Hello,
Sorry in advance for the long post!
About two weeks ago I was hired for an assistant buyeinventory controller position at a steel fabricator position. Interview process was bizarre, asked me random questions, and then 2 days later was given an offer. Signed an offer and then hopped into work last Monday.
They knew I had zero experience in steel/construction based on my resume, learning all of their inventory to then go and handle their PRs was new to me. They train me for maybe one hour total on the first day, with their training basically 8 - 10 lines of writing in a Google Doc re: their PPO process, including what vendors to go and grab quotes from, etc. Very little in the way of anything else, they even told me to put the hours that I was “trained” in another doc, just make something up they said.
I asked a ton of questions, especially when they wanted me to use this very old software called American Contractor to finalize POs and PO receipts. Bouncing between Excel, this software, and Google Sheets, they then threw me in and had me handle multiple inventory deliveries and a PR + PO on the first day. They also had me go and do material ID for inspectors to approve the material for the projects they were working on. I feel overwhelmed, and a weird sense of not belonging.
The next day I make a mistake and put the wrong PO# on the PO submission and in the PO book. My supervisor tells me that, and then I email all the vendors and tell them I need them to send me a Sales Ordeconfirmation with the correct PO. Get that squared away and then go about handling more inventory/delivery, while trying to learn about different pieces of steel so that when I fill an order, I know what I’m buying to guarantee I don’t order the wrong thing.
The next day, my third, I continue to handle more PO’s and deliveries, asking even more questions. I follow through by getting all of the correct PO numbered items, and keep trying to learn and ask questions. They have an interview that day, and I ask my supervisor for what position. She says “we will see” in broken English as 90% of the employees all speak Chinese as their first language, with some of them not speaking any English. I get a bad feeling that they were trying to fill my position already.
To wrap this up, I made an error in the PO book and put the wrong date and wrong date formatting (5/23/23 instead of 05/23/2023) on three deliveries/ entries into Inventory on the fourth day. Friday, I get the hang of things and start getting organized, only to be told I was being let go due to too many errors. I take full absolute responsibility for my mistakes, I always apologized and corrected them once they were pointed out to me, but I got mixed signals from the Inventory Controller, he told me not to worry constantly, while my supervisor would try and make me realize my mistakes. Were my errors seriously egregious? Or was I most likely let go for some other reason/being a bad fit?

Hi and hello!
Hope this is okay to do -
I just wanted to briefly mention that a feature film that I was a part of producing is playing in a week's time (Thursday, June 8) at Arkadin Cinema. 7 PM. If you haven't been to the Arkadin yet, it's somewhat new - extremely cool space run by lovely people, great programming - a must visit, IMO.
What's the film? It's called YELLING FIRE IN AN EMPTY THEATER. It was a selection at the 2022 Slamdance Film Festival and was recently picked up by FandoCinedigm. We've been doing a kind of roadshow with the movie and so far have hit about twenty different cities around the US. This is our final leg of the tour and we're excited to bring the film to St. Louis.
We do not have the funds to be able to travel and be there in person, but writedirector Justin Zuckerman will be Zoom-ing in after the movie for a post-screening discussion.
There are really not too many good ways to get the word out about a small movie like this anymore - thought I'd pop on here just to let you know the movie exists, in the off-chance it happens it might be to someone's taste who can go.
The movie is something of an homage (and kind of a satire?) on the 'mumblecore' movies of the 2000s - it was shot for $2.5k on a miniDV camcorder, in a Brooklyn apartment whose rent was more than the entire shooting budget. It's an often-absurd comedy about a young woman who moves from FL to NYC and gets entangled in the crumbling relationship of the couple she moves in with.
We've had some good press and reviews for the movie, and if you're an aspiring filmmaker or just someone who enjoys small movies, I think you might like it.
Here's the trailer.
Thanks for taking a peek, friends! Hope to virtually see you there.

