Hi, First, I want to say how grateful I am for this sub, it has given me so much information and confidence to ask for help to actually figure out my migraines and face the impact they’ve had on my life. I have been getting migraines since I can remember, but they have become more and more frequent as I’ve gotten older. I use sumatriptan, but I’m having them so often I end up using all of it every month (I do my best to basically guess how bad the migraine will be and use other methods when I can to try and avoid rebound related to overuse). I have tried nortiptyline which didn’t work and I’m now on propranolol daily, but I just made it through my last sumatriptan of the month. . I have heard from a few people that Botox helped them, but for some reason I’m nervous. Am I at the point in my treatment where I should request it or are there other things I should try first? Also how long did you try a treatment before moving to the next?
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Hello Fathers I hope that you all are having a wonderful day today and a happy celebration of the most holy trinity.
I'm a convert to the faith,have had moments in which I've fallen away and moments in which I'm come back to the faith. I came back to the faith because I heard the Lord,at that point in my life i was trying to find God after much study and research I didn't know what to do,so i prayed in front of a home altar with a bunch of religious paraphernalia. In that moment I heard a voice separate and completely distinct from my own. It said "Devote yourself to me" I knew that it was the Lord but to make sure I asked for a sign, I asked for a priest to come to my place of work so that I may know for sure that it was him calling me. And sure enough 3 days later a priest showed up to my work. Since then I've had instances of inspiration but never that voice/power. I've heard things such as "purify yourself before coming to me",and "in my heart you will find mercy". And most recently today "Don't receive me today." (Although idk about that one since I did receive the Lord this morning.)
I've gotten in contact with my local diocesen priest and we've discussed religious orders and when I'm ready a spiritual director.
At this point the only thing holding me back to me getting a car...so Fathers what do i do know? Is it time to get a spiritual director? And what about today when I went against the lord and still received him? (That is if it even was him, I still received under suspicion that if could have been an evil spirit telling me not to.)
And as for my mental health, I'm not diagnosed with anything,i do have scrupulosity but other that they nothing. When i was little I did interact with spirits and stuff (I'd see them and have dreams of different people from different religions.)
So yeah, that's that lol. Thanks for taking the time to read and keep me in your prayers.

Hello everyone. I know this question has been answered already hundreds of times but I'm posting anyway due to the nuance of my situation. Apologies for the long-windedness.
Here's some context.
My ex girlfriend of 1 year broke up with me earlier this week. It wasn't a messy breakup by any means. We spent a wonderful evening together and parted ways in what felt like a tragic goodbye to 'us'. She told me that the flame between us had dampened for her (the cause, as I understand it, was due to a traumatic event we both suffered and failed to open up about, and differences stemming from our stages in life) and also that she couldn't continue to be with me under those circumstances. It hurt but I understood there was nothing I could do to change her feelings for me right now - and possibly ever, of course.
After a few kisses, a long warm embrace and many tears, I haven't seen her or messaged her. Note however that it has been only a few days.
I told her at some point during our final discussion that I would return her belongings and she thanked me for it. I also let her know that she could contact me if she ever felt the need to. I don't anticipate that she will because of how difficult it was for her to end it in the first place.
Here's my problem: since I left the ball so clearly in her court, I'm wondering if it would be a bad idea reaching out to her in order to co-ordinate me bringing back her things. I think we both need time to grieve and to understand our feelings and I'm not sure if there is an appropriate end date for that or when it will be. On the other hand, I don't want to keep her waiting on me to do what I promised.
I feel strongly inclined to return her things myself, even if that means slotting it in her mail. I don't particularly want to do it covertly either because the thought of her finding them back one day without a word feels wrong considering what we had. I am also adamant on keeping the contact lines open.
A word on why I'm doing no contact: because I haven't been able to bring myself to say anything to her since. It feels right that she has the time to reflect on all that happened and evaluate her life. I am also doing it for me in so far as I want to recover from the pain and move on but I'm not strictly trying to cut her out of my life. I still want her and wish we could work things out but I understand her feelings mean we just can't right now.
Thanks

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Been observing this and not saying anything but today i just saw another post & can't ignore it.
So yes I've had 2 back to back miscarriage. Joined some support group. To be honest it's competitive. When my therapist (not so bright) talked to me and asked if he can give me a list of support to try. All i said was, it took me this long to get the guts to even talk to you. Feel like I'm being pushed aside, flipped over, knocked off, & ignored. But it's okay because it happens more than we know (miscarriage) & all these communities has cliques & moving on tatics.
For example this lady connected with me but tried to connect me with someone else because she got pregnant. I wrote to her & she didn't even care & moved on. Then i met this other lady who lost her baby i tried to connect but she left group. (Understandable she is greiving) then she comes back on full blow , she got pregnant again & taking pics, talking every symptoms & kicks... I'm okay with her celebrating but i feel like people who goes through miscarriage & ignores it. Like they are better because they got pregnant.
I know they don't want to focus on sad things but i just dont want to be like that. If I'm being selfish or thinking wrong let me know. To be honest the only community that is okay is some group here on reddit. Let me know your thoughts. I guess this is a trigger for me to because my narcissistic sisters treat me like this... only come around when they feel like it, when it's bad, & when they are ready.

