dog a not so cold, nor warm water (maybe?). Either way, I did it the good way, however my father was outside the whole time, when I just finished changing the water he got there, misunderstood the whole situation and slapped me saying "what are you giving to the dog" or something along the line. A couple of seconds later I somehow communicated to him that I did it the right way so...yea.
I wanted to be fun to be with, to make lasting relationships, to be important to others. That's why at the age of 10-13 I got into a group of girls with whom I spent my time, etc, and also on whom I spent money. Foolish, yes, but I was desperate and wanted affection and appreciation. Someday I just realized that those same girls were whispering about me and blatantly looking at me while doing so. I became really sad and mad, which escalated into a shorter period of depression. (I have been going to therapy for another thing in the past 2 years, but recently my psychologist made me do a test about depression, so yes, the result came out pretty high which made me realise that even that event and before that I had some sort of depression, I/we just didn't realise that)
My mother was the first one to notice something was wrong and made my father (with whom I really didn't want to speak) give me a speech about how I should never think of myself as nothing and that I should just study and get better than everyone else. This was in 7th grade. That speech gave me motivation and my grades became much much better, I got into my desired high school, after which came uni. No, that experience of bullying was not in the least good, but without it I wouldn't be here, where I am.
Putting that aside, I wasn't really allowed to go to my classmates' parties etc, but I was almost fine with these during primary school. Getting into high school, I became friends with two groups of girls and I really enjoyed my time there. However my private life, my parents relationship to be precise, got worse. They argued a lot and in 10th grade, one night I was going to shower, my brother was locked up in his room, while our parents were arguing in the kitchen. I was already crying but I suddenly heard a thud, picked up a towel and finally went out to a scene where my mother was sitting, crying, my father standing next to her, one of his hands holding hers, the other one just up in the air as if trying to hit. I shouted to stop, my brother rushed out of his room the same time I did from the bathroom. It took a couple of seconds but my father finally looked at us and I swear I could see a kind of cloud getting out of his eyes. I mean I almost saw the rage cloud... I don't remember what exactly happened after that but that was one of the scariest things I have ever witnessed in real life.
Another major thing before getting into the present is that, (I am a summer child) I was 16, when 5 of us, all girls thought about going to the beach for one day. There's a lake around 1-2 hours away with train, we would have just gone for 6 hours at most. I asked my mom (nail artist) and her client where it would be allright to go, since out of 5 of us, it was only my father who maybe wouldn't have allowed me to go. My mother actually wanted to rush me out and just go, she was so happy haha. So everything was set, now I just had to call my father up and ask him so I did. He said that "I know you are a cool, strong girl, I believe in you but I think we should wait until you are 17" (literally 1,5 month away. I said okay, but later he said no again. I got over it pretty quickly but after about a month my mother told me that he actually called her up how it would be bad, what if I got a boyfriend, got pregnant and ruined my whole career and life, etc. She has been fuming for a while, but after knowing this, I immediately became even more reluctant of wanting to just not talk, interact with my father in any sort of way. Basically not even be near him. Nothing.
Fast forward, it was the week of exams, I got sick, so couldn't attend the math exam, so I had panic attacks wich stayed (and stay) with me for a long time after that. My father basically didn't even care, thought it was nothing, etc. But in the end, I graduated, it was all fine.
I moved to the capital for my studies and finally felt... Alive? Definitely a bit safer and much free than before. Like a dog finally getting out of leash haha
Depression and anxiety have been with me since childhood, but this time it got the best of me so the first semester of uni is the one I'm not very proud of. Didn't attend much of the classes, didn't study, and so on.
Now I'm in my fourth semester, my parents decided on buying an apartment near a bigger train station so that me and 2 other girls could live here. Since it's not yet complete, only I live here, but even though I live near the station, even the university is 30 minutes of transportation away, I do not under any circumstances want to go home. I'm an introvert, to be honest, I don't even have the motivation and energy to go to university sometimes. I do go, and I enjoy it very much, but I feel like I'm a huge failure of a human, can't study, I'm not fun to be with and so on. The exams, the stuff we have to learn and the homeworks are just so much I can barely keep up. Finally I managed to create a fairly good schedule when to do homeworks, relax a bit etc, but all I care about is the university with the homeworks because that's everything I have energy for.
I forget calling my parents, and to be honest, I don't want to talk with them because i feel like if I do, I always get back into the controlled situation. I get nervous, and even with my mother and brother I get very awkward.
To sum it up, I didn't have a normal childhood, always had to take responsibility and my subconscious just wants to live through that phase now. I want to be free, call my relatives when I feel I have enough energy for them and aside from that, just live life. But this "not even having a conversation" situation is why my parents say I'm a brat, unfaithful and so on. Yes, I have been brat like for a long time, that is true.
(Sorry for the long story!!)
Am I The [email protected]?
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I think I want to start this whole ordeal from the beginning. I (20 F) am a second-year university student, studying an asian language. I was born in the capital city of our country and most of the closest maternal family members live there as well. Due to my paternal family living 2,5 hours away, and my father wanting to help them out, we moved to the countryside where my brother (18) was born.
I remember that around the time my brother was about to be born, I think I felt neglected and there are stories about me getting jelous over stuff with him, which also continued well into our teenager years. That's not particularly important, but I wanted to mention this, because the feeling of jelousy also came from the neglect that I might have gotten from my parents. My father wanted to have kids but he didn't really tend to us physically, nor mentally. I understand that there are people who just can't deal with kids and their world, the way they keep talking etc. Around the time my brother was born, my father went abroad to work there, and continued to come home every weekend. Due to the language barrier, which he continuously tried to close, he didn't have much of a patience. My mother had a very deep depression after my brother was born, which came down to me, a very outspoken little girl being quite annoying. My first trauma might have come from that, and also, my father didn't even try to help my mother get out of depression as far as I'm concerned, only my maternal parents (who moved with us to the countryside) were taking care of her.
Either way, I always felt that my brother got everything he asked for, while I always had to work really hard and even then I was always reprimanded that I have to take care of my brother while our parents are away (me 5-8, my brother 3-6), have to grow up, have responsibility towards my actions. Due to this I always felt like I wasn't really able to understand and get into the fun groups of my peers.
Backing up a bit, we had the old school discipline, slaps sometimes, verbal abuse sometimes, but the main things that I remember are stuff like: I was around 4-7 and wanted to play with my father. He said no multiple times but I really just wanted to connect with him and play. After maybe the 3-6th no, he got really mad and he shouted at me to get out he didn't want to play. Another time was when my mother asked me to give our dog (house with big garden, so dog lived outside) fresh water, but instructed me that the season being winter, I have to get the ice out with warm water and then give the dog a not so cold, nor warm water (maybe?). Either way, I did it the good way, however my father was outside the whole time, when I just finished changing the water he got there, misunderstood the whole situation and slapped me saying "what are you giving to the dog" or something along the line. A couple of seconds later I somehow communicated to him that I did it the right way so...yea.
I wanted to be fun to be with, to make lasting relationships, to be important to others. That's why at the age of 10-13 I got into a group of girls with whom I spent my time, etc, and also on whom I spent money. Foolish, yes, but I was desperate and wanted affection and appreciation. Someday I just realized that those same girls were whispering about me and blatantly looking at me while doing so. I became really sad and mad, which escalated into a shorter period of depression. (I have been going to therapy for another thing in the past 2 years, but recently my psychologist made me do a test about depression, so yes, the result came out pretty high which made me realise that even that event and before that I had some sort of depression, I/we just didn't realise that)
My mother was the first one to notice something was wrong and made my father (with whom I really didn't want to speak) give me a speech about how I should never think of myself as nothing and that I should just study and get better than everyone else. This was in 7th grade. That speech gave me motivation and my grades became much much better, I got into my desired high school, after which came uni. No, that experience of bullying was not in the least good, but without it I wouldn't be here, where I am.
Putting that aside, I wasn't really allowed to go to my classmates' parties etc, but I was almost fine with these during primary school. Getting into high school, I became friends with two groups of girls and I really enjoyed my time there. However my private life, my parents relationship to be precise, got worse. They argued a lot and in 10th grade, one night I was going to shower, my brother was locked up in his room, while our parents were arguing in the kitchen. I was already crying but I suddenly heard a thud, picked up a towel and finally went out to a scene where my mother was sitting, crying, my father standing next to her, one of his hands holding hers, the other one just up in the air as if trying to hit. I shouted to stop, my brother rushed out of his room the same time I did from the bathroom. It took a couple of seconds but my father finally looked at us and I swear I could see a kind of cloud getting out of his eyes. I mean I almost saw the rage cloud... I don't remember what exactly happened after that but that was one of the scariest things I have ever witnessed in real life.
Another major thing before getting into the present is that, (I am a summer child) I was 16, when 5 of us, all girls thought about going to the beach for one day. There's a lake around 1-2 hours away with train, we would have just gone for 6 hours at most. I asked my mom (nail artist) and her client where it would be allright to go, since out of 5 of us, it was only my father who maybe wouldn't have allowed me to go. My mother actually wanted to rush me out and just go, she was so happy haha. So everything was set, now I just had to call my father up and ask him so I did. He said that "I know you are a cool, strong girl, I believe in you but I think we should wait until you are 17" (literally 1,5 month away. I said okay, but later he said no again. I got over it pretty quickly but after about a month my mother told me that he actually called her up how it would be bad, what if I got a boyfriend, got pregnant and ruined my whole career and life, etc. She has been fuming for a while, but after knowing this, I immediately became even more reluctant of wanting to just not talk, interact with my father in any sort of way. Basically not even be near him. Nothing.
Fast forward, it was the week of exams, I got sick, so couldn't attend the math exam, so I had panic attacks wich stayed (and stay) with me for a long time after that. My father basically didn't even care, thought it was nothing, etc. But in the end, I graduated, it was all fine.
I moved to the capital for my studies and finally felt... Alive? Definitely a bit safer and much free than before. Like a dog finally getting out of leash haha
Depression and anxiety have been with me since childhood, but this time it got the best of me so the first semester of uni is the one I'm not very proud of. Didn't attend much of the classes, didn't study, and so on.
Now I'm in my fourth semester, my parents decided on buying an apartment near a bigger train station so that me and 2 other girls could live here. Since it's not yet complete, only I live here, but even though I live near the station, even the university is 30 minutes of transportation away, I do not under any circumstances want to go home. I'm an introvert, to be honest, I don't even have the motivation and energy to go to university sometimes. I do go, and I enjoy it very much, but I feel like I'm a huge failure of a human, can't study, I'm not fun to be with and so on. The exams, the stuff we have to learn and the homeworks are just so much I can barely keep up. Finally I managed to create a fairly good schedule when to do homeworks, relax a bit etc, but all I care about is the university with the homeworks because that's everything I have energy for.