So, i switched over to EndeavourOS Cinnamon, I have noticed some applications are extremely slow.
list of apps i have noticed that take up too 30 seconds. Image creator (print screen), calculator, OBS, Firefox
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My wife and I have been together for almost 10 years, married for about 5 years, and have a 1-year-old son. We both work typical 9-5 office jobs and our son goes to daycare during the week. We have lived in our house for nearly 4 years, and have really worked hard to make it a home for our family. We had a great relationship as husband and wife before our son was born, but we have hit a rough patch in recent months.
The first few months of our son’s life were very difficult and stressful. He wasn’t sleeping more than 1-2 hours at a time and was often sick. My wife was able to stay home with him for the first 3 months while on maternity leave, and I would come home to a very distressed situation on a daily basis during that time. I know it was challenging for her to take care of him full time, and I would take over baby duty after work and often let my wife sleep all night so she could get some well deserved rest.
This pattern continued for a while as we became more and more sleep deprived, and chores and other responsibilities around the house fell to the wayside. We ended getting in a bit of a disagreement around the 6-month mark where she expressed that I was not helping enough around the house and with the baby after she went back to work and that she felt unappreciated for all of her efforts. My wife typically does all of our laundry, takes the baby to and from daycare (which is on her way into the office) and does a great job budgeting and planning most of our family activities. My responsibilities include caring for the outside of the home (landscaping, lawn mowing, etc.), as well as cooking, doing most of the other household cleaning, caring for our pets, and completing household projects and renovations when we had time.
Unfortunately, I did, and still do believe that there was validity to her argument. I was beyond tired, stressed from work, money, and just generally being overwhelmed by all of the stressors that come with being a working first-time parent. I did neglect my duties as a husband to my wife, and I promised to her as well as myself to make a better effort to be there for her.
I genuinely do appreciate all that my wife does for our family and she really shines as a mother. During this same argument, I also expressed my feelings about that status of our relationship. At the 6-month mark after the birth of our son, we had not had sex since his conception, probably about 16 months at that point. We did not have sex at all during the pregnancy, which was a little over 10 months. I told her that I did not feel that she was attracted to me, and reminded her of just how infrequently she would show me any type of affection. Kisses were no more frequent than goodbyes before work or goodnights before bed. Hugs felt cold, and any advances toward intimacy I attempted were shut down as quickly as they started. I told her that this made me feel unloved, unappreciated, and crushed my confidence. Throughout our nearly 10 years together, my love language of physical touch and high sex-drive were both well established, but she seemed surprised by my feelings.
She defended her actions by saying that her hormones were wreaking havoc, she was too tired,and that she was not confident with her body enough to share it with me anymore. She also said she was often “touched out” from holding our son and didn’t want to be touched in any capacity. I completely understood the hormone angle, as this can take over a year to regulate postpartum. However, I reassured her that even though her body may not be the same, I had never been more attracted to her than I am after seeing her become a mother and my desire for her has not diminished at all. Hearing the “touched out” sort of felt like she wasn’t considering my needs at all, and honestly hurt emotionally, especially after I voiced my thoughts on the subject. It really felt like a complete dismissal of my feelings.
After the argument / discussion, I really made a conscious effort to work on being a better husband and addressing the needs she expressed to me. I more or less took over getting up with our son in the middle of the night, getting him ready in the morning for daycare, making his bottles, feeding him dinner, putting him to bed, and gave her time to even get back into a workout routine. I started to help with laundry, and even cleaned the house during the week if I worked from home. All of this was in effort to address her needs from me, let her get some rest and personal time, and perhaps selfishly, try to get the physical component of our relationship back on track.
She has since hit her goal (pre-pregnancy) weight and looks amazing. I don’t even think she looks any different than she did almost 10 years ago. Myself, I may only be a 6.5/10 on a good day, but I had also been dieting and have gotten in the best shape of my life. I am 30lbs lighter than when we were first married, and I feel / look so much better.
