The family jewels lyrics

I’m chronically ill, like I’m having surgery for cancer this week, and he is very supportive on my sick days but when I’m sick I don’t really complain, I just seclude myself and rest. If I can’t rest, for whatever reason, I push through and keep it to myself because I don’t see value in repeatedly saying “ughhhhg I don’t feel good”
He doesn’t get sick often, but when he does, I don’t hear the end of it. I can’t talk to him about anything, ANYTHING, without him responding “ugh I don’t care I feel like ****” or “I can’t think about that cus I’m sick”. I mean it’s non stop. We have a kid, and when our kid talks to him, they deal with the same thing except he says “daddy is so sick right now”.
On top of that he never wants to go to the doctor or rest in bed, he’s so comfortable being sick in front of everyone.
I hate that because I’m his wife I feel like I need to baby him but I can’t do it. I do feel bad that he’s sick, of course I do, but what am I supposed to do? He is such a downer and I don’t even know how to tell him to just leave the rest of the family alone and feel better than to try and be apart of the family and be so annoying.

My parents are divorced and my mother got remarried. My dad hates it as he is a mutual friend. Since he can’t take his frustration on my mother (last time he did, she called the cops on him as he was stalking her), he takes it on me and makes my life difficult.
I’m a 23 year old female I can move out but I’m scared he’ll stalk me as well and make my life difficult. I don’t know if I would be able to call cops on him because of the emotional attachment I’ve towards him.
However I feel like he’s utilising that. He doesn’t want me to visit her. He doesn’t like if I go out apart from uni and work. The other day he took my car keys so that I won’t go. He threatens me by saying he’ll make my mothers life difficult. He behaves nicely and cook for me at times but he swears at me and does controlling behaviours otherwise. He blames me for my mom leaving. My mental health is at its lowest. The best thing to do is to move from this place but I don’t know if I’ve the courage for it.
My whole life has been. Affected by him. When he makes it difficult I’ve to cancel shifts and fall behind on assignments. I need help. I’ve no one to talk to who can help me. His friends or family doesn’t know this side of him.

For personal reasons I won't be disclosing age or anything too revealing. (there's a lot more to this past info I could add but I really can't think straight) I am posting this because I really don't know what to do. I don't know what I did to deserve this life. My mother allowed me to be molested as a child for her BF (call him jack), she then made it so he didn't get in trouble and I live with him to this day. (he doesn't do anything anymore, never even speaks to me unless someone else is there). I've never had friends, never been able to make or keep them. My sister (call her nani) is really horrific to me, although I can be too. I have a boyfriend of nearly three years (call him ron) but our relationship was filled with him cheating, lying, and going behind my back since the beginning. With all of this you can understand why it has been made clear why I do not feel loved or wanted in anyway. Not by family, not friends, not my boyfriend. Nothing. In middle school I tried to commit multiple times. No one ever knew besides my boyfriend. In highschool was when the attempts became serious, held some stuff to my head never had any balls to do it ya know. I just don't get it, I don't get what there is to live for. I have nothing, people alwasy say there's something better waiting, and that life is worth it, but it's not. I have a severely mentally ill mother who expects me to raise the child she had with jack, I have no freinds, not even Ron wants me. I just don't know what I have left, I've really been feeling all the pain lately, I don't know how I am supposed to grow when I am stuck in this house with that horriblr man. I just don't get why it was me. What did I do in my past life to deserve this. Why. I just feel like such a horrible person, that's why nobody wants to be my friend and why my family hates me. I just don't get it. I realliy don't. It's just like why couldn't I be loved. Why am I such a bad person, what have I done. What's the point. Why can't people just love me. Nani treats me like I am the worst person on the earth, but maybe I am, maybe I am as ugly as she says I am. Maybe I am as ungrateful as my mom says I am. Maybe I am just a burden, a sick, worthless burden. With no value, why am I here. Why do I deserve this. Why. I just don't get what I am meant to do. I don't get why I don't deserve good things. Why can't I just have friends.

