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Combo therapy
I’m coming up on week 2 of my sample of Qelbree (200mg) after over a year of solely taking Adderall, switching to Adzeny’s (12.5mg) and am noticing the side effects a lot. Questioning if it’s even worth continuing. I also take Ashwaghanda with the Q and Adzeny’s to help balance everything.
I’m curious if anyone else has benefited from combination therapy (taking a stim and non-stim) and if it gets easier? I like the minimal benefits I’m seeing so far like a quiet, calm brain and overall less anxiety, but I’m hoping the awful headaches stop. My hope is that if the Qelbree is working well, I could decrease my stimulant dose and manage my ADHD symptoms at an easier rate as I’m beginning my last year of student teaching. (I’d kinda like to have my shit together before spending my year in an overstimulating environment)
Does anyone else relate to this or have any tips to manage the side effects?

1) At school there are these racist kids calling me the N-word and one time a big kid punched me in the head twice idk why and than the teacher saw everything but didn't do anything and she than came to me and started pulling my desk away from me making everything fall, after she goes back teaching i stand there in my seat covering my ears waiting for the class to end while hearing kids making fun of me and saying snickers but change the N whit a G, class finally ends but i have to wait cause there is meeting whit the parents, while i was waiting the cops come for the 5th time i think idk i lost count, the teacher that was in the class before rans out of the room grabs her things and goes home while saying im the fault, the parents of the racist kids try to be friendly whit me but i ignore them cause i don't want to listen to rich parents that don't discipline they're kids and give them hundred of bucks everyday, I wait and the secretery is the only person being kind to me, after waiting 1 hour the meeting ends and my dad says that nobody agreed whit him even through there is footage of what happened and i got home schooled. 2) Another time it was recess and i was in class minding my business when all of the sudden they kids came up to me and stole money from me and keep laughing and teacher didn't do nothing. 3) There was a time where in 3rd grade i was sitting in my desk drawing when this kid that came to the school that year was making fun of me and scratch my thumb and i started bleeding but Thankfully the secretary had bandages and the school did nothing. 4) when the 8th grade just started we were in gym and the kids always make fun of me by keeping the door closed and when i was pulling it they stopped holding it sending me flying to the ground, when i hit the ground i felt a sharp pain in my right arm, i was on the floor in pain and it was horrible and the P.E teacher came running and they rushed me to the school nurse and waited for mom to come pick me up, i went to the hospital and found out i fractured my arm and when i was in the room making the thing to put on my arm he started making fun of me (i used to be fat) and asked me which French fries i liked and i ignored him and kept making fun of me, after that i waited hours that felt like years and when i returned to school they kept making fun of me on how i created a hole from when i falled down. 5) the same year i got stalked by 2 kids asking me for money, i was going to get some ice cream cause it was hot and saw them coming at me and i started running, i ran into the store thinking i was safe cause they use that road to get to the bus but i wasn't cause i saw them and started running and i started walking and i felt like in a horror game and when i thought i lost them the racist kid was breathing on my neck and got scared than they all went away and after getting my ice cream i head to the exit and i saw them outside and i hid in the toilet and they kept asking until leaving and when i went out i saw them and i hid but they didn't move cause they where in line for chicken and fries and i remained hid until they left. If you read through this please we need to stop bullying.

Hello folks,
I've been mountain biking for the last 35 years (yeah, I'm closer to 60 than to 50 now), and I started that phase of my life where my body can't generate as much power as before. It's hard to maintain my old times and do the same climbs. To make it even worse, things start to break on you. For example, I changed my handlebar and now have a weird forearm pain after almost every ride. If my seat is 2mm (no kidding) lower than it should be, I get intense lower back pain after the ride. If it's 2mm higher, I get all sorts of pelvic pain (which is REALLY BAD). In any of those events, I have to stay 1-2 weeks off the saddle, which quickly throws me out of shape and compounds the problem.
You can see where this is going...
Despite having ridden ME bikes (yeah, powered by ME alone :)) for a long time, I think it's time to start considering an E-MTB. Problem is: I know nothing bout them. Things like components, recommended motor brands, power, battery side, etc.
I don't have a fixed budget, but looking for something middle of the range that can last and re-spark my will to take longer rides and longer climbs, without having to endure days of pain after.
Your suggestions are welcome.
Thanks

About a month ago, I know not long enough to see results, I started on a new nutrition plan which in turn had me eating more(about 600 calories) I have actually gained about 6 pounds, not sure if it’s muscle growing under my fat but my goal was to tone up as I had some muscle already.
Now the question is, is it normal to gain weight after under eating for so long basically neglecting what I should be eating and just under eating to see results? Now that my body is now getting to the correct nutrition it needs, is this initial 3 week weight gain my body recomping, and I’ll start cutting soon? I am a Male 6foot, 220lbs
I would like reassurance as these journeys can be hard, but staying consistent is key. I am under my maintenance by 500 and burn about 600 a day aswell.
Before: Averaged 1900 calories a day with 160g protein working out 6 days a weeks
Now: 2500 calories a day with 220g protein working out 6 days a week.
4days on 1 day off is my schedule for working out which has helped me out a lot. While also doing 30 minutes cardio every day.
TDEE 3,113 maintenance cal. 2600 cutting calroies