At any rate, I do not think my wife has made any effort in the 7 months since that discussion. Though I have made attempts to romance her, surprise her, be spontaneous, and initiate, we have not had sex for nearly 2 years. She has not made any efforts, and has turned me down at every instance. She generally seems uninterested in me at all. I feel lost, and don’t know where to turn.
I have broached the subject a few times since during this time span, and even suggested scheduling sex and counseling. None of my suggestions gain any traction with her, and I’ve honestly given up hope at this point. I have stopped making attempts at initiating any type of physical touch. Going without has gotten easier as the repeated instances of rejection compiled. I feel depressed, and have had to seek therapy recently for the first time in my life.
She talks about wanting another baby, but I don’t know if I can keep living this way. I want to be there for my son, and I can’t stomach the thought of not being able to see him every day if we were to separate or divorce. I especially do not want to bring another child into the world with someone who may have fallen out of love with me. It would not be fair to the future baby, our son, or to ourselves if we are not able to resolve our issues and stabilize our future together.
I love my wife and son more than anything, and my wife has really stuck by me during some tough times in years past. That being said, I am done feeling as though I am being tolerated and want more than anything to feel wanted again by the woman I married. I miss it. I yearn for her and her touch, but I also have needs of this nature that she is unwilling to meet or even try to meet. I know that I am a good dad to my son, and I know that I can be, and am a good husband deserving of love and affection.
My therapist told me that journaling and collecting my thoughts could help me find some answers. Since I’m not one for journaling or keeping a diary, I decided to post on here for the first time ever. I’m hoping that someone who reads this may be able to provide some perspective and maybe even share their own experience and advice for the future. Any support, advise, criticism, and even reality-checks are all welcome.

As the title suggests, i am thinking about applying to a place that i quit w/o notice after 2-3 weeks i believe (can’t remember) 10 years ago. I know this may or may not be a good idea but i figure that enough time has passed that it shouldn’t come up since it will be for a completely different role, department and location. I was pretty immature at that stage in my life and know that it was an unprofessional move looking back on it. How should i go about this?
I’m not hard pressed either way as i am more interested in the role specifically vs wanting to go back to this company because i miss it and made a mistake. I am strictly interested in the role and the schedule of said role but i know that at some point in the process they may ask if i ever worked at the company so this is where i’m at a crossroads.

Hey everyone, sharing with you the worst heartbreak in my life.
We were only together for 2 months, but I fell deeply in love with her. It's not her fault, I broke my own heart. On our first date, she told me she was leaving the country in 2 months to be abroad for a year and we had a great conversation about what she wants to do with her life, so I understood that completely and was very happy for her.
Slowly, we started clicking with each other a lot more while she was here. At first, we met once a week, then we started meeting up twice a week and before we realized it, she was staying at mine for days.
She was a 10 out of 10 person - empathetic, kind, beautiful soul, family-oriented, understanding, enthusiastic and beautiful in and out. During our relationship, I needed to get a surgery and when I told her about it, she supported me 100%. Even after my surgery, she stayed at mine for 3 nights to help me without asking her - she insisted. She cooked, brought me food, we went on light walks outside and helped me to get around. When she did this for me, I realized she was the one.
We could talk about anything. We were always close to each other, she was looking me with love, but never told me she loved me.
It was the 3rd day when she stayed at mine, we were in bed and I told her she can call me her partner from now on, she said the same and we stayed in bed all day.
During the entire time whenever the topic would come up, I completely supported her decision to go abroad because I believe that living abroad enriches your personality and you develop as a person. I was a 100% supportive of her going to experience this trip the way she wanted it before she met me and was confident in our relationship without it being bearing while abroad. I was going to tell her in the end that I will not bother her while she is there and she shouldn't care about someone abroad while she is living her life there. We said we will still talk on the phone and catchup, but I wanted her to experience it the way she wanted it. Our plans were for me to visit her 3 times while she was there and talk. I met her family on Facetime, she has seen mine, we talked about future life together, plans, coming to her home country and being with her family. She wanted to visit mine too and be together. We would think about the places we will visit in her hometown and how great it will be.
