Car crash in pasadena yesterday

My partner and I have been together for 2 years now, we live and have a dog together. We share our friend group, and relatively work in the same field.
She just keeps getting more cruel each day and I don’t understand why. The way she speaks/looks at me just reeks of hatred and anger.
I’m under a lot of pressure this month, I’m working two very demanding jobs to be able to save for a down payment on a car as it is absolutely essential for my main job. And also just to be able to move around as I don’t live in a walkable city/with public transport.
My partner can’t seem to understand how difficult things have been to manage.
She has constantly fought me non-stop this month in relation to anything. Especially, any decision I make about the car. Literally. She’ll say we need to go see a certain car, if I slightly question it, object on its cost, or the cab fare to the showroom, she’ll get frustrated and angry. And threaten that she won’t help me.
Once, we planned to use the weekend to get up early and visit showrooms, I was exhausted from work and ended up oversleeping. She absolutely went mad about it and started yelling at me while I was still asleep, slammed the door and walked out.
I finally found a car this week that could potentially be suitable for me with the help of my brother, I was excited and when I asked her to come see it because I wanted her opinion, she immediately got upset and asked about a car she liked better, and outright refused to see the one I picked. She just said “I’ll go see it once you decide to get it”. We ended up fighting.
This kind of treatment is not just with the car, it’s about everything. She’ll humiliate me in front of our friends, undermine or doesn’t acknowledge my work at all, dismiss me.
The thing that made me write the post today was the fact that I decided to work on a project with her (mainly supporting role), I saw the email to the client and wanted to discuss the split, (the fact that the usual rate for my part was a lot higher than what we charged). That’s it. She immediately attacked me, I didn’t even get to say what I wanted. She made it seem like I was envious of her and only talked about the rate because she‘ll be getting more.
She always apologises after her outbursts and says she doesn’t mean it, that she loves me and cares for me. But I’ve just been crying myself to sleep everyday because of her treatment. I don’t understand why is she this cruel.
I don’t know what to do or how to untangle our lives. I’m just so incredibly tired.

Hey guys! I am looking to get a new car soon and have no idea what to buy so hoping someone can give some insight. I am looking for a spacious yet small SUV. I currently drive a ‘21 Kia Sorento to give an idea on the size I am looking for. 3rd row isn’t a must, I have one child so I keep the third row down all the time. I just like the extra room for keeping a stroller yet also able to fit a grocery haul with plenty of room. I want something that is a little more sporty and doesn’t feel so much like a “mom car” that is reliable with nice features and updated tech. I drive a lot for work so good gas mileage and comfort is a must. The top of my budget is 50k. If a car like that exists in my budget please share. TIA!

I got in my car (2001 Camry) this morning, just to back it out of the driveway and put it on the street. First the engine wouldn't start and all lights go up, I've been here before and realize I need to put the gear into park.. oh fuck my gear wasn't in park. Oh well. At least the hand break was on, so only one mistake made.
I get the engine going, I release the hand break and put the gear into reverse. Nothing feels odd until I start letting go of the break pedal and the car just barely starts moving. I try a few times and each time it feels just like I'm bumping up against the limit of how far the hand break will let the wheels turn or something.
Of course the car finally gets moving when my wife gives it a go, and she never drives this car so she couldn't tell if anything was off about it. When I get in to back out the rest of the way, the car feels just fine again. I back out, drive forward a bit, etc.. no problems.
tl;dr topic.. what happened? Did it resolve itself or am I likely to have a lingering problem from this?