Hello everyone,
I don't know if posts like this are allowed but i feel like i should give it a try. I'm reaching out because I'm in the middle of something that's really hard to describe, and I'm hoping to connect with others who might have had similar experiences or can provide some insights.
I'm a 23-year-old male who has been experiencing recurring phases of intense distress since I was 12. These phases can last anywhere from 1 to 6 months and are often triggered by events that, to anyone else, might seem completely ordinary. But when I'm in one of these phases, I feel like a different person. Everything around me seems threatening. Even normal stuff, like watching a show I usually enjoy or talking to friends, can make me feel really, REALLY bad.
I don't know how to describe it. I've tried to figure out what this feeling is. At first, I thought it might be recurring depression, but that doesn't quite fit. I'm not depressed, I just feel really bad. Then I thought it might be some kind of anxiety, but I know what anxiety feels like, and this is NOTHING like that. It's like something really, really bad happened to me, but I don't know what because nothing has happened.
These phases have been triggered by various events in the past - a stressful first festival experience, someone new entering my friend group, starting a new job, and even a threat from someone in a video game. But the most recent phase was triggered by a bout of COVID, and it's been more severe than any of the previous ones. It's been a struggle, and I'm feeling alone and completely hopeless.
I don't know for how long i will be able to function like this.
The feeling is really pretty much indescribable. It feels like an emotion of its own. I remember the first time I felt it was when I got bullied on a school trip when I was 8 or 9. I suffered severe homesickness and everyone bullied me for it, even the teacher I was with. It was a horrible, traumatising experience and it felt like it would never end. It rendered me absolutely anxious, bedridden and not wanting to go anywhere near school or "the people" involved for weeks. I don't remember it all-too-well but my mother said it took a long time for me to be able to have a normal day again. And even after that, i was bullied for years to come.
It's strange, but this is really the only way I can describe the feeling. It's like a deep, troubled hopelessness, like everything and everyone around me is threatening me and the only one I feel comfort with is a thousand miles away, unreachable for some reason. It's odd, because in these episodes, I tend to want to "crawl back to my family" and spend time with them. However, this doesn't help the feeling go away. It needs an extended period of time to overcome these phases.
It's also weird, because the initial memories i have of the trip or the sole fact i remember it was a traumatising experience doesn't trigger the "bad feeling", i think rather rational about it - but if the feeling is present: It's as if I'm living through the school trip feeling randomly again, but without the actual cause. If it makes sense, it feels like I'm watching a movie but having the sound disabled, while at the same time, playing the sound of another movie - they stand in no way connected to each other, but still happen at the same time. And while theres more to the sound of the second movie obviously, i'm not able to see it, as it's just the sound thats there. This is is just an analogy and I hope you understand what I mean by it.
I'm currently on a waitlist for psychotherapy, but it could take up to three years before I can see someone. I'm reaching out now because the severity and unpredictability of these recent episodes have left me feeling like I have no other choice.
I want to acknowledge that many of you here have experienced traumas that are probably much more severe - if mine is even a trauma in itself. I want to be clear that I'm not trying to compare my experiences to yours. I know that trauma is deeply personal and unique to each individual. But for me, these experiences have been the most challenging of my life, and at times, the distress can feel unbearable. There are days in which i only am able to get up, move to the couch and try to not mentally go insane.
I'm reaching out to see if anyone here can relate to what I'm experiencing or has any insights to share. I'm aware that C-PTSD is a complex condition and everyone's experience is unique, and i'm in no way diagnosed - but nobody understands me, nothing i read about describes what im feeling so i feel it must be something more complex. I'm hoping to find at least someone that finds a resemblance in my described patterns, as no doctor or psychologist is available to help me in my acute situation.
I'm wishing you all the best.

I (21)f have plans to go drive to pick up my sibling at the beginning of July and then go with a friend(m) for about 3-4 days. So in total about 7 days. But my husband is leaving about 5-7 days(possibly a shorter timespan) after I get back to go on a business trip for about a month. He is upset that I am leaving right before he has to leave and so long due to him not being able to be away from me for so long. He also wanted to do something before he left as a “last goodbye”. He also said that I didn't take him into consideration for my plans even though I did but we have a dog and all of the people I know that could watch the dog are going to be on the trip with me. I understand that it is a horrible time but that is the easiest time for me to go. I also get to go on a road trip that I usually don't get to do.

Inital claim filed 6DEC23. I orginally completed C&P Exams with QTC in APR23. 16MAY the VA requested a 2nd set through VES. After calling both VES and VA I am as of yet still not scheduled... VES can not provide any estimate of when i will even be schedule. After calling the VA i was informed that VES has until the 15th to schedule me before that submit another request. I am trying to move back home but would very much prefer that this gets completed before I move. My concern is that if I change the location of my exams I will be shuffled to the bottom of the deck. Reading through some of the comments regarding VES turnaround has me concerned I'll even get an answer before the Fall. Especailly considering the amount of time it took to even schedule the original C&P Exams.
Just venting a little, very frustrated...

I think next week is finally the week. After graduating college, I’m starting to realize I’m never going to be happy. I’ll never make enough and I’ll always be stuck in a monotonous mind numbingly boring office job. I’ll never make enough to survive and I’ll always be a failure. Gonna get some bottles and tianeptine and stop the suffering now before it gets much worse.