I forget calling my parents, and to be honest, I don't want to talk with them because i feel like if I do, I always get back into the controlled situation. I get nervous, and even with my mother and brother I get very awkward.
To sum it up, I didn't have a normal childhood, always had to take responsibility and my subconscious just wants to live through that phase now. I want to be free, call my relatives when I feel I have enough energy for them and aside from that, just live life. But this "not even having a conversation" situation is why my parents say I'm a brat, unfaithful and so on. Yes, I have been brat like for a long time, that is true.
(Sorry for the long story!!)
Am I The [email protected]?
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2023.04.01 12:35 moondog151 "The Huang Yanqiu Incident" A rural villager would on three separate occasions go missing after going to bed only to wake up in a major city thousands of miles away and arrived in the city faster than he should've been possible given the distance.
 | Huang Yanqiu was born in 1956 in Dongbeigao Village in China's Hebei province. Little is known about his early life aside from the fact that he worked as a farmer in the village and his mother passed away while he was a child. submitted by moondog151 to HighStrangeness [link] [comments] Huang Yanqiu On July 27, 1977, Huang was 21 years old and still working as a farmer. Huang was recently engaged and planned on marrying his fiancee after the harvest season and the couple recently began building themselves a new home. At 10:00 PM Huang had just finished his farm work for the day and went to bed in his unfinished home. That was the last anyone had seen of Huang for a while as the next morning when the village woke up on July 28 Huang was nowhere to be found. The village was greatly alarmed by Huang's disappearance and initiated a massive search effort to try and find him but there was no trace of Huang anywhere to be found. This worried and confused the villagers especially Huang's family as Huang never travelled far and only had a primary school level education. They searched the surrounding roads, ponds, cliffs and other unknown locations to try and find him and even contacted the nearest hospitals and police to ask if any unidentified bodies had been discovered but to no avail. Fortunately, Huang would be found alive and unharmed but this only resulted in more questions. 10 days later on August 6 the village committee received a telegram from Shanghai. The telegram said that Huang was being held at a deportation center and that they were hoping for a local to come and pick him up. The telegram was late to arrive because it was accidentally addressed to the wrong village. There was just one problem, the telegram from Shanghai was dated at 9:AM on July 28 less than half a day after his disappearance. Huang was later returned by the police in Shanghai and it was indeed Huang. There was just one problem, Huang being in Shanghai that soon should've been impossible. Huang was questioned by his fellow villagers and he could not provide an answer. According to him, he went to bed and when at 6:00 or 7:00 AM he was awoken by a loud noise, this noise wasn't that of the farm animals but instead the sounds of vehicles and numerous people. When he fully awoke he found himself on a sidewalk and that around him were cars, neon lights and tall buildings/skyscrapers. He wondered around and saw writing on the various buildings and businesses which said things such as "Nanjing Shopping Center", "Nanjing Restaurant", and "Nanjing Pharma" and that nearby was a large "swimming pool" which he later found out was Lake Xuanwu. It didn't take Huang long to realize that somehow he was in Nanjing the capital city of Jiangsu Province located 485 miles away from his home village. While Huang who was now in complete and utter shock at his circumstance walked aimlessly around the unfamiliar city until he was stopped and approached by two police officers. Huang due to his state of shock and disbelief could barely answer their questions. When they asked Huang what he was doing or who he was he simply said that he was "really lost" the two officers led Huang to the Nanjing Rail Station and gave him a ticket to Shanghai and told Huang that they would be waiting for him and once he arrived he'd be taken to a "repatriation camp" for migrants and those without a hukou document. Huang not knowing what else to do and being in no position to disobey or resist bordered the train. 4 hours later the train pulled into Shanghai station and Huang headed out for the first police station he could find and to his confusion, the exact same police officers from Nanjing were already waiting for him despite being out of their jurisdiction, not boarding the train before him and most of all the train was the fastest method available at the time to travel between the two cities and the officers did not bored the train. Arriving to Shanghai before Huang should be straight-up impossible. The two officers refused to let Huang enter the police station in Shanghai and instead dropped Huang off at the repatriation camp in Shanghai. Huang first told his story to a PLA soldier at the camp named Lü Qingtang and added the detail that the police officers in question were likely from Shandong province based on the ticket he was given. Huang stayed in the camp much longer than expected as when Huang woke up in Nanjing he didn't have any of his identity documents and when the telegrams were sent out to the village to come collect Huang they erroneously addressed them to Xinzhai Village instead of Dongbeigao Village. The confusion was only cleared up after Huang was identified via a birthmark and because the PLA soldier Huang talked to had relatives in the village. As mentioned any questions the villagers had were multiplied as opposed to answered. Huang arriving in Nanjing that soon should be impossible. At the time trains in China were too slow to make such a fast trip. The nearest rail station was in the city of Handan which Huang would've had to find his way to in the dark despite having never even been to Handan before. But even if he did make it to Handan all by himself with next to no money the train would take 1 whole day to reach Nanjing as opposed to the 9-10 hours between when Huang went to sleep and when he woke up. And this is without taking into account the waiting time for the train to arrive at Haidan station and trains were notoriously late back them sometimes even being held back by an entire day and tickets were expensive. Other methods of transportation also wouldn't work out. Planes and civilian aviation travel in China was still very new and of course expensive. The entirety of Hebei Province only had a tiny handful of airports with the closest one being in the north near Beijing located on the complete opposite side of Hebei from where Huang lived. It was deemed highly unlikely for Huang to make the trip there by himself especially as he wouldn't know the way and even if he did somehow make it to the airport there would still be the issue of paying for a ticket. A car also wouldn't work as nobody in Dongbeigao village owned a vehicle and even having a bicycle was considered immensely expensive and outside the means of the villagers. And even if he could use any of these methods it still wouldn't explain the short time as to even get from Dongbeigao village to the nearest city Handan would take 4 hours to drive from the village to the city by car. There was also the question of why Huang would assuming he wasn't lying would do this. Huang had never mentioned Nanjing or Shanghai at any point prior and the fact that leaving their ancestral village and families was frowned upon. How Huang made it to Nanjing in such a short amount of time is unknown but most villagers were prepared to accept it as a strange oddity and move on while others dismissed Huang as lying or bragging about visiting a city. That was until it happened again. On September 8, 1977, it was harvest season in the village again and Huang and his fellow villagers were made to do backbreaking work during a meeting held by the village cadres. At 10:00 PM the head of the village gave Huang and a few other villagers permission to leave and go to bed early as long as they send and deliever manure/fertilizer the next morning. They all took the cadres up on this offer and went to sleep. The next morning on September 9 the villagers arrived at the fertiliser storage area only to notice that Huang was missing. Thinking that he had overslept they all went to his house only to find it empty. Something different caught their eye however, Carved into his bedroom wall was a message and that message said "Shandong Gao Dengmin, Gao Yanjin Relax" Just like the last time Huang was in Shanghai and was quickly sent back to the village on September 11 and this time there were witnesses both in Shanghai and Dongbeigao. A majority of the village witnessed Huang go to his house and sleep before his disappearance the next morning and just like with his first disappearance Huang couldn't explain it. According to Huang, he woke up at The Shanghai Rail Station due to a cold breeze, the same one the two mysterious police officers sent him to. Huang was again startled by his surroundings as it was the middle of the night and according to the Station's clock tower, it was 2:00 AM and as far as Huang could see there were no other people and the only light came from the stars and moon. Not only had Huang unknowingly travelled a far distance in an impossibly short time but he also did it at an inopportune time because along with the darkness Huang was constantly startled by the sound of thunder, lighting and battered by heavy rain and high winds because Typhon Babe had recently made landfall near Shanghai. Huang who was now even more terrified than he was before could only think of Lü Qingtang, Lü was the PLA soldier who helped him after his first trip to Shanghai and was the one who ultimately helped him return home due to his relatives in the village. Lü was not only the only person Huang could think to help him but he was also the only person he knew at all in Shanghai. Finding Lü was not going to be easy as Huang wouldn't be able to navigate Shanghai at all let alone during a typhoon in the middle of the night with no people in sight. As Huang began to walk he heard a voice coming from behind him hearing a man say "Hello there, you must be Huang Yanqiu of Feixiang County. Trying to head to the artillery division?" this shocked him immensely and he quickly turned back to see who this person was. When he turned around he saw two men dressed in military uniforms. They told Huang that they were soldiers belonging Lü's division and were assigned to pick him up from the railway station. Huang followed the men who took various ferries and buses before arriving at the "artillery division" located in what is today the Pudong District. Despite how heavily guarded the area is the guards let Huang and the two men pass without issue. They then went to where Lü lived with his family and they were completely shocked to see them as well as Huang again. Lü however, wasn't home at the time. His wife Li Yuying was surprised that the three were even at their home because according to Li "When a relative comes to visit, they have to show their legal documents and sign in at the gate, we'll then come down and confirm their identities, then they can finally be let in. No way the guards and soldiers would let them in without any proceedings!" and years later Lü's son when questioned about the case would say that the two solider's uniforms looked off, he commented that . "...their uniforms looked quite the ordinary, yet not very fitting, especially their visors. One's shoes and visor are the most important part of the uniform,... their visors were too big, and their uniforms seem to have been borrowed, too." Before his family could question the two they simply walked away and couldn't be found again. Huang being at the base was a major security violation and officials interrogated the guards on duty who all claimed to have never seen Huang and the two soldiers at any point. Once Lü returned home another telegram was sent directly to the head of Dongbeigao Village and they wanted to know every last detail about Huang and who exactly he was with the telegram even straight up asking if Huang was a spy. They received a response from the head of the village, telling them that Huang was just a farmer with no ill intent. Without any other information, the army decided to send Huang back to the village but sternly warned him that he'd be arrested if they ever see him again. He returned home on September 11. In their official reports the military was unable to explain how Huang got to Shanghai so quickly and managed to get into the base. Due to the multitude of witnesses testifying that Huang went to sleep in the village and the military confirming that he was in Shanghai all those who felt that Huang was lying about his travels soon had their doubts erased. Huang became the most talked about resident of the village and not in a good way as he became the main subject of all the local gossip, rumours and of course superstitions. Many thought that he was possessed or haunted with that being the reason for his seemingly supernatural speed and ability to travel such short distances. The constant attention took a mental toll on Huang's fiance who sued his family for 200 yuan due to "reputational damages" and divorced him. This financially and emotionally ruined Huang and it was when he was at his lowest that the third and final incident happened. Huang continued his work as a farmer and labourer for the village and on September 20, 1977, he had finished his work for the day and began walking home. According to Huang, however, so tired that he ended up passing out in the yard in front of his house and went missing again. He would stay missing until September 28 when he was found under a Jujube tree in the village and when asked where he had been he told them about the most extraordinary story yet. According to him, after he passed out in front of his home he woke up and instead of on the sidewalk or in a deserted train station during typhoon season he instead found himself in a luxury hotel room. He looked around and behind him, he