Hello All,
We just moved into a house that has an inground chlorine pool that's about 30' x 15'. There's no vacuum or any other tools (net/brush) in the house. The previous owner simply had a pool service come in once a week. My wife would like to try our hand at maintaining the pool. Her family has a pool and they maintain it so they can help with the water testing, but my question is, is a robotic vacuum necessary? Is a once a week manual brush on the side/bottom and net good enough to keep it clean?
Thanks.

hey, would like people to talk to. would like the same age range please.
I’m into fitness, reading and sleeping pretty much lol
currently watching family guy & don’t really feel like sleeping right now

i’m at a point in life where i don’t really know where to go from here. i’ve finally graduated highschool (i dropped out when i was 17, i’m 20 now) and i’m currently looking for a job; but i just don’t really feel excited. i figured once i graduated i’d feel better about myself, but i don’t. it’s like the feeling of turning 19, nothing really changes i just have more responsibilities now. i can’t say i don’t feel glad i did, because i do, i just don’t have that “wooo yipeee i graduated” feeling; which maybe that’s because i didn’t do it with all my friends (i doubt i would’ve anyways because of covid happening). the only things that excite me currently are my cats and being with my friends/gaming with them. i feel mildly depressed, but at the same time i am happy. maybe i feel guilty for not living up to my expectations family wise, i don’t know, but at least they’re happy that i did it.

I love them. I really do. For a few years now I thought - maybe I was wrong. Maybe they aren’t narcissists. I thought: she’s getting older: maybe I was wrong. Maybe I should go see them.
Was just a trick. Maybe? The moment I said “maybe” I got a call about how you told someone all the things I’ve been going through, in the worst light. When I literally math out the money, you tell me I’m wrong “they never get raises ! So what!” When I remind you working full time isn’t enough “well Papa worked that much!” But you didn’t.
I’m glad I wasn’t fooled to going back to you. Mostly I’m just sad.
I see successful people with families supporting them. There for them - understanding of what is going on. I see grandparents helping and moms helping their child and their family.
And I remember, when we were homeless with a new born, how you said I was too messy and you couldn’t control my partner, in your three bedroom two story house. I think of other families who houses their children and grand children in smaller homes.
I am reminded that you are fully self centred- your rapport with me based on how I approve of you and what you can get me to do.
I almost convinced myself to move us across country back. I’m glad you blew it before I did.
I just wish I had a parent who cared. Instead I think I have two narcissists and an absent dad. No wonder the trauma.

I feel as if I’ve been stuck in the same position for a long time. Im currently living at home with my immediate family in a big house, have food to eat, my own room and bathroom, and overall a very fortunate living situation.
I start my day by going to the gym(I feel like I’m not even making progress) then returning home for the rest of the day, rinse and repeat.
I’m currently trying to earn some online certificates (google it support) (google data analytics), in the hopes I can land a job and start developing a career. But to be honest I get distracted browse YouTube ALOT, play games, occasionally watch porn here and there.
I got accepted into a cal state for MIS but I’m not sure if I should go or not.
Have a chunk of money saved up from gaming in the past in the pursuit of it being a dream career, didn’t come to fruition though.
Have a high school diploma, however no work experience at all.
I suffer a bit from social anxiety and don’t really interact with people/have friends much, sometimes I will chat with discord buddies.
I’m decent looking but a bit short/small frame, and never had a girlfriend.
My self esteem is quite low, I view myself as incompetent and not grown up/useless.
Sometimes i just look at my life and ask myself “when is life going to hit me? when is someone from my family going to pass? when is something traumatic going to hit me? what’s the point of living on this earth? time is flying by and I’m not doing/achieving a thing.”
Earlier in the year I was struggling with some mental health problems to which I thought was depression and anxiety, however talking to a therapist he told me that everyone has depression and anxiety and that it’s how you choose to deal with it.
Any advice? Should I try and find some sort of a job like retail? Continue pursuing becoming an IT support or Data analyst on my own? Is going to university spending 2 years of my life just to try and earn a degree and have my parents spend a lot of money worth it? How can I find a girlfriend? Just incredibly lost.
TLDR: a bit of a spoiled/overly loved young adult who lacks life experience, doesn’t have any major responsibilities, goals, purpose, looking for some fresh perspectives and advice to be bettedo something.