I was rereading the first part of Reverie arc before Wano started and I noticed a bunch of stuff that completely slipped off my mind:
In the last page of chapter 907 - a cloaked Shanks sat in the Five Elders room and said he "wants to talk about a certain pirate".
In the second to last page of 908 - the first time we see Imu - the very first panel that includes Imu is a longshot of Imu and what seems to be another shadow of a kneeling man holding what seems to be a sword or (or a stick I guess). After that panel the camera shifts to following Imu and we never get to see the shadow again.
Finally, during that same page there seems to be a sword on the ground that was used to cut pictures of Luffy and Shanks and stab Shirahoshi's picture, implied to have been done by Imu. (Imu also has a picture of Vivi but this is less relevant to the topic)
So like... WTH.. Did Shanks just rat Luffy to Imu in front of our eyes years ago???
Why is nobody talking about this or was I the only one who missed the "Shanks as is a WG spy" train?

I (29M) and him (30M) in a 4-Year Relationship I wrote this while being in “shock” and it turned more into a long rant of my situation. English isn't my first language.
I, a 29-year-old male, have been in a relationship with my partner (30M) for 4 years now. While not every moment in the past 4 years has been perfect, I mostly look back on our relationship with happy memories. Our personalities overlap and complement each other in a way that I believe is unique and unlikely to be experienced again in this lifetime. He has a great sense of humor, takes care of me, and I have no doubt that he genuinely loves me. However, I must acknowledge that the last year hasn't been entirely smooth.
Even before we met, he has been struggling with mental health problems, primarily depression. During his teenage years, it went mostly undiagnosed, and he only began his mental health journey in his early to mid-20s. He only revealed his depression to me about 4 months into our relationship. While I didn't expect it, I wasn't completely shocked either. I reassured him that although there is still a significant stigma associated with mental health struggles in our country and society, all I care about is his well-being. I encouraged him to treat his "illness" just like any other health condition, meaning that he needs to actively take care of his mental health. Although I understand that something like depression doesn't have a "cure" like a broken bone, it can be managed, therapeutically addressed, and even treated with medication.
When we first met, he was already attending 1-on-1 therapy sessions and group therapy. About one to two years into our relationship, he started seeing a new therapist for personal reasons. She suggested starting him on a "light" antidepressant (I'm not sure of the specific name) and, to put it simply, it made a significant positive impact on him. There were minor side effects like dry skin in the winter, but they were outweighed by the obvious improvements in his mood and mental health.
For example, prior to taking the medication, he would have what we called "breakdown" conversations about every other week. After coming home from work (which was his main stressor), he would cry and express how much he thought he was failing at his job and how useless he felt. However, after starting the medication, these conversations occurred only about once every two months, and they were much less emotionally intense. I always make an effort to listen to him and reassure him that he is a wonderful person, emphasizing that his self-perception is not how the rest of us see or perceive him.
When I sense that he needs to vent and "let it out," I lend an ear and provide support. And when I feel that he needs advice or an opinion on something, I try to offer my input while minimizing personal criticism. In other words, I don't tell him he did something wrong; instead, I attempt to show him how certain behaviors may benefit others at the expense of his own mental well-being, and I guide him on how to handle such situations in the future. As long as he remains consistent with his medication and therapy, he continues to thrive and grow both as an individual and as a partner in our relationship.
We had wonderful moments together, and I could see that he was learning to handle conflicts at work in a more detached and less critical manner. During this period, he also made the decision to pursue studies at a distance university because he couldn't envision himself working in his current field for the rest of his life. While he continued to work full-time, he now had an additional academic workload to manage. Initially, he seemed to be coping, but the added stress quickly started taking a toll on his mental health. That's when I took it upon myself to alleviate some of his burdens wherever possible. I began shouldering the majority of household tasks, such as cleaning, doing laundry, meal planning, grocery shopping, and cooking. Since I was working from home, I could tackle most of these tasks during my breaks or between meetings. However, this was the first time I started feeling more like a maid than a boyfriend. He was still stressed out by his studies and work, and I found myself juggling my own responsibilities of work, household chores, and the few hobbies I had left amidst the challenges of the pandemic. Things weren't ideal, but for the most part, we were working as a team.
However, things took a turn when he, upon the recommendation of his therapist and psychologist, decided to gradually reduce his medication. I expressed my concerns about the timing of this decision, but I assured him that I would support him regardless. After all, it was his body and his choice. He often mentioned how he disliked being reliant on medication just to function "normally" (his words, not mine). By saying this, he didn't mean that he was becoming "addicted" to his medication; rather, he simply wanted to live without them.
I told him that I understood his perspective, and as I had previously mentioned, I would stand by him. However, I also made it clear that if I observed him spiraling or struggling, I would express my concerns and recommend (not force) that he consider going back on his medication.
He began the process of weaning off his medication, but unfortunately, it didn't go well. Initially, he became more irritable (which was understandable) as his body and hormones struggled to cope without the additional support. I stopped any form of criticism or questioning, even about the smallest things (and by criticism, I don't mean saying things like "Please stop doing XX," but rather simple inquiries like "Did you fold the laundry?"), because he didn't respond well to it. After about four months of walking on eggshells around him, he experienced his most significant breakdown yet.
It started over something minor (he couldn't find his keys), but it escalated to him expressing thoughts of wanting to die. This was the first time he mentioned anything related to suicide, and it immediately alarmed me. He cried throughout the rest of the evening, and we concluded that although he still didn't want to resume taking his medication, he would discuss the mention of suicide (even if he claimed it wasn't meant seriously) with his therapist. Additionally, he decided to take a six-month "sabbatical" from his studies and requested to reduce his work hours from full-time to 80%, allowing more time for his studies and reducing overall stress. Although I wasn't thrilled about it, I appreciated that he had devised a comprehensive plan.
Things improved during his sabbatical, especially when he transitioned to working 80% one month before returning to his studies. I thought to myself, "Great, we worked something out as a team, and everything seems to be on track." Throughout this period, I continued to take on the majority of the day-to-day responsibilities so that he could make the most of this transitional time. However, during this period, his therapy provided by our healthcare system came to an end. In Europe, our healthcare provider covers therapy for a limited amount of time (typically around two years), and then there is a waiting period of nearly one and a half years before they will cover another two-year cycle. Of course, individuals are always free to pay for therapy themselves.
After he resumed his studies, things seemed to be okay for a while. He was making progress as expected and his work was manageable. However, after a few months, he experienced another major breakdown and expressed that he was more stressed than ever. He despised his job and his coworkers (who seemed to be a whole separate nightmare), and the pressure he put on himself with his studies led him to start smoking again, something he hadn't done since the early days of our relationship.
Once again, I listened to him and reassured him that we could face this together. I suggested that he could reduce his work hours even further, and I would take on more financial responsibilities (at this point, I had been advancing in my career and was earning more than him, despite working full-time). However, he wasn't keen on this idea. So, I proposed that he could always quit his job. Although he didn't outright reject the idea, he expressed concerns: first, his notice period ranged from four to six months, making it challenging to find a new job without quitting first, and second, he believed he wouldn't find a job in his current field with comparable pay (which I personally believed was complete nonsense).
I told him that if he didn't want to quit or reduce his work hours, he needed to change his attitude towards his job. He should only invest as much as he can, without overexerting himself in a place he despised, and instead invest more of his energy into his studies and finding a way out of that industry altogether. I also suggested that we could search for an independent therapist for him, but he dismissed the idea. So, for the next few months, this pattern repeated itself almost every other week. He would come home, have a breakdown, and I would listen and offer him options. He would say he would do better, but it would eventually repeat again.