saw the same two men from the first two incidents. This time, however, they were both dressed in civilian clothing and introduced themselves. They told Huang that they were brothers from Shandong Province and identified themselves as Gao Dengmin, 26, and Gao Yanjin, 25. Huang also estimated that they were around 170 cm tall. They told Huang that they were the cause behind his disappearances and that they dressed as police and soldiers to help him find his way home, they said that they had something special planned for Huang and that during the next 9 days, they would take him to 9 major cities. Huang asked where he was right now and the brothers told him that it was still September 20 and that he was in Lanzhou located in China's Gansu Province the furthest he has ever been from home. A composite sketch of the two created by the police Soon Huang would learn how he had travelled so far so quickly because the next day on September 21 they made Huang climb onto their back and as Huang would later state "They took off" and quite literally flew away with just their bodies. Huang said that they were "flying" at a low altitude and that he didn't feel any wind, he also recounted that the brothers took turns carrying him on their back. In over an hour, the three had arrived in Beijing. They first went to the Chang'an Grand Theater without tickets and just like at the army base nobody stopped them. They watched an opera performance of Forced Onto Mt. Liang. Their next stop was Tiananmen Square and were in front of a Huabiao. The brothers who were now speaking standard Mandarin instead of their dialects introduced Huang to the surrounding areas and checked into a hotel showing the staff a "provincial-level introduction letter" for registration. That same day they then flew to Tianjin where they snuck into a movie theatre without tickets and watched a movie. On September 22 they arrived in Harbin located in Heilongjiang Province. In Harbin, they visited a department store and then visited Changchun in Jilin Province. On September 23 they went to Shenyang in Liaoning Province. On September 25 they visited Fuzhou in Fujian Province before visiting Nanjing. They spend the next day in Nanjing. On September 27 they visited Xi'an in Shaanxi Province for the Mid-Autumn Festival. Also on September 27, they made their last stop returning to Lanzhou. When Huang went to sleep in their hotel room he woke up under the jujube tree mentioned earlier and was back in Dongbeigao Village They travelled to every city via the brothers flying and according to Huang no matter how close or how far the city was the time it took to get there was always 1 hour. He also noted that the brothers could speak the local dialects of all the provinces they visited and whenever they went to hotels the brothers always had a "provincial-level introduction letter". One of the brothers always watched Huang while the other would borrow clothing such as police or military uniforms from somewhere Huang didn't know. Clothing and yuan for the accommodations and meals were the only items the brothers carried as they didn't seem to own items such as bags and wallets. Aside from their ability to fly to anywhere they wanted and their strange behaviour such as only carrying clothes and money, Huang said that they were seemingly normal human beings in every other aspect and ate and slept like anyone else. They also had the same body temperature as anyone else would The only rules they seemed to have were that Huang was not allowed to photograph them or anything and he couldn't keep any souvenirs from his trips. When Huang asked why they singled him out they wouldn't respond and when he asked if they could teach him how to fly like them or tell him how they learnt to do it they gave a firm "No" as their answer. Just as they had told him in the 9 days he was missing they had visited 9 different cities. A map of his travels Huang was the talk of the village all over again and the superstitions that gods or ghosts were responsible continued. Eventually, the gossip around Huang had gotten to the point that the local police, propaganda department and the nearest military base had heard of Huang's story and began a very extensive investigation into Huang. Offical's believed that he was purposefully sabotaging the village's production and reputation and proceeded to classify him as a "class enemy" While being interrogated his behaviour was found to be "normal" and he showed no signs of mental illness or cognitive disorders. After they were unable to find any evidence of Huang being a threat they reluctantly let him go and revoked his "class enemy" status. Huang's story became well known throughout China and is one of the country's most famous alleged paranormal events and even the government officially declares his case as "unexplained" This is not the end of Huang's story though. On December 14, 2004, the case was reinvestigated by Zhang Jingping, an investigator of the Beijing Branch of the China UFO Association, Ji Jianmin, the chairman of the Feixiang UFO Association, and Dr. Wu, a famous Chinese hypnotist, professor of Peking University Medical Department. There was rather conclusive evidence of Huang's first two incidents as numerous witnesses as well as official telegrams all confirm that Huang had gone to sleep in his home village only to appear in Shanghai but there was far more doubt as to if he had been to any of the cities mentioned during his third disappearance. Huang was put under hypnosis and asked what happened and he told the doctor the same story he did back in 1977. Huang eventually woke up from the hypnotic state claiming that one of the two brothers made him wake up. In 2004 a documentary was made by CCTV and several interviews and tests were conducted during the documentary. He was subjected to a polygraph test and he ended up failing the test and Huang refused to accept these results. Those administering the tests also admitted that Huang's declining memory, the 27-year gap between the test and the incident and the stress of being subjected to such a test for the first time may affect the results. During the documentary, the police based on Huang's descriptions also created composite sketches of Gao Dengmin and Gao Yanjin. Due to the advancement in China's transportation infrastructure, Huang was brought to Nanjing and he was able to retrace his steps and attempt to recreate his journey from the sidewalk to the former then non-existent military base. They then brought Huang to the physiatric division of Beijing Anding Hospital where the lead doctor after reading his statements said that the brothers would've been travelling at supersonic speeds and that Huang had been sleepwalking or lying. Although nobody defended him from claims of sleepwalking his fellow villagers all refused to entertain the possibility that Huang was purposefully lying to them. They cited Huang's lack of motivation or ability to travel, how he travelled to Shanghai in such a short amount of time and how he had no reason to lie about it since telling his story caused him to become a laughing stock and lost him his fiance. Huang quite literally gain nothing from telling this story and it severely affected him negatively. Aside from a lack of evidence others supporting the lying theory state that Huang only claimed to have visited major cities prompting some to speculate that he just picked them out from a map and that oddly enough he never visited Shijiazhuang which is the capital of Hebei, the province that Huang actually lives in. Huang was examined by other psychologists and mental health professionals who deemed Huang to be sane which is the source of the sleepwalking theory. As this theory suggests, Huang was sleepwalking when he made his way to Nanjing and that the stories of the two brothers were just dreams he had while sleepwalking. Various Chinese netizens don't view this theory as credible since Huang while sleepwalking would need to either walk all the way to the train station in Handan (which would take 4 hours to drive to by car) and buy a tick with money he didn't have all while asleep. And while still sleeping once the train stopped in Zhengzhou he would've sleepwalked onto the next train to Shanghai all with nobody noticing he was sleepwalking and waking him up. Just to be sure though doctors performed an MRI scan of Huang's brain and the results came back normal. The third theory is that Huang suffered from multiple personality disorder and that Gao Dengmin and Gao Yanjin were in fact Huang himself and that he just perceived them as different people due to his disorder. The Gao personalities are the ones that actually travel to the locations only for Huang's normal personality to take over once he arrives at the destination hence him waking up. This theory also states that Huang flying on their backs is actually just a fantasy of Huang Yanqiu's repressed personality. This theory doesn't stand up to scrutiny as various Mental Health officials have found Huang sane and that he would've shown signs of multiple personality disorder before and after the three incidents. This theory also wouldn't explain the short travel times and Lü Qingtang's wife and son also witnessing the two as separate people. There is one more theory though it is from those who want to believe that it is all real and that Huang is telling the truth and that UFOs may be involved. They looked further into Huang's claims to try and find any proof that he was in the cities mentioned during his third disappearance. According to one source when describing the weather they matched up with geological data at the time but this appears to be unconfirmed. A journalist went to the Chang'an Grand Theater in Beijing to look through their records and see if they ever held the same performance Huang claimed to have seen. He discovered that the theatre closed due to the 1976 Tangshan Earthquake and wouldn't reopen until 1979 meaning that Huang could not have seen any performances in that theatre. However, there was another theatre nearby named the Jixiang Theater and they were open in 1977 and on September 21, 1977, the day Huang claimed to be in Beijing they held a performance of Forced Onto Mt. Liang. This journalist ruled that Huang hailing from a small and rural village could've easily confused two nearby and similar theatres in an unfamiliar environment such as the major city of Beijing. There are also those who agree that Huang travelled at nearly supersonic speeds but instead have a more terrestrial explanation and that Huang fell victim to military experimentation. This theory states that the military flew Huang to these cities for various experiments and that the Gao brothers were high-ranking officials in charge of the experiments. They then drugged Huang and made him undergo hypnosis to make him forget what he experienced. Many are skeptical of this theory because if the Chinese government wanted to conduct human experimentation they had a myriad of death row inmates and political prisons to draw upon so why instead abduct an innocuous rural farmer from his small village? "The Huang Yanqiu Incident" remains one of China's most infamous unsolved mysteries but as of now, there have been no new developments as a now 67-year-old Huang has opted to live a quiet life in his village away from the cameras. 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2023.04.01 12:35 moondog151 "The Huang Yanqiu Incident" A rural villager would on three separate occasions go missing after going to bed only to wake up in a major city thousands of miles away and arrived in the city faster than he should've been possible given the distance.
Huang Yanqiu was born in 1956 in Dongbeigao Village in China's Hebei province. Little is known about his early life aside from the fact that he worked as a farmer in the village and his mother passed away while he was a child.
On July 27, 1977, Huang was 21 years old and still working as a farmer. Huang was recently engaged and planned on marrying his fiancee after the harvest season and the couple recently began building themselves a new home. At 10:00 PM Huang had just finished his farm work for the day and went to bed in his unfinished home. That was the last anyone had seen of Huang for a while as the next morning when the village woke up on July 28 Huang was nowhere to be found.
The village was greatly alarmed by Huang's disappearance and initiated a massive search effort to try and find him but there was no trace of Huang anywhere to be found. This worried and confused the villagers especially Huang's family as Huang never travelled far and only had a primary school level education. They searched the surrounding roads, ponds, cliffs and other unknown locations to try and find him and even contacted the nearest hospitals and police to ask if any unidentified bodies had been discovered but to no avail.
Fortunately, Huang would be found alive and unharmed but this only resulted in more questions. 10 days later on August 6 the village committee received a telegram from Shanghai. The telegram said that Huang was being held at a deportation center and that they were hoping for a local to come and pick him up. The telegram was late to arrive because it was accidentally addressed to the wrong village. There was just one problem, the telegram from Shanghai was dated at 9:AM on July 28 less than half a day after his disappearance. Huang was later returned by the police in Shanghai and it was indeed Huang. There was just one problem, Huang being in Shanghai that soon should've been impossible.
Huang was questioned by his fellow villagers and he could not provide an answer. According to him, he went to bed and when at 6:00 or 7:00 AM he was awoken by a loud noise, this noise wasn't that of the farm animals but instead the sounds of vehicles and numerous people. When he fully awoke he found himself on a sidewalk and that around him were cars, neon lights and tall buildings/skyscrapers. He wondered around and saw writing on the various buildings and businesses which said things such as "Nanjing Shopping Center", "Nanjing Restaurant", and "Nanjing Pharma" and that nearby was a large "swimming pool" which he later found out was Lake Xuanwu. It didn't take Huang long to realize that somehow he was in Nanjing the capital city of Jiangsu Province located 485 miles away from his home village.