He’s already been in rehab and has been in serious, violent altercations with Family members. He is sneaky, manipulating and has learned tricks of the trade in jail.
He went to a imitation cologne store and bought the biggest Containers of cologne that they make. They make the cologne in front of you by adding a teaspoon of the imitation scent and then pour straight alcohol in. It’s a 97/3% solution. On our way home, he ‘accidentally’ spilled one in my car. I didn’t think anything of it. We stopped one more time and I ran into the store. When we were pulling away-his face was beet red, his eyes glazed over and he looked like he was fixing to puke. Could he have drank the cologne solution while I was in the store?

Our heroines pretty much always lose their families traumatically, or the loving parent dies and child is left to jerk relative. Challenge to find books where parents are still around and good to the heroine. I can think of Katie May's Fae Revealed but I'm otherwise drawing a blank.
Regarding the number of times the mother dying of cancer is used... Having cancer and kids, when that setup is used I always have a blip of a heart wrenching moment and it sucks. Think about the number of books you'd have to nix if you avoided it as a trigger. Maybe it's just too easy because people are familiar with cancer's image, but it'd be cool if we could, idk, mix it up a tad more.

He’s already been in rehab and has been in serious, violent altercations with Family members. He is sneaky, manipulating and has learned tricks of the trade in jail.
He went to a imitation cologne store and bought the biggest Containers of cologne that they make. They make the cologne in front of you by adding a teaspoon of the imitation scent and then pour straight alcohol in. It’s a 97/3% solution. On our way home, he ‘accidentally’ spilled one in my car. I didn’t think anything of it. We stopped one more time and I ran into the store. When we were pulling away-his face was beet red, his eyes glazed over and he looked like he was fixing to puke. Could he have drank the cologne solution while I was in the store?

Jasper Wu, who was one month from his second birthday, was killed by a stray bullet while sleeping in his car seat as his mother drove down I-880 on November 6, 2021.
It was 2pm, and rival gangs Chopper City and Eddy Rock engaged in a rolling gun battle.
Suspects: The three suspects were identified as Trevor Green, 22, of Richmond; Ivory Bivins, 24, of Vallejo; and Johnny Jackson, 28, of Richmond. Each has been charged with murder, shooting at an occupied vehicle, and being a felon in possession of a firearm. O'Malley said Bivins and Green were also charged with conspiracy to commit a crime and criminal street gang conspiracy.
https://twitter.com/DionLimTV/status/1633351699766321152
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=njhbn_VnJ1I&t=22s

The parents of a toddler who was murdered in his car seat in gang crossfire in Oakland, California, say they feel so unsafe in the city and state thanks to woke prosecutors that they're considering leaving for good. Jasper Wu, who was one month from his second birthday, was killed by a stray bullet while sleeping in his car seat as his mother drove down I-880 on November 6, 2021. It was 2pm, and rival gangs Chopper City and Eddy Rock engaged in a rolling gun battle.
Three people have been arrested in connection with the toddler's death, but nearly two years on, they are yet to be sentenced. Now, Alameda County District Attorney Pamela Price is advising her team of prosecutors not to pursue enhancement charges on crimes as part of an effort to 'reduce recidivism'. It means that any criminal enhancement that could have been applied now likely won't - and will reduce the time Jasper's killers spend behind bars.
Jasper's mother, An Wu, told ABC 7 in San Francisco that it would be the wrong move. 'If that happens, what kind of message are we sending to the public?' she said. She added that she still 'feels fear' every time she drives through Oakland. Trevor Green, 22, Ivory Bivins, 24; and Johnny Jackson, 28, were charged with Jasper's murder in December. They are yet to stand trial. A fourth gang member who was involved died in another shootout before he was arrested. ABC obtained an internal memo from Price's office which describes her desire to 'bring balance back to sentencing and reduce recidivism' by no longer allowing prosecutors to file 'enhancements'. She has not yet responded to the Wu family's criticism of her plans.
Oakland is a stone's throw from San Francisco, where some of the most progressive changes in the country were made by former DA Chesa Boudin. Crime and homelessness soared under his watch, with open-air drug markets becoming commonplace. He was replaced by Brooke Jenkins last year. She has vowed to restore order to the city.