He expressed his dislike for smoking and his desire to quit, and we discussed plans. His ultimate goal was to be smoke-free by his 30th birthday, which was only six months away (and we had a special celebration planned for his first week without smoking). However, he never made it to a full week without smoking, always giving in around day three. This cycle of disappointment, withdrawal, smoking again, and self-loathing repeated itself.
His breakdowns have become more frequent, occurring almost once a week. Even when he appears to be doing "okay," he is constantly feeling down. This continues for six months until he has a particularly severe breakdown and mentions suicide again, saying that he should just die. I immediately intervene and tell him that he is not doing well, urging him to make an emergency appointment with his psychiatrist and go back on his antidepressants. He agrees. During the appointment, the psychiatrist prescribes his antidepressant and questions why he is attempting to do everything at once—studies, high-stress work, and quitting smoking. The psychiatrist suggests that he starts taking the medication and postpones quitting smoking for a few months until he has had time to decompress and tries again when he is less stressed. He asks for my opinion, as he often does, particularly regarding quitting smoking. I always respond firmly, acknowledging that quitting any addiction is extremely challenging but emphasizing that it will only work if he truly wants to quit. If he does it to please me, it won't be successful, and he shouldn't place all his expectations of success or failure on me, as it is unfair.
I honestly tell him that I have personally witnessed the unhealthy cycle of withdrawal and relapse, which is detrimental to him, me, and our relationship. Although in theory, the psychologist's suggestion of postponing some problems until he resolves other stressors sounds reasonable, it also means that he needs to use the time when he is smoking to address the other problems. He can't simply assume that everything will magically improve in a few months when he quits smoking. He must actively work on the other issues during this time. He agrees and states that under these conditions, he will postpone his smoking cessation for three months and focus on his other problems, while still maintaining his ultimate goal of being smoke-free before his 30s.
Over the next few months, things improve slightly but are still far from good. It becomes evident to me that he hasn't truly utilized this time to address his work-related problems. Nonetheless, the daily ups and downs start to mellow out to some extent. The three months pass without any significant change, but he does make another attempt to quit smoking. The longest he is able to stay smoke-free is seven days, five of which were during a vacation. Apart from that, we are back to the constant mood swings fueled by withdrawal, often at my expense, or days of depression because of relapses.
During this entire journey, the mental load I had to carry started to accumulate and take a toll on me. Alongside some work-related issues, I found myself withdrawing more and more. On particularly difficult days, I tried to express my concerns, and while he would listen and show sympathy, the focus would quickly shift back to him. I began analyzing my own problems and seeking solutions. The only viable way out was to search for a new job and leave my current one.
I really liked the filed I ended up working in, but we were under new management and “learning on the Job” was our new CEOs mantra. By luck and some skill, I managed to land a job in my field at a dream company with great pay. I honestly didn't think I would get the job, but hey, reach for the stars I guess. He was very happy for me, as was I. He knew how much I disliked my old Job, and this is a rel opportunity for me. While he was very obviously happy for me, I could also see, that it kind of put a magnifying glass to his problems.
He started to question everything even more, and spouts of depression hit harder and longer. We were now back to weekly breakdowns, and the times when he was “happy” became rare and short. He now almost daily circles around the same three stressors for almost 3 months now. He is depressed by his work, he is depressed by his slow progress in his studies, he is depressed by his constant failure concerning his smoking habits. I comfort him every time and I try to help wherever I can. But between the constant breakdowns and his withdrawal fueled thin skin, I'm starting to lose sight of us. I don't feel like a boyfriend anymore and while I still love him, It's starting to feel more like a mother loves her child and less romantic love. Our sex life has dried up because I just don't see him this way right now. He recently started to say that he thinks he is a burden on our relationship and me during his breakdowns and while he is crying and saying that, I try to comfort him and reassure him that that's not true, but I'm starting to doubt my self. I don't want to lie to him in these moments and say that I think he is right, his mental health is taking a toll on our relationship. That feels like kicking someone at his lowest, but what am I supposed to do? I have mentioned more and more lately that I will pay for a therapist out of my own pocket. God knows I can afford it now, but he doesn't want that. He is weirdly focused on “doing it on his own” rather than “feeling finally better”. The weirdest part is that after his breakdowns are over, everything seems normal again. He apologizes for crying, and I tell him to stop apologizing when in reality I just want to shake him mad and yell at him to stop expecting change when he isn't changing anything and to take some accountability in his own life. In the last few days I started noticing that I get more and more angry at him for small things, and sometimes I catch my self thinking that the life we have talked about is slipping away from us.
A few days ago, he shared with me his realistic assessment of his studies and the timeline he had created for himself. It was then that I started to realize that the vision we had always talked about for our lives was becoming blurrier and less aligned. We had discussed getting married, buying a house, and potentially adopting children (depending on the laws in our country). He knew that I had hoped to make progress towards at least one of these goals before turning 30, which was only a couple of years away. He had always expressed the desire to complete his studies before any of these milestones could become a reality.
His new Bachelor's degree would potentially put him in a higher income bracket, opening up better options for purchasing a house. After completing his studies, he would be able to work in a field that brings him more joy, improving his mental health and making adoption a more viable option. He also believed that after finishing his studies, he would feel ready for marriage. Initially, I was mostly okay with this timeline, as his studies were expected to take up to four years, and we were 27 years old when he started his Bachelor's program.
However, when he recently informed me that he realistically anticipated completing his bachelor's degree around the end of 2025 or mid-2026, everything came into sharp focus. I realized that my goals would be indefinitely postponed. While I understand that this timeline may be realistic, his justifications seem hollow after the past four years we have experienced. Even if he finds an entry-level job in his new field, it would still take many years to reach a point where we could afford a house. This effectively pushes the timeline for our goals back by another 8 to 9 years.
After the last years I have a pretty good grasp what the main factors of his work related problems are and while some of them will definitely not follow him in this new field, some definitely will. So his mental health will maybe never allow for us to consider bringing kids in the mix.
And lastly the getting married part: I would be mid 30s when he will be done and feel “ready”.
Don't get me wrong, I know that you can’t plan on these things to happen according to your timeline, but now all three just feel so far away and some even impossible. I could easily accept only one of those 3 but none? I just feel lost right now. It fells like his mental wellbeing is completely tied up in whom I am as person and god forbid I come short in any aspect. This was a lot of venting and I honestly am looking forward to any advice. Right now i kind of feel numb and while I definitely don't want to break up with him, it's not like it hasn't crossed my mind lately.
Lastly: I have written a lot about the bad things in our relationship, and it is definitely biased in my favor, but it would be remiss of me if I didn't mention the good as well: He always shares his food with me when we eat out, because he knows I want to get a taste of his meal, even though he hates food sharing. He tells me he loves me almost daily. He gets up before me and gives me a kiss and says goodbye before he leaves while I'm still sleeping. He can talk about movies for hours and will always help me out when I forget a name of an actress and just start shouting movies she was in. He loves all animals (especially our fat cat). When we first started dating he couldn't cook to save his life, but when he saw that I enjoy cooking immensely he started to educate himself, so we can share this hobby of mine.
TL;DR: After being in a 4-year relationship with my partner, his struggle with mental health, including depression, has taken a toll on both of us. Despite my support, his medication changes, work stress, and smoking addiction have caused frequent breakdowns, strained our relationship, and made me question our future together.