While Huang who was now in complete and utter shock at his circumstance walked aimlessly around the unfamiliar city until he was stopped and approached by two police officers. Huang due to his state of shock and disbelief could barely answer their questions. When they asked Huang what he was doing or who he was he simply said that he was "really lost" the two officers led Huang to the Nanjing Rail Station and gave him a ticket to Shanghai and told Huang that they would be waiting for him and once he arrived he'd be taken to a "repatriation camp" for migrants and those without a hukou document. Huang not knowing what else to do and being in no position to disobey or resist bordered the train. 4 hours later the train pulled into Shanghai station and Huang headed out for the first police station he could find and to his confusion, the exact same police officers from Nanjing were already waiting for him despite being out of their jurisdiction, not boarding the train before him and most of all the train was the fastest method available at the time to travel between the two cities and the officers did not bored the train. Arriving to Shanghai before Huang should be straight-up impossible.
The two officers refused to let Huang enter the police station in Shanghai and instead dropped Huang off at the repatriation camp in Shanghai. Huang first told his story to a PLA soldier at the camp named Lü Qingtang and added the detail that the police officers in question were likely from Shandong province based on the ticket he was given. Huang stayed in the camp much longer than expected as when Huang woke up in Nanjing he didn't have any of his identity documents and when the telegrams were sent out to the village to come collect Huang they erroneously addressed them to Xinzhai Village instead of Dongbeigao Village. The confusion was only cleared up after Huang was identified via a birthmark and because the PLA soldier Huang talked to had relatives in the village.
As mentioned any questions the villagers had were multiplied as opposed to answered. Huang arriving in Nanjing that soon should be impossible. At the time trains in China were too slow to make such a fast trip. The nearest rail station was in the city of Handan which Huang would've had to find his way to in the dark despite having never even been to Handan before. But even if he did make it to Handan all by himself with next to no money the train would take 1 whole day to reach Nanjing as opposed to the 9-10 hours between when Huang went to sleep and when he woke up. And this is without taking into account the waiting time for the train to arrive at Haidan station and trains were notoriously late back them sometimes even being held back by an entire day and tickets were expensive.
Other methods of transportation also wouldn't work out. Planes and civilian aviation travel in China was still very new and of course expensive. The entirety of Hebei Province only had a tiny handful of airports with the closest one being in the north near Beijing located on the complete opposite side of Hebei from where Huang lived. It was deemed highly unlikely for Huang to make the trip there by himself especially as he wouldn't know the way and even if he did somehow make it to the airport there would still be the issue of paying for a ticket. A car also wouldn't work as nobody in Dongbeigao village owned a vehicle and even having a bicycle was considered immensely expensive and outside the means of the villagers. And even if he could use any of these methods it still wouldn't explain the short time as to even get from Dongbeigao village to the nearest city Handan would take 4 hours to drive from the village to the city by car. There was also the question of why Huang would assuming he wasn't lying would do this. Huang had never mentioned Nanjing or Shanghai at any point prior and the fact that leaving their ancestral village and families was frowned upon. How Huang made it to Nanjing in such a short amount of time is unknown but most villagers were prepared to accept it as a strange oddity and move on while others dismissed Huang as lying or bragging about visiting a city. That was until it happened again.
On September 8, 1977, it was harvest season in the village again and Huang and his fellow villagers were made to do backbreaking work during a meeting held by the village cadres. At 10:00 PM the head of the village gave Huang and a few other villagers permission to leave and go to bed early as long as they send and deliever manure/fertilizer the next morning. They all took the cadres up on this offer and went to sleep. The next morning on September 9 the villagers arrived at the fertiliser storage area only to notice that Huang was missing. Thinking that he had overslept they all went to his house only to find it empty. Something different caught their eye however, Carved into his bedroom wall was a message and that message said "Shandong Gao Dengmin, Gao Yanjin Relax"
Just like the last time Huang was in Shanghai and was quickly sent back to the village on September 11 and this time there were witnesses both in Shanghai and Dongbeigao. A majority of the village witnessed Huang go to his house and sleep before his disappearance the next morning and just like with his first disappearance Huang couldn't explain it.
According to Huang, he woke up at The Shanghai Rail Station due to a cold breeze, the same one the two mysterious police officers sent him to. Huang was again startled by his surroundings as it was the middle of the night and according to the Station's clock tower, it was 2:00 AM and as far as Huang could see there were no other people and the only light came from the stars and moon. Not only had Huang unknowingly travelled a far distance in an impossibly short time but he also did it at an inopportune time because along with the darkness Huang was constantly startled by the sound of thunder, lighting and battered by heavy rain and high winds because Typhon Babe had recently made landfall near Shanghai.
Huang who was now even more terrified than he was before could only think of Lü Qingtang, Lü was the PLA soldier who helped him after his first trip to Shanghai and was the one who ultimately helped him return home due to his relatives in the village. Lü was not only the only person Huang could think to help him but he was also the only person he knew at all in Shanghai. Finding Lü was not going to be easy as Huang wouldn't be able to navigate Shanghai at all let alone during a typhoon in the middle of the night with no people in sight.
As Huang began to walk he heard a voice coming from behind him hearing a man say "Hello there, you must be Huang Yanqiu of Feixiang County. Trying to head to the artillery division?" this shocked him immensely and he quickly turned back to see who this person was. When he turned around he saw two men dressed in military uniforms. They told Huang that they were soldiers belonging Lü's division and were assigned to pick him up from the railway station.
Huang followed the men who took various ferries and buses before arriving at the "artillery division" located in what is today the Pudong District. Despite how heavily guarded the area is the guards let Huang and the two men pass without issue. They then went to where Lü lived with his family and they were completely shocked to see them as well as Huang again. Lü however, wasn't home at the time. His wife Li Yuying was surprised that the three were even at their home because according to Li "When a relative comes to visit, they have to show their legal documents and sign in at the gate, we'll then come down and confirm their identities, then they can finally be let in. No way the guards and soldiers would let them in without any proceedings!" and years later Lü's son when questioned about the case would say that the two solider's uniforms looked off, he commented that . "...their uniforms looked quite the ordinary, yet not very fitting, especially their visors. One's shoes and visor are the most important part of the uniform,... their visors were too big, and their uniforms seem to have been borrowed, too."
Before his family could question the two they simply walked away and couldn't be found again. Huang being at the base was a major security violation and officials interrogated the guards on duty who all claimed to have never seen Huang and the two soldiers at any point. Once Lü returned home another telegram was sent directly to the head of Dongbeigao Village and they wanted to know every last detail about Huang and who exactly he was with the telegram even straight up asking if Huang was a spy. They received a response from the head of the village, telling them that Huang was just a farmer with no ill intent. Without any other information, the army decided to send Huang back to the village but sternly warned him that he'd be arrested if they ever see him again. He returned home on September 11. In their official reports the military was unable to explain how Huang got to Shanghai so quickly and managed to get into the base.
Due to the multitude of witnesses testifying that Huang went to sleep in the village and the military confirming that he was in Shanghai all those who felt that Huang was lying about his travels soon had their doubts erased. Huang became the most talked about resident of the village and not in a good way as he became the main subject of all the local gossip, rumours and of course superstitions. Many thought that he was possessed or haunted with that being the reason for his seemingly supernatural speed and ability to travel such short distances. The constant attention took a mental toll on Huang's fiance who sued his family for 200 yuan due to "reputational damages" and divorced him. This financially and emotionally ruined Huang and it was when he was at his lowest that the third and final incident happened.
Huang continued his work as a farmer and labourer for the village and on September 20, 1977, he had finished his work for the day and began walking home. According to Huang, however, so tired that he ended up passing out in the yard in front of his house and went missing again. He would stay missing until September 28 when he was found under a Jujube tree in the village and when asked where he had been he told them about the most extraordinary story yet.
According to him, after he passed out in front of his home he woke up and instead of on the sidewalk or in a deserted train station during typhoon season he instead found himself in a luxury hotel room. He looked around and behind him, he saw the same two men from the first two incidents. This time, however, they were both dressed in civilian clothing and introduced themselves. They told Huang that they were brothers from Shandong Province and identified themselves as Gao Dengmin, 26, and Gao Yanjin, 25. Huang also estimated that they were around 170 cm tall. They told Huang that they were the cause behind his disappearances and that they dressed as police and soldiers to help him find his way home, they said that they had something special planned for Huang and that during the next 9 days, they would take him to 9 major cities. Huang asked where he was right now and the brothers told him that it was still September 20 and that he was in Lanzhou located in China's Gansu Province the furthest he has ever been from home.
Soon Huang would learn how he had travelled so far so quickly because the next day on September 21 they made Huang climb onto their back and as Huang would later state "They took off" and quite literally flew away with just their bodies. Huang said that they were "flying" at a low altitude and that he didn't feel any wind, he also recounted that the brothers took turns carrying him on their back. In over an hour, the three had arrived in Beijing. They first went to the Chang'an Grand Theater without tickets and just like at the army base nobody stopped them. They watched an opera performance of Forced Onto Mt. Liang. Their next stop was Tiananmen Square and were in front of a Huabiao. The brothers who were now speaking standard Mandarin instead of their dialects introduced Huang to the surrounding areas and checked into a hotel showing the staff a "provincial-level introduction letter" for registration. That same day they then flew to Tianjin where they snuck into a movie theatre without tickets and watched a movie.
On September 22 they arrived in Harbin located in Heilongjiang Province. In Harbin, they visited a department store and then visited Changchun in Jilin Province. On September 23 they went to Shenyang in Liaoning Province. On September 25 they visited Fuzhou in Fujian Province before visiting Nanjing. They spend the next day in Nanjing. On September 27 they visited Xi'an in Shaanxi Province for the Mid-Autumn Festival. Also on September 27, they made their last stop returning to Lanzhou. When Huang went to sleep in their hotel room he woke up under the jujube tree mentioned earlier and was back in Dongbeigao Village
They travelled to every city via the brothers flying and according to Huang no matter how close or how far the city was the time it took to get there was always 1 hour. He also noted that the brothers could speak the local dialects of all the provinces they visited and whenever they went to hotels the brothers always had a "provincial-level introduction letter". One of the brothers always watched Huang while the other would borrow clothing such as police or military uniforms from somewhere Huang didn't know. Clothing and yuan for the accommodations and meals were the only items the brothers carried as they didn't seem to own items such as bags and wallets. Aside from their ability to fly to anywhere they wanted and their strange behaviour such as only carrying clothes and money, Huang said that they were seemingly normal human beings in every other aspect and ate and slept like anyone else. They also had the same body temperature as anyone else would The only rules they seemed to have were that Huang was not allowed to photograph them or anything and he couldn't keep any souvenirs from his trips. When Huang asked why they singled him out they wouldn't respond and when he asked if they could teach him how to fly like them or tell him how they learnt to do it they gave a firm "No" as their answer. Just as they had told him in the 9 days he was missing they had visited 9 different cities.