Fast forward to 2 weeks before she was leaving abroad, she needed to go on a work trip. This is when things started getting messed up, I noticed she wasn't responsive or didn't want to talk. When that happens to me, I still message her about my day and asked about hers. I noticed that she was replying slowly or not calling me to talk, so I brushed it off that she was just busy.
Until she came back, I suggested if she wanted to stay at mine until she leaves and she agreed. It was the best 3 days after until one night we both went to bed, I was stressed about work because I was getting booked for meetings at the time when she was supposed to leave abroad, so I kept declining them with my boss. It was 12AM at night and I was looking at the ceiling, on the same night she was very distant with me and pulled out her phone and started texting a friend. I could see that she was hiding it to her own, but I understood she has her boundaries. I stare at the ceiling for 10 minutes, and she asks me: "What's keeping you awake".
I said: "Just thinking about you going abroad", and then decided to tell her about my manager who was booking me on meetings at the time she was leaving. She told me: "see this is what I mean, I have been thinking when I was on my work trip and a friend of mine encouraged me to do it, I think we should break up before I leave, because LDRs never work" This shattered me into pieces, I started crying, and told her: "I want to tell you something, but please you don't have to respond with the same...I love you, and I can't believe we are doing this". I cried a lot.
After that, my life was completely shattered. I didn't know what to do because we were staying together, so we would bring it up from time to time. I realized though she was already checked out, because ever since the news, we didn't have any intimate connection, she became distant, sleeping on the other side of the bed, didn't hug me or showed any affection.
We tried making our last moments together here count, but I just couldn't stop thinking about her leaving and us breaking up when we planned to stay together. This shattered me into pieces, until the last day, I said to myself, I will make her last day best so we had breakfast then a great dinner and went to bed. Her flight was on the next day so I came with her to the airport, we were there and all I was thinking is how I will probably never see her again. The time came, we said our goodbyes, I cried a lot but tried to hold it, she saw I was crying and while I was sobbing I said: "Have the best time with your friends and enjoy every second of it, and never feel guilty about leaving, because you told me from the beginning". She said "This is not over, we will see each other in 3/4 months when you come here for work" and she left, I saw her in the distance leaving and it felt like my whole world was broken, like I lost half of my heart.
Ever since then, we started talking weekly, then it turned into bi-weekly and now I haven't heard from her for over a month. We only texted, but I am always initiating the contact and she doesn't reply consistently. I called her 2 days ago twice and since then, she hasn't messaged me or called me. I also saw she is on dating apps. It broke me, but I am finding peace. Maybe it will work out in the future, maybe it won't, but I love her and I don't know how to stop thinking about her. It's been 2 months since she left and I am still thinking about her all the time.

Target User: u/Just-Tryna-Socialize
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In other words, an account I follow is hosting a giveaway this week. They will tweet a code and the first 10 people to enter the code on their site win. I’m wondering if, aside from refreshing their Twitter page, there is a way to monitor their tweets in real-time, without the need to be constantly refreshing? Thanks all!

I have posted here before from a much lower place, but since then I have significantly improved and this year I started off really strong. I did Dry January with only a couple slips, and more importantly (to me) I actually continued to have reasonable drinking habits all the way into March. For me, this means not drinking more days of the week than drinking, and not getting any mega-hangovers or blacking out at all when I do drink. Might be a low bar, but it was working for a while. School and work were keeping me busy and I was doing great on fitness goals (working out at the gym at least every other day). Around March, school got harder and I got busier, so the fitness goals kinda went out the window. Soon, I was basically in survival mode and kinda forgot about my other goals as well. Suddenly I was drinking almost everyday and blacking out occasionally on the weekends again.