I had posted this about a month ago:
https://www.reddit.com/careeradvice/comments/134z4ot/my_boss_is_asking_that_we_do_weekly_check_ins_now/
Since then, my boss and I have had 2 meetings. The others she has forgotten about and worked remote instead, or was on the phone 55 minutes into our 1 hour long meeting and then asked "Did you *need* a meeting today?" So that's how that's going.
The senior manager (position in between my director and I, I do not report to her though) has started asking if she could see my work before finalizing it and I've graciously accepted thinking this would be a huge help. Instead, she misses so many things or will put them in a way that my director doesn't like, and then when we go to meetings my director picks my work apart. This happens almost every single day and I'm starting to get really frustrated. Especially because the senior manager will just sit there.
Today we had a meeting and I forgot to include something on my work. The thing is, is this was checked by her TWICE in the last week. And we checked it altogether at a staff meeting 2 days ago, so really 3 times. She stormed to my office, closed the door and said we needed to have a chat and continued to rip me apart for having missed that 1 piece of information. I apologized and said I understood, I also said "I'm a little confused on how this got missed." But she still refused to take any accountability. I've been here 3 1/2 months and have had 0 formal training. Their idea of training me is reprimanding me in front of other executives during meetings. They gave me software training at the beginning and later found out it was the wrong training.
They even keep me out of the loop for SO many things. We have a meeting every Wednesday with my department and another department, it's our most crucial meeting every week. They didn't tell me where it was and I sat in our department office waiting. I had to text them to know where it was after the meeting had begun.
My director comes in very late leaves very early, works remote 70% of the time. I feel like she is checked out honestly.
I'm at a loss. I'm so stressed and have anxiety every single day I come into the office. On top of that, they are not very nice people (except my director, she is very nice). I say good morning, I say goodbye, they either ignore me or mumble something. They are not friendly on top of the terrible communication. TMI but I missed a period last month from being so stressed out. I work 50 hours a week, getting paid for 40.
TLDR; I've had no formal training at my job, they gave me the wrong software training. They only train me during executive staff meetings in front of my colleagues. My senior manager checks my work but misses a lot and then I get picked apart and she takes no accountability. I'm stressed and exhausted and have so much anxiety coming in to work everyday.