Huang was the talk of the village all over again and the superstitions that gods or ghosts were responsible continued. Eventually, the gossip around Huang had gotten to the point that the local police, propaganda department and the nearest military base had heard of Huang's story and began a very extensive investigation into Huang. Offical's believed that he was purposefully sabotaging the village's production and reputation and proceeded to classify him as a "class enemy" While being interrogated his behaviour was found to be "normal" and he showed no signs of mental illness or cognitive disorders. After they were unable to find any evidence of Huang being a threat they reluctantly let him go and revoked his "class enemy" status.
Huang's story became well known throughout China and is one of the country's most famous alleged paranormal events and even the government officially declares his case as "unexplained" This is not the end of Huang's story though.
On December 14, 2004, the case was reinvestigated by Zhang Jingping, an investigator of the Beijing Branch of the China UFO Association, Ji Jianmin, the chairman of the Feixiang UFO Association, and Dr. Wu, a famous Chinese hypnotist, professor of Peking University Medical Department. There was rather conclusive evidence of Huang's first two incidents as numerous witnesses as well as official telegrams all confirm that Huang had gone to sleep in his home village only to appear in Shanghai but there was far more doubt as to if he had been to any of the cities mentioned during his third disappearance.
Huang was put under hypnosis and asked what happened and he told the doctor the same story he did back in 1977. Huang eventually woke up from the hypnotic state claiming that one of the two brothers made him wake up. In 2004 a documentary was made by CCTV and several interviews and tests were conducted during the documentary. He was subjected to a polygraph test and he ended up failing the test and Huang refused to accept these results. Those administering the tests also admitted that Huang's declining memory, the 27-year gap between the test and the incident and the stress of being subjected to such a test for the first time may affect the results. During the documentary, the police based on Huang's descriptions also created composite sketches of Gao Dengmin and Gao Yanjin. Due to the advancement in China's transportation infrastructure, Huang was brought to Nanjing and he was able to retrace his steps and attempt to recreate his journey from the sidewalk to the former then non-existent military base.
They then brought Huang to the physiatric division of Beijing Anding Hospital where the lead doctor after reading his statements said that the brothers would've been travelling at supersonic speeds and that Huang had been sleepwalking or lying. Although nobody defended him from claims of sleepwalking his fellow villagers all refused to entertain the possibility that Huang was purposefully lying to them. They cited Huang's lack of motivation or ability to travel, how he travelled to Shanghai in such a short amount of time and how he had no reason to lie about it since telling his story caused him to become a laughing stock and lost him his fiance. Huang quite literally gain nothing from telling this story and it severely affected him negatively. Aside from a lack of evidence others supporting the lying theory state that Huang only claimed to have visited major cities prompting some to speculate that he just picked them out from a map and that oddly enough he never visited Shijiazhuang which is the capital of Hebei, the province that Huang actually lives in.
Huang was examined by other psychologists and mental health professionals who deemed Huang to be sane which is the source of the sleepwalking theory.
As this theory suggests, Huang was sleepwalking when he made his way to Nanjing and that the stories of the two brothers were just dreams he had while sleepwalking. Various Chinese netizens don't view this theory as credible since Huang while sleepwalking would need to either walk all the way to the train station in Handan (which would take 4 hours to drive to by car) and buy a tick with money he didn't have all while asleep. And while still sleeping once the train stopped in Zhengzhou he would've sleepwalked onto the next train to Shanghai all with nobody noticing he was sleepwalking and waking him up. Just to be sure though doctors performed an MRI scan of Huang's brain and the results came back normal.
The third theory is that Huang suffered from multiple personality disorder and that Gao Dengmin and Gao Yanjin were in fact Huang himself and that he just perceived them as different people due to his disorder. The Gao personalities are the ones that actually travel to the locations only for Huang's normal personality to take over once he arrives at the destination hence him waking up. This theory also states that Huang flying on their backs is actually just a fantasy of Huang Yanqiu's repressed personality. This theory doesn't stand up to scrutiny as various Mental Health officials have found Huang sane and that he would've shown signs of multiple personality disorder before and after the three incidents. This theory also wouldn't explain the short travel times and Lü Qingtang's wife and son also witnessing the two as separate people.
There is one more theory though it is from those who want to believe that it is all real and that Huang is telling the truth and that UFOs may be involved.
They looked further into Huang's claims to try and find any proof that he was in the cities mentioned during his third disappearance. According to one source when describing the weather they matched up with geological data at the time but this appears to be unconfirmed. A journalist went to the Chang'an Grand Theater in Beijing to look through their records and see if they ever held the same performance Huang claimed to have seen.
He discovered that the theatre closed due to the 1976 Tangshan Earthquake and wouldn't reopen until 1979 meaning that Huang could not have seen any performances in that theatre. However, there was another theatre nearby named the Jixiang Theater and they were open in 1977 and on September 21, 1977, the day Huang claimed to be in Beijing they held a performance of Forced Onto Mt. Liang. This journalist ruled that Huang hailing from a small and rural village could've easily confused two nearby and similar theatres in an unfamiliar environment such as the major city of Beijing.
There are also those who agree that Huang travelled at nearly supersonic speeds but instead have a more terrestrial explanation and that Huang fell victim to military experimentation.
This theory states that the military flew Huang to these cities for various experiments and that the Gao brothers were high-ranking officials in charge of the experiments. They then drugged Huang and made him undergo hypnosis to make him forget what he experienced. Many are skeptical of this theory because if the Chinese government wanted to conduct human experimentation they had a myriad of death row inmates and political prisons to draw upon so why instead abduct an innocuous rural farmer from his small village?
"The Huang Yanqiu Incident" remains one of China's most infamous unsolved mysteries but as of now, there have been no new developments as a now 67-year-old Huang has opted to live a quiet life in his village away from the cameras. The last bit of news from Huang came from 2008 when he underwent another round of mental evaluations
Sources
https://baike.baidu.com/item/%E9%BB%84%E5%BB%B6%E7%A7%8B%E4%BA%8B%E4%BB%B6/3270760
http://www.cctv.com/program/zoujinkexue/topic/science/C14443/20050729/100743.shtml
http://www.cctv.com/program/zoujinkexue/topic/science/C14443/20050729/100649.shtml
http://www.cctv.com/program/zoujinkexue/topic/science/C14443/20050728/102027.shtml
http://www.cctv.com/program/zoujinkexue/topic/science/C14443/20050727/102186.shtml
https://zhuanlan.zhihu.com/p/27626821
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On July 27, 1977, Huang was 21 years old and still working as a farmer. Huang was recently engaged and planned on marrying his fiancee after the harvest season and the couple recently began building themselves a new home. At 10:00 PM Huang had just finished his farm work for the day and went to bed in his unfinished home. That was the last anyone had seen of Huang for a while as the next morning when the village woke up on July 28 Huang was nowhere to be found.
The village was greatly alarmed by Huang's disappearance and initiated a massive search effort to try and find him but there was no trace of Huang anywhere to be found. This worried and confused the villagers especially Huang's family as Huang never travelled far and only had a primary school level education. They searched the surrounding roads, ponds, cliffs and other unknown locations to try and find him and even contacted the nearest hospitals and police to ask if any unidentified bodies had been discovered but to no avail.
Fortunately, Huang would be found alive and unharmed but this only resulted in more questions. 10 days later on August 6 the village committee received a telegram from Shanghai. The telegram said that Huang was being held at a deportation center and that they were hoping for a local to come and pick him up. The telegram was late to arrive because it was accidentally addressed to the wrong village. There was just one problem, the telegram from Shanghai was dated at 9:AM on July 28 less than half a day after his disappearance. Huang was later returned by the police in Shanghai and it was indeed Huang. There was just one problem, Huang being in Shanghai that soon should've been impossible.
Huang was questioned by his fellow villagers and he could not provide an answer. According to him, he went to bed and when at 6:00 or 7:00 AM he was awoken by a loud noise, this noise wasn't that of the farm animals but instead the sounds of vehicles and numerous people. When he fully awoke he found himself on a sidewalk and that around him were cars, neon lights and tall buildings/skyscrapers. He wondered around and saw writing on the various buildings and businesses which said things such as "Nanjing Shopping Center", "Nanjing Restaurant", and "Nanjing Pharma" and that nearby was a large "swimming pool" which he later found out was Lake Xuanwu. It didn't take Huang long to realize that somehow he was in Nanjing the capital city of Jiangsu Province located 485 miles away from his home village.
While Huang who was now in complete and utter shock at his circumstance walked aimlessly around the unfamiliar city until he was stopped and approached by two police officers. Huang due to his state of shock and disbelief could barely answer their questions. When they asked Huang what he was doing or who he was he simply said that he was "really lost" the two officers led Huang to the Nanjing Rail Station and gave him a ticket to Shanghai and told Huang that they would be waiting for him and once he arrived he'd be taken to a "repatriation camp" for migrants and those without a hukou document. Huang not knowing what else to do and being in no position to disobey or resist bordered the train. 4 hours later the train pulled into Shanghai station and Huang headed out for the first police station he could find and to his confusion, the exact same police officers from Nanjing were already waiting for him despite being out of their jurisdiction, not boarding the train before him and most of all the train was the fastest method available at the time to travel between the two cities and the officers did not bored the train. Arriving to Shanghai before Huang should be straight-up impossible.
The two officers refused to let Huang enter the police station in Shanghai and instead dropped Huang off at the repatriation camp in Shanghai. Huang first told his story to a PLA soldier at the camp named Lü Qingtang and added the detail that the police officers in question were likely from Shandong province based on the ticket he was given. Huang stayed in the camp much longer than expected as when Huang woke up in Nanjing he didn't have any of his identity documents and when the telegrams were sent out to the village to come collect Huang they erroneously addressed them to Xinzhai Village instead of Dongbeigao Village. The confusion was only cleared up after Huang was identified via a birthmark and because the PLA soldier Huang talked to had relatives in the village.
As mentioned any questions the villagers had were multiplied as opposed to answered. Huang arriving in Nanjing that soon should be impossible. At the time trains in China were too slow to make such a fast trip. The nearest rail station was in the city of Handan which Huang would've had to find his way to in the dark despite having never even been to Handan before. But even if he did make it to Handan all by himself with next to no money the train would take 1 whole day to reach Nanjing as opposed to the 9-10 hours between when Huang went to sleep and when he woke up. And this is without taking into account the waiting time for the train to arrive at Haidan station and trains were notoriously late back them sometimes even being held back by an entire day and tickets were expensive.