I seriously need advice here. I don't know if I have fallen out of love with my boyfriend or simply am stressed. I know that sounds crazy, but I am horrible at talking about emotions. I should explain more I am currently in my 2nd year in community college and finishing my last semester before moving to a university. I live at home with my parents still, but I work about 25-30 hours a week at a physically demanding job aftebefore school. Typically I have 16 hours of nonstop days with no breaks (between school and work I change in my car while driving. Thank god for tinted windows).
I am saving up for college expenses and I know once I get down to University it will be harder work with school stress. Which brings me to what I wanted to say, I get stressed very easily. My family has a long history with mental illness, I have been diagnosed with anxiety, but I honestly think I have ADHD caused anxiety.
Now to the boyfriend, I am going to call him John. John is the nicest guy I have ever met. He is constantly doing little things for me, such as picking up wine on his way over when I had a long day at work. He doesn't care what we do whether we lay in bed or go out with my friends. He lives about an hour away and comes up on the weekends since we have total opposite schedules during the week. John has two friends here, the people we met through, but now they have girlfriends so he doesn't see them much. He comes up Friday after work, stays at my house with me, then drives back Sunday night. He's so close with my step dad and my mom loves him. I've had one other serious relationship and she hated him. I don't want to mess up her liking my significant other. Whenever I ask for a night alone, they are constantly asking me "Where's John?". I feel bad when I ask him not to come on a Friday night so I can get some homework done. He's always understanding, but then he texts me and complains about his roommates the whole night. I should add that me and John don't *hug* much and I don't feel the need to. I don't like to be touched or kissed much by him. Whereas I use to with my ex's, but I wasn't with them in college.
John and I have been dating for like a year, but I broke up with for two months because of this issue before. All my friends are away at college in another state and honestly don't seem to care about my issues. I had a girls night with my best friend and she ended up on facetime with her boyfriend. I have been in such a terrible mental place because of this. I need some advice. I don't know if my emotions are valid and I truly fell out of love with him or I am stressed. (If you read this far. Thank you.)

A little bit about myself
Some things I’m interested in are weight lifting, anime, video games, music, reading, and experiencing life!
Some video games I like are Hades, Skyrim, Legend of Zelda games, Xenoblade, Overwatch, Guilty Gear, the new Hogwarts game, Deep Rock Galactic, and Stellaris just to name a few
Haven’t had luck with dating, Hell, haven’t even had an official partner yet
If you’ve reached this far shoot me a dm!

To preface this: I'm high so I apologize for any weird formatting or wordy sentences
Bpso left me out of the blue 4ish weeks ago. Yesterday something snapped in my head where instead of sad and devastated I felt numb. Today I have been extremely angry (blurry vision, barely able to function). Just something switched where the person I felt extreme love for turned into absolute loathing for what he did. I tried so hard to keep my bpd symptoms in check, I took my meds daily, I communicated my feelings etc. I spent over 1k on him since July, i went above and beyond to make sure he felt safe (he has lots of trauma), I spoiled him whenever possible and even met his family (which is a huge trigger for me) all to just be dropped and ignored regardless. I know it's the mania speaking but it feels like the person I loved so dearly got sick of me and threw me to the side. He didn't do this to his extremely abusive ex fiance, or up and left any of his previous partners (well, to my knowledge), I tried so hard to be the one person to treat him right and finally give him the break from abuse just for him to throw it all away.

I’m on a pair of Dynafit Rotation 12 bindings. On a 5 day hut trip recently, I started having a problem where the heel piece seemed to be completely frozen so I couldn’t turn it back to downhill mode. This happened towards the end of the day 4. Luckily it was kinda sunny, and after enough of everyone in the group taking turns wrestling with it, we managed to get it into downhill mode. I brought them inside the hut for the night to try to dry them out, but ended up having the same problem again the next day. We were able to troubleshoot it with some hot water a group member had, and skied back to the cars.
Has anyone had this problem? I went in with some silicone spray, but I’m apprehensive about continuing to tour with them (although I do plan to at least pack a thermos of hot water with me from now on). I don’t want to replace them, because $$$$, but also I’ve only done about 75 days on them, and I really baby my gear to try to keep it in good shape. Up until this, the bindings have never given me a problem. Tech at the ski shop just told me to replace them, and didn’t seem to like the idea of taking them apart to add more grease. Anyone have any troubleshoot tips?

Has anyone experienced lag/crashes using UDIMs in redshift? I’ve textured a bunch of things in Substance and whenever I try to load the file after everything is connected (using a token as well) C4D hangs trying to “render material previews”. Any help is appreciated. I’ve opened a support ticket with Maxon so I’ll update if they can figure a solve.