Hey there, my name is Kevin and I’m 27 years old. I’m a Korean who’s I’m 5"10 and 190 pounds. I am strictly looking for a mono relationship.
I'm studying right now to take a test to get into nursing. Right now I work as a full time pharmacy tech. When I have time for myself, I either watch videos(I watch basically all genre of shows and movies. Marvel, 1899, Stranger Things, kdrama, Disney and the list goes on), play games(Play on PC, if you'd like to play then shoot me a message. I play OW2, LoL, WoW, Apex Legends), go outside for a walk, or hang out with my friends. Cooking is a big thing for me so you know that oppa will cook you a lot of good food. Right now I am working on getting skinnier so I am doing some work outs and it's working. I am a physical and gifting type of lover. I like to hold hands, hold my partner in my arms, give forehead kisses, nuzzle my nose against my partners, give kisses, hugs, spanks when they're bent over. Giving gifts to my partner too when I feel she deserves it.
For me, a key for a healthy relationship is when both partners are able to communicate. I'd like for us to be able to speak up if anything is bothering us. You'll have rules, tasks, structure, and discipline. The rules will be made around what my submissive wants to fix. My submissive should know that I will give them my attention when ever I can. As my submissive, you aren't just my submissive, you are my partner, my bestfriend, my lover. As we grow together whether it be close or long distance, we will be able to meet with each other at times and even more later on. I've been into BDSM for a good 7-8 years and DDLG for about 3 years. Intimacy is a beautiful part of a relationship in my opinion which is why I like to balance out between being non-sexual and sexual in the relationship. As we grow a stronger bond together and a genuine relationship, we'll be able to explore more of the kink and life style together. We'll be able to see what works and what don't, making our relationship more spicier along the way. When we aren't doing anything sexual, we'd be doing: watching movies and shows, cooking together, sleeping on the same call together and eventually on the same bed together. Again, you aren't just my submissive, you are my partner, my lover and my best friend.
As a long distance, I'd like to communicate at least everyday with texting. With videos calls, we can use discord and watch videos together every other day. I expect us to have at least one or two video sessions a week where I command what you do over the video call. This is only when my submissive is ready to of course, this will never be rushed like any part of the relationship.
As a Dominant, I am strict but can be soft at times. I am experienced in this lifestyle and open minded. I am goofy (Strict when needed), loving, patient caring, understanding, reliable, loyal and will be there for my partner through the highs and lows. Making my submissive comfortable and feel safe is my top priority. My goal is to guide my submissive to be shaped to what I see fit. I carry a love for my submissive for who they are and for what they will become with my guidance because they are my prized possession, someone that I helped create. I will never force or ask my submissive to submit to me, that is given to me when I deserve it. When discipline is needed, it will be used to put my submissive in her place. When I say to get on all fours, I expect you to go down on all fours and I shall do what I see fit. I will reward you for doing so, saying, "What a good little slut(or kitten you are based on if your limit is degrading) you are" and giving you pleasure. After a long day at work, when I say to get on your knees and suck my cock, I expect you to go on your knees on command and pleasure my cock. Of course as a reward for doing so I'd eat out your pussy, making you cum for me. When I say to hold your cum in, I expect you to try your hardest to hold it in. And when I compound my cock into your pussy, giving you no mercy, I will reward you for being a good cum dumpster by slamming my cock in as deep as possible before making you take every last drop of cum inside as I slowly pull out(Only if you're into creampie of course). Aftercare will always be given since it is essential.
Kinks:

• BDSM
• CNC (Maybe)
• Cock warming
• Creampie
• Cunnilingus
• Dominance
• Degrading
• Orgasm denial
• Praise Pay
• Ropes, gags, collars, bounds
• Sadist
• Spanking

Limits:

• Beastiality
• Blood play
• Diapers
• Incest
• Leaving permanent marks (Not tattoos, like branding)
• Piercing skins with foreign objects (Not piercings you may already have)
• Toilet play
• Watersport