Once school ended for the summer, I had about 2 weeks between then and a big vacation to southern CA my friend and I had been planning since December. Obviously I wasn't gonna bother getting back on track in that time. I was bummed I had let go of my fitness goals and actually gained probably 10-15 lbs (kinda a lot on my small frame) but knew I had no real shot of making a difference before the trip, so I decided to "prepare for the trip" by drinking even more "improve my tolerance" and walking like 7 miles a day to prepare for getting around Los Angeles sans car (and because spending more time walking prevented me from improving my tolerance too much). Obviously this was misguided. By the time we left, I was accustomed to at least one bottle of wine and 2+ hours of walking daily. I had a lot of fun on the trip actually.
However, after the trip I heard from a mutual friend that the friend I went with was annoyed about how much I prioritized alcohol on the trip. I hadn't realized I was doing it at the time, but looking back I think I get what she meant.
One night, I (24f) walked about half a mile alone at night in downtown LA to get to the nearest liquor store because my friend said she didn't want to go out that night (she was quite tired). I then drank like 4 mini-wine bottles that night and was a hungover mess in the morning, all while my friend was apparently trying to relax/sleep. I also repeatedly turned down any food place that didn't serve booze, because frankly if I couldn't get a little buzz with the meal I wasn't very interested. Even if we were starving. Even if the nearest bar was miles away. Even when my friend wanted to go somewhere less expensive because she is more averse to credit card debt than I am (she is definitely the responsible one). In retrospect, I also dragged us to more bars and spent more on alcohol than my friend was probably comfortable with. Apparently there were also some drunken rants that were much less entertaining to other people than they were to myself.
We probably also did miss out on some fun activities that I didn't act enthused about because I knew alcohol wouldn't be involved. We also did not spend much time actually relaxing aside from when drinking, which was fine with me, but I later learned that drinking is actually not relaxing for everyone and my friend was super burnt out from work and was really hoping to have some more down time on the trip. I also realized upon hearing about this that part of the reason my friend kept offering me edibles is because she noticed I wanted to drink less when I was violently stoned, which made me less annoying apparently.
I am MORTIFIED that I, while not ruining outright, definitely detracted from this trip with my preoccupation with alcohol. We had been planning and looking forwards to this since December.
I feel so bad for being a shitty travel companion, especially after we had been so excited and I had been at least half-assedly working on myself to try to be a better person to be around.
This is mainly a vent post, but I would love to hear any advice on making it up to this friend and proving that I can be a better travel companion in the future. I enjoyed traveling with her, and logistically we enjoy many of the same activities, have a similar budget and schedule and have been close for a long time-- so I was hoping that this would be the first of many vacations with her and potentially others in the future. Really hoping I didn't do any serious damage to the friendship, and I am not sure how I can even figure out how bad it is or how to fix it.
Obviously this has also made me reevaluate my relationship to alcohol as well. Big surprise, a couple weeks off and a couple months of moderation did not magically fix me. I also want to get back to my fitness goals, as the pictures from this vacation definitely show the weight gain. Alcohol had never made me gain weight in the past, but as my drinking got worse this past semester it was accompanied by binge eating and heavy meals in general, partly in a misguided attempt to minimize hangovers and not get too drunk too fast. That and having very little self control around food while drunk.
I am definitely still in a better place than I was 2 years ago, but I am disappointed with myself.

i got dumped by my boyfriend of almost a year about 3 weeks ago. we fought quite a bit, mostly things i started. but we were best friends, hungout 3 times a week every single week. he told me he had never had a girl love him so much, and he has never felt this way. i have never trusted anyone to the extent i trusted him. he would always fix problems, get me flowers, buy me things, surprise me at work, hungout with my family. 10/10 boyfriend. made me the most happy i have ever felt. i felt at peace with him, when i touched him i felt soft amazing energy. i have never felt like this. he is in a metal band which caused quite a few fights. we would fight over stupid things, but we fought almost other time we saw eachother. the good was really good, and the bad was really bad. i would say the good 100% out weighed the bad. he told me the best times of his life have been with me. i feel the exact same. we have gone on fun trips, had great sex, and gave each other stupid nicknames. he really changed my life. my life felt like sparkles with him. we got into a really intense fight one night, and the next day he just dumped me. he told me he felt like he was walking on eggshells around me and was done fighting. it was right before a trip to turks and caicos, and 2 weeks before our one year. i went on the trip myself. it was the worst time of my life. i was so depressed thinking of him constantly. we had a great week up until that fight. and then everything was ruined. we didn’t talk at all that week. he was binge drinking after dumping me. since then he has been giving me so many mixed signals. he asked me to hangout, and it was great. we kissed, stayed up until 3 and i thought we worked through things. but we are still broken up. he has told me i am the love of his life, and he pictures a future with me. he doesn’t want to be with anyone but me, but just feels depressed. he says he feels lost. i don’t know what to do to fix things. i have tried sticking with him, apologizing, showing him i will change. nothing works. i feel heartbroken and empty.