https://www.cbsnews.com/sanfrancisco/news/jasper-wu-oakland-880-fatal-shooting-arrests-gang-members/
https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-11840713/Parents-toddler-murdered-car-seat-gangsters-want-leave-lawless-California.html

hi, I’ve had a very complicated relationship with my schooling over the years.
first i was sexually abused in elementary school and had issues with men and school that e eventually turned into full blown panic attack at the idea of school i left three months into the seventh grade year and did online i went back for eighth grade, then covid hit. and i online freshman year it was online and hybrid then completely online, sophomore heard i went out to another state and did school there while staying with family then i came back home and did online then i got into a early college program and committed two weeks before the first day of school i got my rooms assignment and everything the night before i had no day in my classes and i tried to kill myself my second day there. i went back home and deferred for a year, now is around th time i want to decide if i’m going or not . in this time also my mom died. I have a toxic chaotic household and everyone one of my siblings tell each other to get when they can. i remember eventually after my initial panic attacks for school in person i would calm down and have fun times and social interaction . My question is: Should i commit to my early college program and have two years there and graduate with a AA, or do i not go and figure out my life there? typing k tout it seems easy to decide which one is smarter but the panic won’t let me see pst everything i had built up around school?

Well, I've been given a list of things I'm not allowed to talk about in the presence of my family by my dear SDA sister.

1. My father's physical and emotional abuse.
2. My mother's complicity in the abuse and inability to respect my personal health decisions.
3. My disdain for the church as an organization built around a scam.
4. Dungeons and Dragons: it's unchristian.

The last one was the one that really got me riled up. I can hold my tongue about the other three, but Dungeons and Dragons is my thing. I share it with everyone. It's where I unashamedly shine as a nerd.
I guess I'll just have to make friends with the next demon I'll summon. I hope Balors like soundtrack music.

Throwaway. I (20f) am flying to another country tomorrow for spring break. I told my best friend of 2 years (20m), let’s call him Bob, that I wanted to focus on family and would be totally logged out of everything for about two weeks. He was fine with this, but suggested we spend an evening together the night before my flight. I know we both have separate lives and, me being the worrier that I am, asked if he was sure. He said yes, then texted “Unless it’s a dire emergency, or I don’t feel well, I promise nothing will get in the way of our evening”. Shortly after, we began planning the evening together.
We ended up deciding to watch a movie and visit an arcade. The whole thing would take about 3 hours, and since we decided to go at 5pm, there would be time after for our own separate things. I purchased the movie tickets even though I don’t have much money because Bob agreed to pay for the snacks we got there.
About five hours ago, I texted Bob asking what time I should pick him up. He said 4:50, since it’s a short drive. I noticed he was streaming a game to two of his friends and asked if he was sure he wanted to continue with our plans- I had no issue with canceling because I could still get refunded, and because we talk often. Bob said yes, and when I asked why, he said it was because he streams to his friends every day for multiple hours (often clocking in at 5 or 6 on class days, and over 12 on weekends) and could use a break from it.
It’s been a few hours and Bob is still streaming. I texted him once at 4:30 to remind him of our plans, but was ignored- I am able to see the “read” message and know he saw it. I’m slightly upset, but nothing more than slight annoyance.
It’s very much past 4:50 as I’m typing this, and I can tell that Bob has no intention of ending his stream soon. The movie showtime has passed, meaning I can no longer be refunded as well. It’s not the end of the world, but I want to know if I will be the asshole if I get annoyed later in the evening with him for breaking his promise.
Will I be the asshole?

I have now had 3 kids come through my home. 1 kid for two months, 2 kids for 2 years. The one probably won’t remember me but as a distant memory. But the two might go to a family member and I’m curious what kids remember? Do they remember the meals? The school? The hanging out on weekends? I fear I’m going to be a wicked stepmother of their memories. 10-20 years down the road, what will my role be in their memory?

I was on depo for years … I’ve been off it a year now in summer. I was extremely tiny when starting ,100 LBS. I ended up being 145 pounds. Unfortunately the most of the weight is on my stomach.. I’m now 135 and i hate my stomach because it just looks so weird with the rest of my body… I honestly can’t even wear a tight top because I look 5-6 months pregnant and extremely bloated… even family have asked if I could possibly be pregnant. Working out I’ve seen little results. Has anyone else dealt with this?

Like, where and when do you think you would have the safest life? Or if you’d go a different direction, where and when do you think you’d have the most interesting life? I think I’d like to live in Yi Ti during one of their more prosperous reigns. I know many people find Valyria super interesting (as do I) but if I was a member of one of the main dragonlord families I feel like I’d be too worried about being assassinated all the time