After work I came home like normal decided to wash my car cause it’s Friday and not supposed to rain all weekend. My girlfriend was going to lunch with some girlfriends and ended up at one friends house and got way to drunk to drive. I had finished up by then and was already cleaned up laying in bed to take a nap when I got the call to pick her up. I was frustrated because she didn’t let me know she was drinking a would need a ride but I went of course and we headed home. I got a little drunk when she threw up in my car and just told her to go in the house when we got back. Then I made the mistake of coming across her phone while cleaning up the mess in the car. I looked and saw a text from a male co worker inviting her over in a way that did not seem appropriate. Let me mention I only looked because she acted so act of character I know I was wrong for that. I proceeded to go inside and tell her what I found then drove off to decompress. I ignored her as long as I could until she began to make suicidal threats to which I felt I had to reply. I came home an hour later and explained myself for looking and being upset but I still don’t understand how the text became a thing. I will try to approach the subject again later today but we need time to calm ourselves before I can try. Thanks for reading.

I recently got back into Xcom2 had some small amount of mods that added more advent troops and whatnot, but I want to do a modded campaign with more mods the only problem is that I sometimes crash randomly in random missions or sometimes the save file is corrupt and will insta crash.
Does anyone have a collection link of the modes they used for a campagin. Ideally looking for either overhauls, skins, or just adding more aliens.

As a horror fan who is just now finding out what types of movies I like and has newfound access to good public transportation to get to the theater, I have been watching lots of horror in theaters. It's an entirely different experience from watching movies on my laptop with headphones on. Recently I've really enjoyed The Menu, Infinity Pool, and (just yesterday) Inside.
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Which brings me to my actual question: what new horror is coming out this year? I looked up stuff coming out soon and the most visible ones are remakes or sequels like Scream 6 or Evil Dead Rise that, while I'll still go see and probably enjoy, don't give the same vibes I'm looking for. What are some potentially weird, gross, visually stunning, unique, indie, or artsy horror movies that are coming out this year?

I am trying to be better about what I eat and am becoming an avid nutrition label checker. So I have approved snacks that I want to keep in my car to avoid temptations or hanging out with others that aren't as strict as I have to be with my food.... but I worry about heat degrading or harming the snacks. Any suggestions? Is just keeping them in a cardboard box and out of the sun okay? Or should I invest in an actual cooler, and what kind? (Mind you, they are not snacks requiring refrigerating just packaged snacks) Does anyone have any clean, simple ingredient, easy non refrigerated snacks that I could add to the mix? So far I have..... seaweed snacks, these really amazing Bearded Brothers food bars, Toodaloo trail mixes, dates, dried apricots, dragon fruit chips, and dried apple chips. But that's it... I like options. But I gotta be careful because I eat a fast/binge eater so only allow myself to at least eat a lot of more unprocessed stuff.

“Just going for a walk Em. I’ll be back soon!” I hollered down the hallway as I stood on the edge of the doorway, leaning on the front door with my keys in my hand.
“Alright, I’ll get started on dinner. How’s salmon sound?” My wife called back from the lounge room.
“Sounds delicious love!” I said, swinging on my jacket and walking out the front door and shutting it. I strolled down my driveway and onto the footpath. Turning around the corner to make my way to the walking track near my house, I inhaled a big breath of fresh night air. The sky was clear, and I had a stellar view of the stars. I felt so calm and the neighbourhood felt so serene. Ambling down the road, I nodded hello to anyone passing by me.
A couple blocks away from my home and only 50 metres from the walking track, I saw a guy who looked to be in his early-mid 30s dressed up in the most vibrant and flashy activewear I’ve ever seen. Even though it was mostly dark at this point, I was able to make out every detail simply due to how gaudy it was. It was like someone had taken a picture of normal sports clothes and turned the saturation up by 100%.
As I was ruminating on how in the actual hell this guy had bought clothes this bright, he almost walked head-on into me. I did an awkward shuffle to my left to let him pass by me, raising my hand in greeting.
He barrels past me, almost knocking me over. I stumble and regain my balance, straightening up and swiftly turning around, only to see him turn the corner. Slightly surprised by how fast he was walking, I try to push the rude encounter out of my mind, brushing imaginary dirt off my jacket. My hand caught on something, and I dug around in my jacket’s pocket only to pull out a crumpled piece of paper.
I unfolded it to reveal what looked like a rule set. Uneasiness crept into my stomach and I got a strange sense of deja vu. For the life of me though, I couldn’t imagine what could even make me feel deja vu like this. And then I remembered the creepy swimming pool rules and that Reddit post. I’d managed to forget them, but it looked like the rules weren’t done with me yet.
How’d this even get in my pocket anyway? The man in impossibly bright active wear who’d brushed past me earlier had barely touched me for more than a second. There was no way he’d managed to put that in my pocket, but there was no other explanation.
I honestly don’t know. I have no idea why this piece of paper immediately filled me with dread and why I was reacting so strongly to it. I’m normally a pretty level-headed person. I sank down onto the curbside, my legs feeling unsteady. I started to read it.
Hey, to whoever’s reading this. I’m sorry I can’t explain this in person, but I can’t take the chance that you may be someone who means me harm in disguise. That’s why I thought up this (genius, if I do say so myself) system where I write the rules down and print them out to hand around to anyone I see walking. Copy the rules if you get home and make as many duplicates as you can to hand out to other people. Of course, keep one for yourself, remembering these off by heart isn’t ideal.