What you can expect from me:

• Someone who will check in on you to see how you're doing
• Someone who's honest, loyal, dependable respectful, understanding, patient, genuine, affectionate, cuddly, loving and kinky
• Someone who loves to communicate
• Someone who is strict but be soft at times too
• Someone who will be there to listen to you and support you

What am I looking for?:

• Someone who wants one Dominant
• Someone who's looking for a long term relationship
• Either long distance or local. For local I'd like someone who's around the tristate area.
• Someone who's an obedient submissive (A brat is always welcomed, I'd put her in her place)
• Someone who is willing to communicate.
• Someone to experience more of life with together
• Someone who likes to grow together, as a relationship is where we both gain experiences and venture out into the scary world together.
• Age 18 to 26
• I'd prefer someone small, petite. Don't let this make you be discouraged though.

If you made it this far and do end up messaging me, tell me about yourself.
Tell me the secret word: Apple

Long before the promised groceries arrived, Paul and Nick and Danny feasted on the tins of beans they had found, and then they just sort of bummed around the house. Paul did get something practical done. He got a head start on laundry, using the scullery sink to rinse out the two diapers Danny had gone through by lunchtime, then depositing the damp cloths in a suitable basket near the washing machine.
After lunch — more of the beans, served on toast made from the rather bland diet bread — Danny was tired, and Paul decided he could use a little rest himself.
"Where'm I to be put up?" Nick asked, dutifully following with his things as Paul trooped the baby upstairs.
"Oh, well. We've a few extra rooms, of course. All along there."
He pointed along the left wall of the corridor they had entered.
"That one is Mum and Dad's though, so probably best you don't try it. And that one was my sister's; Mum and Dad keep it for when she makes one of her very rare visits. Otherwise, besides mine just there, you've got three or four choices. Oh, and the old servants' quarters next floor up."
Nick nodded and just kept following after Paul.
"Okay if I crash in yours?" he asked as they entered. "Only see, I can sleep on some blankets on the floor or something, and we won't have to make a whole other bed up and everything."
"Don't see why not. I've got room."
So they wound up grabbing some extra blankets along with the necessary sheets. Nick held Danny, who was already half-asleep, while Paul made the bed up. Once that was done, the child was exchanged for the extra blankets, and Nick made himself a pallet on the floor, just at the foot of the bed.
"Quite in order," Paul nodded, as he settled Danny on his bed, "though I do wish we had a cot for him. Kind of worried he'll find some way to roll off here in the night, no matter how careful I am."
"Don't suppose your folks kept your old cot," Nick mused.
"Heavens no. They gave it to another family when I was, oh, three or four. Sometime after I started using a regular bed, at any rate."
"Guess we just must be careful then."
"Yes. Yes, I guess that's it."
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New here! Living in an apartment and unsure how I should write my address. As a fake example address let’s say I live in Unit 12 at 1000 Null St SE, in Edmonton, AB and the postal code is X0X 0X0… how would I properly write this address? Does the unit come before or after the street? Does the postal code have its own line or sit up there with Edmonton, AB?
Thank you :)

So I had a first date on Wednesday night with a girl I met on a dating app and it went great. The chemistry and conversations we had were nice, and it went on for 3+ hours. About an hour or so after the date ended I texted her saying I had a great time, made a funny reference to something in a convo of ours and said that I’d love to see her next week/set up something. It’s been around 2 days since then with no reply so I’m assuming she lost interest.
I’m just confused because I could understand if there was a lack of chemistry and she wasn’t interested in me but based on the signs during the date she seemed interested. As mentioned before the date went on for a while, during the date we showed each others social medias on this one site (and then she followed me), made references like oh ill show this or let you know about this the next time we meet up, she broke the physical touch barrier, when the date ended she said let’s walk together, and as we ended the night she hugged me and told me to text her after. Keep in mind I don’t have any relationship experience, also I’m aware on a dating app girls have tons of options, im just confused by presumably being ghosted after all this?

I’ve had the same dentist since I was kid and even after I moved away from home I’d always find a time to visit him when home sometime during the year. Now that I’m settled in another state that’s a plane ride away I figure it’s time to establish care with someone locally.
My former dentist was old school - one man practice, no super fancy tech, no hygienist. As a family acquaintance wouldn’t give me free care but would do things like waive the fees for X-rays when i wasn’t working in college saying he convinced me to take them and would always recommend the cheapest solution first. But he was also a clinical professor at Columbia so he wasn’t just someone who was a discount dentist.
I went to a dentist in my new city recently with excellent reviews online. Tons of fancy new tech and I’ll admit seeing a hygienist for the first time had my teeth feeling cleaner than ever. However all of his recommendations were discussed using the framework of what my “oral health goals were” (as if this was like an exercise program) - I just want any serious issues to be cleared up if there are any.
Due to Covid I haven’t seen my old dentist in about 2 years. I previously had 2 cavities filled in my life and one that was forming. The new dentist immediately said all 3 of them needed to be filled and/or refilled due to the previously filled ones leaking and this should be done within six months to “be on top of my oral health”. My prior dentist noted the issues but as of the last time I saw him basically said let’s keep an eye on it and wait to see if we actually need to do something and that had been his response for the 5 or 6 years prior to that. The new dentist also found another potential cavity and was like “if were already numbing one side might as well take care of it before it gets any worse”.
He would be charging $190/filling. I also need a bite guard for TMJ issues (which I am aware of) for which he would charge $650. I don’t think that any of the individual prices themselves seem obscenely high (although maybe the bite plate is) but I really have no clue. And I don’t know how to determine whether I really need to spend $800 for fillings rather immediately when it’s been a wait and see situation for years and never caused me any problems. I’m assuming waiting for pain to occur is a poor preventative plan so any advice is appreciated