What does "Arhlo" mean and how'd you come up with it?
Arhlo: My oldest child's name is Thomas Arlo. There are a lot of Arlo's in the producer hemisphere so I doubled down and threw in the "h" to help make my name unique.
So speaking on that is it true you produced lullabies for your son during his infancy?
Arhlo: Yes. I felt creative enough and alert enough to do this. I knew what lullabies were. Very simple melodies. The point of a lullaby is to make someone sleep, no? I did that and made a soundtrack to my (then) infants life to help them go to sleep. I actually made 5 more lullabies when my second was born. I played them once for him and deleted them forever. I am weird about keeping my songs out in the open. I don't like attention.
Now digging a little deeper into YOU, you went through the Icon Collective course, ultimately do you feel it was a worthy experience, would you recomend it to other producers who are on the fence about it?
Arhlo: YES. 100%. Granted, I didn't physically attend Icon, but my experience has made me who I am today. Icon will throw out ideas you thought to be canon, and then shake up your life more. I was able to nuture and grow my strength as a producer through their curriculum. Icon was the difference between wanting to do something, and doing the f*cking thing.
You also went to school for jazz as well, yeah?
Arhlo: Correct. I spent almost 3 years going to college for Jazz performance. That was my major when I left. I grew up in Connecticut, and subsequently went to school in the state as well. I used to sit through jazz history classes, then take the train into NYC to go to jazz clubs like 55 Bar and Smalls and hear some of the greatest players in the world. Unfortunately 55 is now closed but I have fond memories of taking $50 to take the MTA into Grand Central, walking an hour down to the village, and going to one of the aforementioned clubs to spend my last dollar to hear these cats play. It is still the Mecca for musicians. No doubt about it.
I heard a rumor you had an ep mixed and mastered by Mayhem?
Arhlo: Yes the EP is on my private soundcloud. I just didn't feel it was right to release it at that time. Maybe now might be the time. I don't know. My barometer for music culture is so out of touch I didn't even know Alison Wonderland was pregnant until a week ago
So now that we have our more basic questions out of the way; we are gonna get a little personal, because we know you personally.
Arhlo: Understood. Cue the Shaq meme.
We have been to A LOT of shows together, that night at tabernacle, was waiting with me an hour and a half worth it?(you bought those tickets)
Arhlo: Yes. We saw an amazing show. Rickyxsan and NGHTMRE? Are you kidding me? Then we waited in the pouring rain. Luckily we caught Tyler coming out of the venue with Ricky and got to chat with them. Between Tyler blowing up and Ricky holding it down for the underground, we had an awesome time picking brains and taking names. (NGHTMRE) is an outlier in terms of mainstream artists, he is a consummate professional. He told us that he gave away the majority of his profits to increase the value of the show for the audience, something that is not done today at all by artists at his level. He would use his profit and throw it into the production, so the lights, sound, and overall experience were pieces that were curated and amplified due to his hard work and what he contributed to the production.
So when we talk about great djs, what sepates, a good dj from a bad dj?
Arhlo: A bad DJ plays what people want to hear; a good DJ plays what they want to hear. If the two sync up in some sort of serendipitous way, that's a great dj.