1. Wear the brightest and most colourful clothes you can, it hurts their eyes to look at you. (Yes, that’s why I look like a parrot.)
2. Try not to walk alone (unless you’re experienced like me), you seem like less of a target that way. And if they do attack, it’s 50/50 whether they go for you or your friend. I like those odds a lot more than death, don’t you?
3. Keep your walks of a medium length. Don’t stay out for too long, and don’t be too short. Try to find that sweet spot in between. Making it too short makes them act desperately, they think their meal’s getting away which makes them more likely to attack and thus, it is more probable for you to die. Too long, and they get bored. Plus, who has time for a long walk?
4. Don’t run at any point. This turns your walk into a run, which has a different ruleset. I can’t help you there, sorry. I’ve never run (for a hobby) before.
5. Have a shower before walking. If you’re sweaty, you smell more appetizing.
6. Walking to your car, or across the street to visit your neighbour isn’t considered a ‘walk’. In my experience, it seems to be that walking for 300m or longer starts the ‘walk’.
7. You may run if you are within 100m of your home (and something is chasing you. No use starting up a ‘run’ for no reason). Any further and your walk turns into a run as I said before.
8. Learn to speedwalk. There are times when you need to get away fast, but can’t run. Watch some professional walkers on YT or something. There’s also the Olympic event, I find it more entertaining to watch than some rando on YouTube. But definitely watch how to get the proper form first for speedwalking, though.
9. Trust your gut. Good advice for life, really, but goes doubly for walking. If you feel like something’s off, it probably is. And best you end your walk early than face the consequences of seriously misjudging a deadly situation. Better safe than sorry, as I always say.
10. Don’t listen to music or podcasts. You need to be attentive at all times.
11. Try not to seem nervous. They read body language very well and this just makes them itch to hunt. They’re predators and any skittish behaviour immediately makes them classify you in their head as prey.
12. Don’t mistake them for dumb, big predators. They are very intelligent, for one and are much, much more than some stupid carnivore. Thinking like that’s just underestimating them, and misjudging them is such a dumb way to go.