Other methods of transportation also wouldn't work out. Planes and civilian aviation travel in China was still very new and of course expensive. The entirety of Hebei Province only had a tiny handful of airports with the closest one being in the north near Beijing located on the complete opposite side of Hebei from where Huang lived. It was deemed highly unlikely for Huang to make the trip there by himself especially as he wouldn't know the way and even if he did somehow make it to the airport there would still be the issue of paying for a ticket. A car also wouldn't work as nobody in Dongbeigao village owned a vehicle and even having a bicycle was considered immensely expensive and outside the means of the villagers. And even if he could use any of these methods it still wouldn't explain the short time as to even get from Dongbeigao village to the nearest city Handan would take 4 hours to drive from the village to the city by car. There was also the question of why Huang would assuming he wasn't lying would do this. Huang had never mentioned Nanjing or Shanghai at any point prior and the fact that leaving their ancestral village and families was frowned upon. How Huang made it to Nanjing in such a short amount of time is unknown but most villagers were prepared to accept it as a strange oddity and move on while others dismissed Huang as lying or bragging about visiting a city. That was until it happened again.
On September 8, 1977, it was harvest season in the village again and Huang and his fellow villagers were made to do backbreaking work during a meeting held by the village cadres. At 10:00 PM the head of the village gave Huang and a few other villagers permission to leave and go to bed early as long as they send and deliever manure/fertilizer the next morning. They all took the cadres up on this offer and went to sleep. The next morning on September 9 the villagers arrived at the fertiliser storage area only to notice that Huang was missing. Thinking that he had overslept they all went to his house only to find it empty. Something different caught their eye however, Carved into his bedroom wall was a message and that message said "Shandong Gao Dengmin, Gao Yanjin Relax"
Just like the last time Huang was in Shanghai and was quickly sent back to the village on September 11 and this time there were witnesses both in Shanghai and Dongbeigao. A majority of the village witnessed Huang go to his house and sleep before his disappearance the next morning and just like with his first disappearance Huang couldn't explain it.
According to Huang, he woke up at The Shanghai Rail Station due to a cold breeze, the same one the two mysterious police officers sent him to. Huang was again startled by his surroundings as it was the middle of the night and according to the Station's clock tower, it was 2:00 AM and as far as Huang could see there were no other people and the only light came from the stars and moon. Not only had Huang unknowingly travelled a far distance in an impossibly short time but he also did it at an inopportune time because along with the darkness Huang was constantly startled by the sound of thunder, lighting and battered by heavy rain and high winds because Typhon Babe had recently made landfall near Shanghai.
Huang who was now even more terrified than he was before could only think of Lü Qingtang, Lü was the PLA soldier who helped him after his first trip to Shanghai and was the one who ultimately helped him return home due to his relatives in the village. Lü was not only the only person Huang could think to help him but he was also the only person he knew at all in Shanghai. Finding Lü was not going to be easy as Huang wouldn't be able to navigate Shanghai at all let alone during a typhoon in the middle of the night with no people in sight.
As Huang began to walk he heard a voice coming from behind him hearing a man say "Hello there, you must be Huang Yanqiu of Feixiang County. Trying to head to the artillery division?" this shocked him immensely and he quickly turned back to see who this person was. When he turned around he saw two men dressed in military uniforms. They told Huang that they were soldiers belonging Lü's division and were assigned to pick him up from the railway station.
Huang followed the men who took various ferries and buses before arriving at the "artillery division" located in what is today the Pudong District. Despite how heavily guarded the area is the guards let Huang and the two men pass without issue. They then went to where Lü lived with his family and they were completely shocked to see them as well as Huang again. Lü however, wasn't home at the time. His wife Li Yuying was surprised that the three were even at their home because according to Li "When a relative comes to visit, they have to show their legal documents and sign in at the gate, we'll then come down and confirm their identities, then they can finally be let in. No way the guards and soldiers would let them in without any proceedings!" and years later Lü's son when questioned about the case would say that the two solider's uniforms looked off, he commented that . "...their uniforms looked quite the ordinary, yet not very fitting, especially their visors. One's shoes and visor are the most important part of the uniform,... their visors were too big, and their uniforms seem to have been borrowed, too."
Before his family could question the two they simply walked away and couldn't be found again. Huang being at the base was a major security violation and officials interrogated the guards on duty who all claimed to have never seen Huang and the two soldiers at any point. Once Lü returned home another telegram was sent directly to the head of Dongbeigao Village and they wanted to know every last detail about Huang and who exactly he was with the telegram even straight up asking if Huang was a spy. They received a response from the head of the village, telling them that Huang was just a farmer with no ill intent. Without any other information, the army decided to send Huang back to the village but sternly warned him that he'd be arrested if they ever see him again. He returned home on September 11. In their official reports the military was unable to explain how Huang got to Shanghai so quickly and managed to get into the base.
Due to the multitude of witnesses testifying that Huang went to sleep in the village and the military confirming that he was in Shanghai all those who felt that Huang was lying about his travels soon had their doubts erased. Huang became the most talked about resident of the village and not in a good way as he became the main subject of all the local gossip, rumours and of course superstitions. Many thought that he was possessed or haunted with that being the reason for his seemingly supernatural speed and ability to travel such short distances. The constant attention took a mental toll on Huang's fiance who sued his family for 200 yuan due to "reputational damages" and divorced him. This financially and emotionally ruined Huang and it was when he was at his lowest that the third and final incident happened.
Huang continued his work as a farmer and labourer for the village and on September 20, 1977, he had finished his work for the day and began walking home. According to Huang, however, so tired that he ended up passing out in the yard in front of his house and went missing again. He would stay missing until September 28 when he was found under a Jujube tree in the village and when asked where he had been he told them about the most extraordinary story yet.
According to him, after he passed out in front of his home he woke up and instead of on the sidewalk or in a deserted train station during typhoon season he instead found himself in a luxury hotel room. He looked around and behind him, he saw the same two men from the first two incidents. This time, however, they were both dressed in civilian clothing and introduced themselves. They told Huang that they were brothers from Shandong Province and identified themselves as Gao Dengmin, 26, and Gao Yanjin, 25. Huang also estimated that they were around 170 cm tall. They told Huang that they were the cause behind his disappearances and that they dressed as police and soldiers to help him find his way home, they said that they had something special planned for Huang and that during the next 9 days, they would take him to 9 major cities. Huang asked where he was right now and the brothers told him that it was still September 20 and that he was in Lanzhou located in China's Gansu Province the furthest he has ever been from home.
Soon Huang would learn how he had travelled so far so quickly because the next day on September 21 they made Huang climb onto their back and as Huang would later state "They took off" and quite literally flew away with just their bodies. Huang said that they were "flying" at a low altitude and that he didn't feel any wind, he also recounted that the brothers took turns carrying him on their back. In over an hour, the three had arrived in Beijing. They first went to the Chang'an Grand Theater without tickets and just like at the army base nobody stopped them. They watched an opera performance of Forced Onto Mt. Liang. Their next stop was Tiananmen Square and were in front of a Huabiao. The brothers who were now speaking standard Mandarin instead of their dialects introduced Huang to the surrounding areas and checked into a hotel showing the staff a "provincial-level introduction letter" for registration. That same day they then flew to Tianjin where they snuck into a movie theatre without tickets and watched a movie.
On September 22 they arrived in Harbin located in Heilongjiang Province. In Harbin, they visited a department store and then visited Changchun in Jilin Province. On September 23 they went to Shenyang in Liaoning Province. On September 25 they visited Fuzhou in Fujian Province before visiting Nanjing. They spend the next day in Nanjing. On September 27 they visited Xi'an in Shaanxi Province for the Mid-Autumn Festival. Also on September 27, they made their last stop returning to Lanzhou. When Huang went to sleep in their hotel room he woke up under the jujube tree mentioned earlier and was back in Dongbeigao Village
They travelled to every city via the brothers flying and according to Huang no matter how close or how far the city was the time it took to get there was always 1 hour. He also noted that the brothers could speak the local dialects of all the provinces they visited and whenever they went to hotels the brothers always had a "provincial-level introduction letter". One of the brothers always watched Huang while the other would borrow clothing such as police or military uniforms from somewhere Huang didn't know. Clothing and yuan for the accommodations and meals were the only items the brothers carried as they didn't seem to own items such as bags and wallets. Aside from their ability to fly to anywhere they wanted and their strange behaviour such as only carrying clothes and money, Huang said that they were seemingly normal human beings in every other aspect and ate and slept like anyone else. They also had the same body temperature as anyone else would The only rules they seemed to have were that Huang was not allowed to photograph them or anything and he couldn't keep any souvenirs from his trips. When Huang asked why they singled him out they wouldn't respond and when he asked if they could teach him how to fly like them or tell him how they learnt to do it they gave a firm "No" as their answer. Just as they had told him in the 9 days he was missing they had visited 9 different cities.
Huang was the talk of the village all over again and the superstitions that gods or ghosts were responsible continued. Eventually, the gossip around Huang had gotten to the point that the local police, propaganda department and the nearest military base had heard of Huang's story and began a very extensive investigation into Huang. Offical's believed that he was purposefully sabotaging the village's production and reputation and proceeded to classify him as a "class enemy" While being interrogated his behaviour was found to be "normal" and he showed no signs of mental illness or cognitive disorders. After they were unable to find any evidence of Huang being a threat they reluctantly let him go and revoked his "class enemy" status.
Huang's story became well known throughout China and is one of the country's most famous alleged paranormal events and even the government officially declares his case as "unexplained" This is not the end of Huang's story though.
On December 14, 2004, the case was reinvestigated by Zhang Jingping, an investigator of the Beijing Branch of the China UFO Association, Ji Jianmin, the chairman of the Feixiang UFO Association, and Dr. Wu, a famous Chinese hypnotist, professor of Peking University Medical Department. There was rather conclusive evidence of Huang's first two incidents as numerous witnesses as well as official telegrams all confirm that Huang had gone to sleep in his home village only to appear in Shanghai but there was far more doubt as to if he had been to any of the cities mentioned during his third disappearance.
Huang was put under hypnosis and asked what happened and he told the doctor the same story he did back in 1977. Huang eventually woke up from the hypnotic state claiming that one of the two brothers made him wake up. In 2004 a documentary was made by CCTV and several interviews and tests were conducted during the documentary. He was subjected to a polygraph test and he ended up failing the test and Huang refused to accept these results. Those administering the tests also admitted that Huang's declining memory, the 27-year gap between the test and the incident and the stress of being subjected to such a test for the first time may affect the results. During the documentary, the police based on Huang's descriptions also created composite sketches of Gao Dengmin and Gao Yanjin. Due to the advancement in China's transportation infrastructure, Huang was brought to Nanjing and he was able to retrace his steps and attempt to recreate his journey from the sidewalk to the former then non-existent military base.