So i 20M met this girl on hinge 21F. Everything was going good we went on a date after like a week of talking, had sex on the first date and after that everything was still going well for the next 5 days after that she was coming over to my house after work and not just for sex sometimes we wouldn't even have sex she would come and spend hours and it was always great. Now last Monday comes along and she says she doesn't know if she sees a future with me when i asked why she said a bunch of mundane reasons like i said it was gay for a man to paint his nails and that i rely on weed to sleep. The second one is especially funny bc anytime we smoked together it was always her idea but that's besides the point. But we talked through it she seemed ok then came over that night. Everything went good while she was here then when she got home she started texting me about how she may not see a future again, when i asked why her reason was now that she "needs the man she marrys to have a monster cock" then after that i was like so this mean you want to stop talking, she said no but then she said she wanted fwb which i was like sure she's a cool girl why not? Then her stipulations came in and she wanted to be able to talk about other guys but I wasn't allowed to talk about other girls then she said that she wanted to be able to see other guys but im not allowed to see other girls after that i was just like ya no fuck that. So Wednesday comes along and I didn't really believe the reasons she gave me so i was just like is what it is right? But then im scrolling tiktok and her profile comes up on my fyp. I see this and check through her profile and i noticed all her posts from February to May are about healing from a toxic relationship. So later in the day i hit her up just letting her know im thinking about her figured if she doesn't respond i know my place if she does then maybe there's something still here, she responded almost immediately basically saying she didn't really believe me since it seemed easy for me to stop talking to her (it wasn't but i have pride im not gonna beg someone to be in my life i shouldn't have to) after that I basically said the reasons your stating aren't adding up bc if those were the genuine reasons why did you keep coming back and why did we keep having sex so then i just straight up asked her about her tiktok. She then told me yes she had gotten out of a toxic relationship and that the guy really messed her up. In response i said that i was sorry to hear that and I wasn't looking for her to rush anything and we can take things as slow as she wanted if she was open to it which I actually meant bc anytime stuff about being more serious was brought up it was her bringing it up. In response to that she said that she agreed we have a strong connection but her "mindset coach" said that people come into your life and it doesn't mean they have to stay and that she needs to stop choosing other people before herself and choose herself and shit like that and then said she didn't want to talk about this anymore. I responded that i understood where she was coming from and that if she did ever wanna talk again the door is always open which i got no response too. I haven't talked to her since and ig my question is did i do anything wrong in this situation? What do you guys think her reason was for ending it so abruptly? Honestly just trying to improve myself bc i feel like i did everything right and i did genuinely like this girl.
TLDR: Im confused so plz read lol!!

Hi, I am getting back to doing some short and easy runs after taking about 6-7 weeks off due to injury. I am being extremely cautious right now and testing the waters for even thinking of doing any faster workouts. I was running about 40mpw before I stopped so I am wondering if there is a sort of “rule of thumb” for how long it should take be to build bad to this number of miles. Of course if at any point my pain comes back I will have to stop again…but hopefully that is now the case as I am trying to address the causes of injury.
I appreciate any feedback or suggestions.
Thanks

Hi everyone! This is my first post in the sub— it’s great to see everyone come together as a community to bond over our furry friends. I’m making this post as a last resort after spending hundreds in vet bills— looking for advice or a second veterinary opinion (please bear with me if this is a long post!)
My elderly cat, Zoe, has been peeing on the floor for about a week and a half now. The puddles are usually in the same rooms as her litterboxes, but we’ve found a couple others around the house. She’s done this before; and in the past we’d bring her to the vet, they’d diagnose her with a bladder infection and put her on antibiotics, and the peeing would stop. However, we brought her to the vet earlier this week and after multiple tests and bloodwork they said she has no UTI or infection and they aren’t sure what’s causing the peeing this time. She’s been spayed and kept indoors since we’ve had her as a kitten, and although she does have mild kidney disease due to her age (somewhere around 17-18) the bloodwork from earlier this week showed it hasn’t progressed or gotten worse since past vet visits. We haven’t made any changes to her litter situation— we have 3 boxes around the house (as per vet’s recommendation), keep them clean, and haven’t changed the brand of litter or anything like that. It’s also not that she can’t make it to the litterbox in time— I have watched her walk right past it to pee elsewhere on the rug in the same room. She still uses it to poop, but it’s been completely dry for the past week and a half.
It’s getting very stressful to accidentally step in/have to clean up pee from the floor 3+ times a day, and she’s done damage to both the hardwood flooring and the rugs that will cost a lot to repair. She also peed in a laundry basket and we had to throw out all the clothes that were inside. I understand that when testing at the vet comes out negative there’s nothing they can do or prescribe, but I am desperate for solutions! If you’ve read this far, thank you 🥹