Hope this helps you out and I wish you an awesome life stranger. Stay safe.
The paper shook in my hands and my vision blurred. I buried my head in my hands and felt my fear begin to overwhelm me.
“Why?” I murmured. “Why me? Why’d this have to happen to me? Why is this even happening?’’
Shaking my head to clear my mind, I tried to focus. Breaking down wouldn’t help me. I needed to figure out how to get home safely. The rules had probably kicked in by now - I’d definitely walked far enough - and walking home would probably be a death sentence in my state. I wasn’t focused, and I knew I could never follow the rules properly like this. I was only a couple blocks from home though, so maybe I could make a break for it? I could probably maintain a sprint that long. And if I couldn’t, I was sure adrenaline would be able to pick up my slack.
A stupid idea in retrospect.
Taking a few deep, calming breaths, I managed to compose myself. Forming my fists into a tight ball, I rubbed my eyes to clear them. I inhaled one more time and sprung to my feet, ready to run. Dancing on the balls of my feet with nervous energy, I realised that however anxious I was, I couldn’t let it show. Forcing my tense shoulders to relax, I spun on my heel to face back towards my house. Out of the corner of my eye, I caught a glimpse of two eerie glowing orbs, just observing me. How long had that thing been there? Had it been there from the start? Or had it only just appeared?
Had it always been there and I’d just driven past it on my way to work every day without the slightest clue?
These thoughts managed to shatter any semblance of composure I once had. It wasn’t hard, honestly, I was so tense and wired that even breaking a twig could’ve caused me to snap and lose my cool.
I ran. I ran for all I was worth, and then some. I flew home, absolute terror fueling each step I took. I’ve never run that fast in my life, and I doubt I will again. I was tiring fast, after all, I’ve barely run since high school, when I heard frantic stomping behind me that was almost like human footsteps but way too heavy for it to be that. I definitely could have been imagining them, but somehow I don’t think I did. I increased my speed, finding an extra reserve of energy deep within my body and pumped my arms even harder, my legs working overtime. It seemed to work for a bit. The footsteps faltered but then doubled in speed. Despite my best efforts, the plodding footsteps behind me seemed to be gaining. Whatever it was seemed to realise that too, and it slowed minutely, matching my pace so neither of us was gaining on the other. It was toying with me. It knew I couldn’t keep this pace up for much longer and that it had all the time in the world. I swore those footsteps sounded almost predatory.
I almost lost hope then. I almost stopped running and just gave myself up to it. But I didn’t. I couldn’t. I won’t do that to Em. I resolved to keep running until my inevitable end.
Somehow, someway, I made it to my street. I skidded around the corner and almost fell over when I saw what greeted me. Construction workers. Shit.
In my ignorance and desperation to get away, I’d ignored the rules for running. And in doing so, I’ve cornered myself between death and… death. I was completely screwed. I needed to run past the construction workers (that had definitely not been there when I’d left so they were 100% of the supernatural kind) to get home.
My shoulders slumped. I dropped to the ground in absolute despair. This was it. I’d never see my wife again, never see her smile or laugh or groan in familiar exasperation at one of my puns. Never get to eat that piece of cake I was saving for later. Never experience the rest of my life, or even return to my monotonous office job.
I lay on the ground, all the fight sucked out of me. I waited for whoever would get me first, the thing chasing me or the construction workers, whatever they really were. I kept waiting. At one point, I wished that one of them would just hurry up and get it over with. I hated the suspense. After a while, I just lost all sense of time, wallowing in a pool of self-pity, laid out on the ground. At some point, I think I came to the realisation that at least, the thing that had been chasing me earlier was gone. Maybe it was afraid of the construction workers and didn’t dare approach closer than I already so stupidly had. I didn’t really care, as long as it was gone.
And as I came to my senses, an ominous clanking and rattle of hammers, drills and various other tools filled my ears and drowned out any other sound. I realised that this had been playing in the back of my head the whole time I’d been on the ground and I’d just been tuning it out. Now, all I could hear was the clang of metal on metal. No matter how hard I tried, I couldn’t tune it out as I’d previously been able to do. And now that I was aware of it, it had some kind of hold over me. I couldn’t ignore it to the slightest degree.
I stumbled away, cradling my head and blocking my ears, wishing desperately that the sound would just. Go. Away.
I felt unsteady, almost like I was drunk. I stumbled about walking in a random direction, not caring where I ended up. I don’t know for how long or how far I walked, only that I wanted those godawful sounds to stop. My head spun and I collapsed on the ground, the sounds of a hammer striking a nail still ringing throughout my head.

So a couple weeks ago I decided I’ve had enough of my ex fiancée crap, I caught her at a hotel with another guy and I’ve tried to work things out but I’ve felt like she hasent put her best foot forward.
So we decided we are better off not together, the problem is this: I bought a house for us two years ago and I was counting on both our salary to help with the bills. She already bringing up child support and that she deserves a portion of the house if I sell it to help her get on her feet and buy her own condo.
My point of view, I put down almost 100k of my own money for the house, she put nothing. So said that if I don’t give her a portion of the house she’ll just stay at the house for free and not help towards nothing until I can’t afford it and it goes to foreclosure.
I’m just think she’s being totally unreasonable, and she’s trying to duck me over financially.
Should I just lawyer up and fight it in court? I feel like my world is crashing down on me.