They then brought Huang to the physiatric division of Beijing Anding Hospital where the lead doctor after reading his statements said that the brothers would've been travelling at supersonic speeds and that Huang had been sleepwalking or lying. Although nobody defended him from claims of sleepwalking his fellow villagers all refused to entertain the possibility that Huang was purposefully lying to them. They cited Huang's lack of motivation or ability to travel, how he travelled to Shanghai in such a short amount of time and how he had no reason to lie about it since telling his story caused him to become a laughing stock and lost him his fiance. Huang quite literally gain nothing from telling this story and it severely affected him negatively. Aside from a lack of evidence others supporting the lying theory state that Huang only claimed to have visited major cities prompting some to speculate that he just picked them out from a map and that oddly enough he never visited Shijiazhuang which is the capital of Hebei, the province that Huang actually lives in.
Huang was examined by other psychologists and mental health professionals who deemed Huang to be sane which is the source of the sleepwalking theory.
As this theory suggests, Huang was sleepwalking when he made his way to Nanjing and that the stories of the two brothers were just dreams he had while sleepwalking. Various Chinese netizens don't view this theory as credible since Huang while sleepwalking would need to either walk all the way to the train station in Handan (which would take 4 hours to drive to by car) and buy a tick with money he didn't have all while asleep. And while still sleeping once the train stopped in Zhengzhou he would've sleepwalked onto the next train to Shanghai all with nobody noticing he was sleepwalking and waking him up. Just to be sure though doctors performed an MRI scan of Huang's brain and the results came back normal.
The third theory is that Huang suffered from multiple personality disorder and that Gao Dengmin and Gao Yanjin were in fact Huang himself and that he just perceived them as different people due to his disorder. The Gao personalities are the ones that actually travel to the locations only for Huang's normal personality to take over once he arrives at the destination hence him waking up. This theory also states that Huang flying on their backs is actually just a fantasy of Huang Yanqiu's repressed personality. This theory doesn't stand up to scrutiny as various Mental Health officials have found Huang sane and that he would've shown signs of multiple personality disorder before and after the three incidents. This theory also wouldn't explain the short travel times and Lü Qingtang's wife and son also witnessing the two as separate people.
There is one more theory though it is from those who want to believe that it is all real and that Huang is telling the truth and that UFOs may be involved.
They looked further into Huang's claims to try and find any proof that he was in the cities mentioned during his third disappearance. According to one source when describing the weather they matched up with geological data at the time but this appears to be unconfirmed. A journalist went to the Chang'an Grand Theater in Beijing to look through their records and see if they ever held the same performance Huang claimed to have seen.
He discovered that the theatre closed due to the 1976 Tangshan Earthquake and wouldn't reopen until 1979 meaning that Huang could not have seen any performances in that theatre. However, there was another theatre nearby named the Jixiang Theater and they were open in 1977 and on September 21, 1977, the day Huang claimed to be in Beijing they held a performance of Forced Onto Mt. Liang. This journalist ruled that Huang hailing from a small and rural village could've easily confused two nearby and similar theatres in an unfamiliar environment such as the major city of Beijing.
There are also those who agree that Huang travelled at nearly supersonic speeds but instead have a more terrestrial explanation and that Huang fell victim to military experimentation.
This theory states that the military flew Huang to these cities for various experiments and that the Gao brothers were high-ranking officials in charge of the experiments. They then drugged Huang and made him undergo hypnosis to make him forget what he experienced. Many are skeptical of this theory because if the Chinese government wanted to conduct human experimentation they had a myriad of death row inmates and political prisons to draw upon so why instead abduct an innocuous rural farmer from his small village?
"The Huang Yanqiu Incident" remains one of China's most infamous unsolved mysteries but as of now, there have been no new developments as a now 67-year-old Huang has opted to live a quiet life in his village away from the cameras. The last bit of news from Huang came from 2008 when he underwent another round of mental evaluations
Sources
https://baike.baidu.com/item/%E9%BB%84%E5%BB%B6%E7%A7%8B%E4%BA%8B%E4%BB%B6/3270760
http://www.cctv.com/program/zoujinkexue/topic/science/C14443/20050729/100743.shtml
http://www.cctv.com/program/zoujinkexue/topic/science/C14443/20050729/100649.shtml
http://www.cctv.com/program/zoujinkexue/topic/science/C14443/20050728/102027.shtml
http://www.cctv.com/program/zoujinkexue/topic/science/C14443/20050727/102186.shtml
https://zhuanlan.zhihu.com/p/27626821
2023.04.01 12:30 welshmatt How close the event can you buy tickets?
Just about to take off from London due to arrive in 11 hrs approx 2.30pm LA time, if I get through border and customs checks quickly (doubtful) im going to to jump in a cab to the hotel a few miles away, drop off the wife and bags then go to Sofi. If I get there close to the start is that enough time to pick up a resale from somewhere like ticket master??
We both have tickets to tomorrow night anyway so not the end of the world if I don't make tonight but I don't want to rule it out!
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We both have tickets to tomorrow night anyway so not the end of the world if I don't make tonight but I don't want to rule it out!
2023.04.01 12:22 WinxieValVal How Much Would Food at Disneyland Cost Over an Almost Twenty Four Hour Period?
My school has decided that for Grad Night we are going to get to the Disneyland Resort when it first opens in the morning, spend the whole day playing in the parks with park hoppers, then at closing time meet up at California Adventure for the Grad Party that should last until about two in the morning.
Technically if Disneyland opens at eight in the morning and then closes at like ten, then that would actually be about 18 hours in the parks themselves with the party included. However, we have quite a trip to get all the way to Disneyland which is about two hours. Adding four hours for commute to the parks and back we still end up at about twenty two hours of adventure.
Given this situation, there is no way any of us will be able to pack enough food to last us all that time and carry it in a backpack or something. We certainly need to get food in the parks at some point. Since we will all be sleep deprived too, we probably are going to have to eat more than usual to make up for energy lost due to lack of sleep, and to make sure we are fueled for all this time without getting sick.
So seems like we need to eat throughout the day at the park, will likely be hungry after the long ride to the park, and my mom suggested that I buy a snack before the ride back so I can eat if I get hungry. My mom insists that I sit down and eat 3 good meals throughout the day at the very least in addition to staying hydrated and snacking if I feel like I may get a headache.
Last time I went to Disneyland I was so young that I can barely even remember it now and have no idea what to expect. So, for people who have experience eating at the park, how much do you think it would cost one person to eat those three meals. Given the energy that is needed for the park, how many snacks do you think would provide sufficient fuel in addition to those meals? Did you find that the food was good portion and filling, or would I have to buy a side or multiple servings to make it a good meal? How much should be budgeted in total to pay the plethora of all the above food expenses assuming we pack no snacks from home.
I want to be prepared for the worst so any food experiences relating to prices that can be shared will be helpful to me. I plan on bringing my own refillable water bottle for sure so at the very least I can be certain that I have hydration in the bag for me.
This long post is starting to feel like one of those unrealistic math problems where someone pays way too much money for 73 watermelons but then has to return 20 percent of them to the store for some reason and apparently has no idea how much they got refunded. Thank you if you made it this far into the reading.
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Technically if Disneyland opens at eight in the morning and then closes at like ten, then that would actually be about 18 hours in the parks themselves with the party included. However, we have quite a trip to get all the way to Disneyland which is about two hours. Adding four hours for commute to the parks and back we still end up at about twenty two hours of adventure.
Given this situation, there is no way any of us will be able to pack enough food to last us all that time and carry it in a backpack or something. We certainly need to get food in the parks at some point. Since we will all be sleep deprived too, we probably are going to have to eat more than usual to make up for energy lost due to lack of sleep, and to make sure we are fueled for all this time without getting sick.
So seems like we need to eat throughout the day at the park, will likely be hungry after the long ride to the park, and my mom suggested that I buy a snack before the ride back so I can eat if I get hungry. My mom insists that I sit down and eat 3 good meals throughout the day at the very least in addition to staying hydrated and snacking if I feel like I may get a headache.
Last time I went to Disneyland I was so young that I can barely even remember it now and have no idea what to expect. So, for people who have experience eating at the park, how much do you think it would cost one person to eat those three meals. Given the energy that is needed for the park, how many snacks do you think would provide sufficient fuel in addition to those meals? Did you find that the food was good portion and filling, or would I have to buy a side or multiple servings to make it a good meal? How much should be budgeted in total to pay the plethora of all the above food expenses assuming we pack no snacks from home.
I want to be prepared for the worst so any food experiences relating to prices that can be shared will be helpful to me. I plan on bringing my own refillable water bottle for sure so at the very least I can be certain that I have hydration in the bag for me.
This long post is starting to feel like one of those unrealistic math problems where someone pays way too much money for 73 watermelons but then has to return 20 percent of them to the store for some reason and apparently has no idea how much they got refunded. Thank you if you made it this far into the reading.
2023.04.01 12:18 El_do2123 Last NBME before exam
I have done NBMEs 25, 28, 30 qnd 31. I am taking the step 1 exam on Thursday. Is it good to take NBME 29 tomorrow (on Sunday), or is it too close to my exam? Thank you!
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2023.04.01 12:13 stackumbrella_yamini Ready for The Solar Storm: NASA-Enabled AI System May Warn in Advance About Solar Storm
 | Ready for The Solar Storm: NASA-Enabled AI System May Warn in Advance About Solar Storm submitted by stackumbrella_yamini to u/stackumbrella_yamini [link] [comments] https://preview.redd.it/268dkn6oz8ra1.png?width=696&format=png&auto=webp&s=58e8e3302fbeab5f524d03f7ea0640896a2b9320 The world is ready for tomorrow’s solar storm but where it hit it is still unknown. But NASA is ready to detect the location, where the solar storm hit earlier. NASA built a new computer model that uses AI to analyze the spacecraft measurements of the solar wind and predict where an impending solar storm will strike, anywhere on earth, with 30 minutes of advance warning. Solar Storm Devastating Impact on Technologieshttps://preview.redd.it/2t799vxrz8ra1.png?width=1214&format=png&auto=webp&s=abbc54aa809afaf4c23203348a3091d9323452ebThe sun constantly sheds solar materials both in a steady flow known as the “solar wind” and in shorter more energetic bursts from solar eruptions. When these solar materials hit the earth’s magnetic environment it creates so-called geomagnetic storms. The geomagnetic storm causes disruption in technologies like satellites and telecommunications. In history, there were two geomagnetic storms that hit the earth. First – In 1859 the solar storm was intense at the Carrington Event, which generate fires at the TV Stations. If it happens today, it causes more severe damage to global communications and it would be dangerous for the economy as well. Second – The second occurred in 1989 and caused electrical blackouts across Quebec for 12 hrs, which left millions of Canadians in the dark and closed schools and businesses. |
2023.04.01 12:09 BeholdTheArgonaut 50 [M4F] #Detroit, Michigan - Imagine older, experienced, rough, caring, hands on your skin…
...guiding you, taking control, calling you good girl when you earn it, and making you realize that you've always needed to call someone Daddy.