If you could have a conversation with yourself on the day you started pursuing music, what would you say?
Arhlo: I would tell myself to make music that makes myself happy. Don't try to be someone you're not, be the creative that you organically are. That's how one gets a unique sound and it's how you develop and evolve as a producer.
Whats a piece of advice you were never given, but try to pass on to other DJs?
Arhlo: The piece of advice that I try to pass on is that you're going to be faced with a lot of rejection. A musician I admire once told me you will fail 9/10 times, but that 1 time will make all the difference. Just brush off the rejection and move on. There's no time to dwell on rejection.
Who has helped you the most or supported you the most, this is the time to shoutout and thank your folks!
Arhlo: First off I want to thank YOU. You have supported me since the day we met. You're a true friend and fan and will always be there to support and give advice. You're honest and extremely helpful when it comes to bouncing ideas around and showing you WIP's. Other "mentors" I've had that have helped me get to where I am as a producer and DJ today include Protohype, my first mentor at Icon, Mayhem, for being the premier Atlanta producer and DJ, Pryzms, who has had an amazing journey here in Atlanta, and Blvk Sheep. I've taken several lessons from Blvk Sheep over the years and he has great knowledge when it comes to not only the craft, but the industry as well.

I built a Tekno ET 48 2.0 somewhere around mid-late 2021. Parts listed below. I am trying to figure out if I did something wrong or if I maybe got a lemon ESC. I only drove the car 3-4 times between then and now. I know this seems crazy but my XMaxx and other RC's took up the time. Anyhoo, I really wanted to rip the truggy.
About a week ago I had it out and raced it around on the road in front of my house and my front lawn. After about 15-20 minutes I drove it over to where I was sitting to make sure all was well and it looked fine (looked fine being the key words). I drove it away and it made it about 12 feet and then made a super loud pop and stopped moving. The ESC blew a capacitor.
I know it's to late for a the Hobbywing warranty but I would like to get it up and running again. I bought a Castle copperhead 10 esc/motor combo for my Slash and its awesome so my plan unless I am told it's a bad idea is to go with a Castle Mamba Monster X 8S 1/6 Brushless. The Hobbywing said 2-6S but I don't think it could handle the power.
I know enough about gearing to be dangerous. That being said I don't think I over geared it. Let me know if you think I did. Also, Can I use the sensored Hobbywing motor w/ the Castle ESC? I don't think there is anythinng wrong w/ the motor and I really don't want to have to buy a new motor and ESC.
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BUILD:
Tekno ET 48 2.0 kit
Pro-Line MX38 Badlands HP Belted 3.8 Tires
Hobbywing Xerun XR8 Plus G2S Brushless ESC/4268SD G3 Motor Combo
Tekno RC "M5" Hardened Steel 5mm Bore 15T Mod 1 Pinion
44T Spur Gear
Savox SB-2290SG Black Edition Servo
ProTek RC QS8 Anti-Spark Connectors
Common Sense RC Lectron Pro 6S 22.2V 5200mah 50C Lipo

I've met this shy guy on Bumble, we had one date that he initiated, which was a very simple date, he didn't talk much but he warned me beforehand that he is shy and that it takes him some time to open up. We messaged each other a lot through WhatsApp, he went on vacation for 10 days and he sent me pictures daily and kept me up to date on what he is doing and always checked in on me. When he returned from vacation I had a few drinks with my friends and posted pictures if anyone could get me home, with the intention of him offering me a ride. He messaged me that he can get me home which was great. I was happy to see him, at the end we kissed and it was a really great first kiss. We messaged for a few days after the kiss and he asked if we wanted to go for a walk in the park again and I said anything is fine. Also I should mention that I initiated messages most of the time because he told me he was shy. Anyways I stopped messaging him and there was no message from him for over a week now.
I feel like a fool. Did he like me, is he too shy, is he scared, does he have someone else?
The problem is that I can't move on because I developed these stupid feelings for him...