I'm used to these types of games and know the "reincarnation" system. Started yesterday and got to the portal yesterday evening, but left it running. Restarted this morning, and I'm at the portal again, but I feel like I can't get much further and while I feel like I'm multiple times stronger than the first run, it also seems like the enemies are too.
Maybe it just feels slower the second time around, but I certainly feel weaker the second time around. I did do the Discipline Mission, but despite now having complete it, I still feel incredibly weak and everything is 4-8x more than it was last game I think. I don't really want to reincarnate as I don't feel like it'll benefit me much, or maybe even set me back tremendously, but everything is so slow now.
Basically, I just want to make sure I'm not missing a mechanic I'm unfamiliar with or doing something dumb, as if the game just makes it to where getting back to the portal is harder each time, I don't think it's a game for me.
(Also, when I completed the "Discipline" challenge, it sake I got a perk, but I'm not sure what that perk is or how to see it. I'm not noticing it in the perks settings.)

Alright mod community. I've been making a load order for the better part of a week now and finally got it all together and downloaded... Only for immediate catastrophe. Not sure what the issue is but I know it's probably my load order and some sort of conflict.
For starters, when I opened the diverse dragon mod and closed it, it said something about splicing (not sure why) and as soon as I moved, the game immediately crashed. Then after that, when the game reloaded, my character would not draw a weapon even when in battle. Wouldn't even bring up fists. It was a massacre.
So would one of you kind, more knowledgeable folks take a look at my load order and tell me what I most certainly screwed up? Bc to be honest, I have no idea what I'm doing. Half the time I don't know what section the mod should go in and just give it my best guess, or close my eyes and point. I noticed some newer mods now will list where they go but some older ones most definitely do not.
I'll post the mod list in the comments. Thanks for your time, everyone! Any help would be much appreciated!

About Me

• 20 years old; living on my own (no roommates); Good support system
• I currently work full time at a financial institution making roughly $19/hr. Paid biweekly. I gross a little over $3,000/month, or $39,500/year. OT is allowed in certain circumstances, but generally not allowed.
• I also have a part time weekend job. I make $15/hr plus tips (walk out with cash; credit card tips applied to paycheck); Hours are subject to change per business hours; however, doing the slow periods, I’m guaranteed netting an extra $150/week. I split this check at 3 institutions that does not include my primary account. I do not rely on this income for budgeting purposes. I could quit tomorrow and be financially okay.
• Part time student working towards my associates degree in Business Admin, and eventually my bachelors degree. Haven’t decided on my concentration, but most likely something business related.

Assets

• ~$2.3k sitting in a Roth IRA
• ~$1.4k sitting in a HYSA; 1k of that money is on a hold, and used as a emergency fund.
• ~$900 sitting in a Traditional IRA
• ~$700 in my primary savings & everyday checking. This fluctuates quite a bit.
• ~$1.3k in miscellaneous accounts. Money that I purposely hide from myself.
• ~$630 in my 401k that is vested. My company matches 7%. I contribute the full match.

Total Assets: ~$7,300
Debts

• Car Loan, 66 month terms @ 5.24% - I owe ~$5,900; $208/month payment
  
• Personal Loan, 42 months term @ 9.9% - I owe ~$1,100; $35/month payment
  
• I pay my credit cards in full each month.
  