If your're a hard working, proud, ambitious, good girl between 18 and 28, with the wild side who likes older, successful, educated, Dominant men you should send me a message. If you stay in shape, we're a cheerleader, dancer, gymnast, or played another sport you should send me a message. If you're fashionable and try to look good for yourself and for your Daddy you should message me.
He's 50 years old, has owned and trained some amazing girls, takes pride in each of them, stays in shape, played high school and college American football, likes the outdoors, mountain biking, and being a daddy to a good girl like you.
Send me a message. I have a question for you. Please live somewhat close to me as this is reality to me, not just a fantasy. I'm not into androgyny or very short hair on women
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If your're a hard working, proud, ambitious, good girl between 18 and 28, with the wild side who likes older, successful, educated, Dominant men you should send me a message. If you stay in shape, we're a cheerleader, dancer, gymnast, or played another sport you should send me a message. If you're fashionable and try to look good for yourself and for your Daddy you should message me.
He's 50 years old, has owned and trained some amazing girls, takes pride in each of them, stays in shape, played high school and college American football, likes the outdoors, mountain biking, and being a daddy to a good girl like you.
Send me a message. I have a question for you. Please live somewhat close to me as this is reality to me, not just a fantasy. I'm not into androgyny or very short hair on women
2023.04.01 12:03 Zioben2013 For everyone reading: tonight i had a very long dream and i need help to analyze it, i need other perspective.
I’m into psychoanalysis since 2/3 months, i know i’m not able to anlyze my dreams, i’ve tried to ask my friends or my terapist their thoughts on other dreams but the answer didn’t convice me. Tonight i had this very long dream and i think you are the most accurate people to ask in the situation i am right now. So the dream starts like this:
mom and I take grandma to a hospice, at first it seems normal but then after noticing some details I start to understand that there was something wrong. The people we talked to always told us about the news. After a while we leave grandma there and then when I'm about to go back to the car I see mom sitting on a bench and I go and say what are you doing here, get up! but she really doesn't seem to want to go away, she says she has to have the coffee first, so the guardian brings her coffee but I insist on not letting her drink it and we leave, in this moment I understand that there is something strange, when we are going back to the car the news starts, everyone looks at it but in a strange way, as if hypnotized, so there we go to the car. Mom understands that this place isn't good and that grandma could be in danger so she gets out of the car to go back to get her but I stop her and tell her it's too dangerous, I force her into the car and I enter the back door, mom starts to go but she's not sure, she starts crying she says: we had to pick her up she can't stay there and I always tell her crying, we'll call the police and then tomorrow we'll go get her, she'll last for one night. and she cries and insists and I insist on telling her that we have to call the police and when they arrive we will go there. (there is a moment when the car is going downhill and she is about to stop and go back, however the car goes by itself because it is going downhill).). We get home, it's morning though, before it was night, we go to my room I'm in bed and she's sitting on the chair next to the cradle, she cries and says we have to go and I tell her no I can't I'm not coming I'm scared, I'm going close I try to hug her and tell her I love you but she moves away and then I tell her who are you?? And then she comes back and me and we hug. I leave the room and see that my sister has changed the doors of the room, now it looks like a medieval door and there are some wardrobe doors around, strange, I go back to the room and my mother is gone and I find 2 very large playstations on the desk. a very long television on the desk and another normal television which is the one I have. At this moment there is something that touches the playstation and almost drops it and I take it (it could be an animal maybe a cat) the playstation turns on and I try in every way to turn it off, I didn't want it to turn on. Then my sister arrives in the room and I tell her what have you done? She gives me some explanations and the dream finishes there.
i wrote the dream just after waking up, then when i saw my mother and sister i was a bit shocked.
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mom and I take grandma to a hospice, at first it seems normal but then after noticing some details I start to understand that there was something wrong. The people we talked to always told us about the news. After a while we leave grandma there and then when I'm about to go back to the car I see mom sitting on a bench and I go and say what are you doing here, get up! but she really doesn't seem to want to go away, she says she has to have the coffee first, so the guardian brings her coffee but I insist on not letting her drink it and we leave, in this moment I understand that there is something strange, when we are going back to the car the news starts, everyone looks at it but in a strange way, as if hypnotized, so there we go to the car. Mom understands that this place isn't good and that grandma could be in danger so she gets out of the car to go back to get her but I stop her and tell her it's too dangerous, I force her into the car and I enter the back door, mom starts to go but she's not sure, she starts crying she says: we had to pick her up she can't stay there and I always tell her crying, we'll call the police and then tomorrow we'll go get her, she'll last for one night. and she cries and insists and I insist on telling her that we have to call the police and when they arrive we will go there. (there is a moment when the car is going downhill and she is about to stop and go back, however the car goes by itself because it is going downhill).). We get home, it's morning though, before it was night, we go to my room I'm in bed and she's sitting on the chair next to the cradle, she cries and says we have to go and I tell her no I can't I'm not coming I'm scared, I'm going close I try to hug her and tell her I love you but she moves away and then I tell her who are you?? And then she comes back and me and we hug. I leave the room and see that my sister has changed the doors of the room, now it looks like a medieval door and there are some wardrobe doors around, strange, I go back to the room and my mother is gone and I find 2 very large playstations on the desk. a very long television on the desk and another normal television which is the one I have. At this moment there is something that touches the playstation and almost drops it and I take it (it could be an animal maybe a cat) the playstation turns on and I try in every way to turn it off, I didn't want it to turn on. Then my sister arrives in the room and I tell her what have you done? She gives me some explanations and the dream finishes there.
i wrote the dream just after waking up, then when i saw my mother and sister i was a bit shocked.
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2023.04.01 12:00 BM2018Bot Daily Discussion Thread: April 1, 2023
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Besides our well-known volunteer from home spreadsheet and weekly volunteer posts, we have some new initiatives to help you support Democrats across the country! Read on and sign up:
Introducing Campaign Central: a VoteDem VAN alternative project to help local campaigns organize!
Running for office is a major undertaking, and like any great journey, the first step is often the hardest. Our goal at VoteDem is to lower that barrier by developing a campaigning tool we can freely offer as a service to Democrats across the country. Campaign Central is a web-based platform that can load voter registration data, organize phone banking, text banking, canvassing, and much more! But to run this project, we need your help. We need volunteers to collect and upload voter registration data once per month (instructions provided), and a Python developer (preferably with experience using Odoo) to help build these tools.
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| New York | |
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| Ohio | u/aoi_to_midori |
| Oklahoma | |
| Vermont | |
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| Charles Garrison | Jacksonville, FL At Large 5 | Mar 21st | u/Hurrdurraj65 |
| Alton McGriff Jr. | Jacksonville, FL City Council 1 | Mar 21st | u/Hurrdurraj65 |
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| Janet Protasiewicz | WI Supreme Court | April 4th | u/Reptorian, u/Lotsagloom, u/Hurrdurraj65, u/table_fireplace, u/SGSTHB, u/Wes_Anderson_Cooper, u/ornery-fizz, u/molybdenum75 |
| Sara Geenen | Wisconsin Court of Appeals District 1 | April 4th | |
| Jodi Habush Sinykin | Wisconsin State Senate District 8 | April 4th | u/SaltResearcher4, u/Pipboy3500 |
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2023.04.01 11:59 TAnephewbirthday WIBTA if I didn’t give my eldest nephew a birthday present?
I (25f) recently went to visit my brother(38) with my dad(70) and son(10 months).
My brother has 4 kids, my niece (18), and 3 boys (12,10 and 7). For the most part they are really nice kids - my niece and I are really close as the kids had a rough upbringing (homelessness, mum was an alcoholic and drug user) so I support my niece with her mental health issues as I also live with BPD. The two younger boys are absolutely lovely and played really well with my son, who is learning to walk, and would help him walk around the flat. The eldest, however, has always had a bit of an attitude problem but has gotten way worse since he started secondary school. He ignores his dad, swears at his siblings and his dad thinks he’s either stealing from his mum or from shops as he keeps coming home with things with no explanation of how he got them.
At one point my son fell over while he was walking, and the other eldest said “ha, what a r*tard.”
I immediately told him off and said you shouldn’t call anyone that as it’s not nice, but especially not a baby who is still learning. I also said he was lucky his dad and grandad didn’t hear him as they don’t take lightly to that word because my brother and I have a severely disabled cousin. His response was “why not? He is a r*tard.” I walked away because quite frankly I didn’t want to deal with his attitude.
He then started complaining to his dad and grandad about having to wear a suit and tie to my sister’s wedding, and said he’d wear jean shorts and a casual shirt. My dad said “if you aren’t going to dress properly then don’t come”, and my nephew said something along the lines of “fine by me, I don’t want to go to a shitty wedding anyway”.
I understand that he’s still young, but the fact that he happily calls people r*tards, never mind a baby, despite being told that it’s wrong doesn’t sit right with me and I think he needs to learn that his actions have consequences. His birthday isn’t until august which is why I think I might be TA if I didn’t get him a present as he probably will have forgotten that this even happened by then.
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My brother has 4 kids, my niece (18), and 3 boys (12,10 and 7). For the most part they are really nice kids - my niece and I are really close as the kids had a rough upbringing (homelessness, mum was an alcoholic and drug user) so I support my niece with her mental health issues as I also live with BPD. The two younger boys are absolutely lovely and played really well with my son, who is learning to walk, and would help him walk around the flat. The eldest, however, has always had a bit of an attitude problem but has gotten way worse since he started secondary school. He ignores his dad, swears at his siblings and his dad thinks he’s either stealing from his mum or from shops as he keeps coming home with things with no explanation of how he got them.
At one point my son fell over while he was walking, and the other eldest said “ha, what a r*tard.”
I immediately told him off and said you shouldn’t call anyone that as it’s not nice, but especially not a baby who is still learning. I also said he was lucky his dad and grandad didn’t hear him as they don’t take lightly to that word because my brother and I have a severely disabled cousin. His response was “why not? He is a r*tard.” I walked away because quite frankly I didn’t want to deal with his attitude.
He then started complaining to his dad and grandad about having to wear a suit and tie to my sister’s wedding, and said he’d wear jean shorts and a casual shirt. My dad said “if you aren’t going to dress properly then don’t come”, and my nephew said something along the lines of “fine by me, I don’t want to go to a shitty wedding anyway”.
I understand that he’s still young, but the fact that he happily calls people r*tards, never mind a baby, despite being told that it’s wrong doesn’t sit right with me and I think he needs to learn that his actions have consequences. His birthday isn’t until august which is why I think I might be TA if I didn’t get him a present as he probably will have forgotten that this even happened by then.