• No student loans or medical debt
  

Total Debts - ~$7,000
Net Worth - $300
Budget
I currently use the zero budget approach to budgeting, which basically means all the money I net is allocated to something different. I will define which ones are fixed & which are one sinking funds/variable. Keep in my mind, this only includes my full time job. I do not include my second job as that income varies. I budget every two weeks, and split all my bills into half payments. The numbers listed are the half payments. My current deductions from my full time job include: 7% 401k, dental insurance, medical insurance, accidental insurance, critical illness insurance, and vision insurance. My job pays short/long term disability insurance in full as well as our life insurance policy. After my deductions, I’m left with $1,101.00 biweekly, which is broken into the following:
** Please note fixed expenses are ones that have no to little wiggle room and cannot be adjusted; sinking funds are ones that either adjust depending on how much I use; and carry over to the next pay day. If I use less one pay period, I have more the next, and they slowly build over time.
Rent (fixed): $350 (I pay $700/month - no utilities includes)
Food (sinking): $115
Hygiene (sinking): $20
Entertainment (sinking): $25
Car insurance (fixed): $100
Gas (sinking): $50
Car Maintenance (sinking): $33
Subscriptions (sinking): $30
Life Insurance (fixed): $25
Renters Ins. (fixed): $5
IRA: Not contributing
Any Debt (sinking): $36
College (fixed): $136
Coffee (sinking): $5
Emergency Fund (fixed): $15
Health insurance: Covered thru my job.
Utilities (sinking): $60
Car Payment (fixed): $96
Questions
So I guess my big question is: How am I doing, and how can I improve?
What should I do with the extra income outside of my budget? For example, my second job? The extra income when my deductions are not taken out (twice a year)? Should I work on building my 3-month emergency fund?
Goals
I have a couple of goals I would like to work on. I want to save enough money towards a down payment on a home. At the bare minimum, $12k. My income should increase over the next few years; in todays income standards, I’ll go from 39.5k to almost 60k if things pan out right.
I also want to be debt free in two years, which should be doable if I knock it our using the funds from my 2nd job. I have no plans on buying a new car until my current car is dug into the ground. My current car payment will be utilized towards a bigger car maintenance/car buying fund, and my IRA when my car is paid in full.
Closing Notes
A few things to add;
I do not pay for a phone plan. My father handles that, and I don’t see myself coming off his plan any time soon.
My apartment does not have a washedryer, but I’m able to do my laundry at my parents once a week.
My job reimburses the costs for two of my classes a semester as long as I get a C or higher, however, I do not rely on that.
Any thoughts or recommendations for me?

A sentence said by my (F20) sister (F19) literally 10 minutes ago. “You’re paranoid” “You’re over reacting” “Why’d you stay then?” “That didn’t happen” “It is what it is, it’s what you wanted” Why are you saying those things to me?
Story: In July of 2020 I left my abusive partner I had since January of 2020. Since the breakup, even two years later, he has been finding ways to physically, or psychologically intimidate me. Stalking, 3rd party rumors, death threats, swerving his car into my lane with my daughter (not his) in the car, running my family & Friends off of roads etc. I have PTSD, still, 2 years later.
After the latest incident I decided to apply for a domestic restraining order. He didn’t show up to court. So, Thursday, I was granted an 18 month restraining order with the ability to extend if necessary. Since he’s been a subject recently, my sister has been speaking about him to her significant other. Asking me questions about him so she can “look him up” etc. (she has a history of having intercourse with my exes, spreading rumors and constantly making fun of me/bullying me about this situation behind my back. I was also accused of being on drugs). I know she’s wanting this information so she can do her own “research” and start drama, tell her friends and what not. But she doesn’t understand how dangerous this is. She doesn’t understand why she needs to keep her damn mouth shut about him to anyone. He’s dangerous, so much more than any of my family know. And if he even gets a hint that someone close to me is talking about him, it will cause unpredictable hell for anyone involved. Upon trying to explain this to her, she stated I am paranoid. Court day, when I explained I was afraid to go, she stated “it is what it is, it’s what you wanted”. When I told her I cried after the order was approved, she said “what? Why?” In an judgmental, snotty tone.
Why don’t they get it, Reddit? What are they not understanding? How do they not know we don’t want to talk about it? How do they not understand it’s not safe for THEM to talk about it? How do they not know what it triggers for us?
TL;DR sister is insanely dismissive of my domestic violence situation. She doesn’t car, and bullies me for it. She is disrespectful and digs for information. She has never been able to be trusted with information as she opens her mouth to literally everyone, and she doesn’t understand that in this case it could put her in physical danger.