Rant & long post ahead Trigger warning - Elder Abuse
A bit background - I 32F have been taking care of my mother (55F) who has kidney & heart failure & on Hemodialysis thrice a week & also a mentally ill person. No siblings or any relatives who are even bothered to even listen to our problems leave alone helping us! I lost my father in 2018 to an illness. My mother is frail , weights only 39kgs & was hospitalized atleast 18 times in last 3-4 years for both her physical & mental illness.
I have reached a simmering point when dealing with her behavioral issues. I am very patient & I love my mom dearly & I can manage her physical health conditions. But I have reached a point where I can no longer deal with her behavioral issues. My mother is docile person but I have to shout a bunch of times to get her to wake up , then make her brush teeth, then go to toilet. Each of these steps requires me to shout & drag her....she is very messy & lacks hygiene & we only manage to make her take bath on alternate days. Throughout the day....I just have to do things for her...then shout at her to do things that I cannot do for her...like putting food in mouth etc . My mother constantly repeats the same words again & again....eg. I won't take bath today or I don't want to eat etc like a 50-100 times continuously & if I don't listen she would repeat my name untill I get irritated & threaten to punch her. Everyday I have to shout a few hundred times for basic things.
Things have escalated to such an extent that I burned her skin with a spoon I heated on stove top , hit her on the face , almost poked her eye & stomped on her feet which caused purple discoloration. I have been dealing very heavy handed with her a lot & also blacking out throughout the day due to stress. I am constantly losing things & not able to recall recent events. I have been seeing a psychiatrist since last year & have been put on three different anti-depressants/SSRI and sleep medications.
I am a calm & very Introverted person by nature , always avoided confrontations & rarely ever raised my voice but I am noticing my behavior changing a lot in last 3 years after dealing with my mother. Everytime I hurt her...I regret immediately & try to be overly affectionate to make up for my guilt.
I recently attended a relatives wedding & my aunts were literally irritated dealing with my mother for 1 day! Meanwhile my career has gone downhill & I have been barely holding on to my job.
I cannot detail the amount of PTSD I had trying to manage job , visiting mom at the hospital where she used to be hospitalized for weeks , talk to the doctors for updates & then going to office by afternoon for 10 hrs & barely surviving on biscuits for meals. All my life I have saved every penny I could, took trains/buses to travel all the time , never bought any expensive phone or a vacation since I started working. We live in a rundown house without ac or even geyser. I don't remember the last time i went to a restaurant!
Coming back...my mother just takes the abuse. She just behaves like a helpless little child. Also If I were to fall down & hurt myself in front of her....she doesn't react or show any concern.
I go through moments where I am extremely concerned about her well being & bending over backwards to make her safe & comfortable & also those moments where I am raging at her. My grandma also gets fed up & tries to occasionally slap my mother. This same grandma wouldn't even hurt tip of my mother's nail a few years back!
I am literally in tears typing this but I just wanted to rant. I have no one to share my burdens & I just wanted to confess this. I am also afraid I might do something that would injure her seriously or even kill her. I would never do such thing but there are moments where I actually imagine doing such thing & get horrified about it a moment later.
Note - I hire a stay at home maid for 3-4 months in a year but can't have them all the time does to financial reasons. Even when we had a maid...I had to step in all the time in helping them handle my mother as she is stubborn. Rest of the year it's just me with a little help from my 75yr old grandma who stays with us. I have already started therapy...I just wanted to rant here.

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Hope my fine folk are doin alright today. So I have an exam coming up for tdiu. I’m bringing my wife. I have a lawyer, all that but I’m still nervous any pointers. I usually stutter or prolongaré a word it’s weird. I don’t want to seem like an idiot less in front of my wife tbh. She knows a lot obviously why I’m bringing her but I also don’t want to seem like a weak man in front of her. Not trying to be macho man or nothing it’s just embarrassing. Bad enough she’s there to talk about how screwed up I am. Any advice for the exam

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Sorry for ranting and venting a lil here but I have no vegan friends who could understand my struggle so thank you for listening. 😅
I´m vegan for two weeks and I´m happier than ever. :D Though my family doesn´t always seem too happy with my decision. At first, my dad was pretty supportive but he´d "never ever eat this disgusting tofu nor drink oat milk"; but hey! at least accepting.
My mom was really annoyed sometimes when I refused to eat dairy products but now she´s kinda okay and supportive of it. But my dad isn´t anymore ig. He´s okay with me being vegan but whenever I say ANYTHING against meat, I´m the bad guy. I went from Omnivore to Vegan just two weeks ago so idk why he´d think that I hate meat. I just hate the way it´s made.
They do not want to hear about the slaughtering so I don´t say it. Only some hints here and there but that´s it. But the absolute ignorance today is so infuriating...
I told him how animals are tortured. How I wished for him to watch the same documentaries as I did. His answer? "Oh I know! I saw videos of pigs being tortured but ate pork right after. I´m not the one torturing them so I´m not responsible." He got mad when I disagreed and told him, how he indirectly does. I mean, why on earth are they even slaughtered for if not for Carnist like him???
And to make matters worse, he argued how Inuit and our ancestors ate ONLY meat. When I described how this is not true, that humans are Omnivores or Herbivores, he simply ignored it (ig he doesn´t know the terms). Then, "Back in my childhood, there were many farmers who daily ate meat from their own animals".
HOW. ON. EARTH. Back in the 70. A very small farm eating their own animals. daily. Animals do not grow fast enough for a lifestyle like that! Well..... in the end he argued that we only need meat to survive but don´t need plants. -"So we could eat only meat and be fine? No plants anymore? - Yes, of course." And now it´s put as if I don´t want anyone to eat meat anymore. And that I can be so glad that my family is so supportive of my veganism. - of course...supportive. Two weeks vegan and this is the third fight about my veganism (and some tension and bad looks in between).
Oh update; my mom´s mad now too. I apparently want to convert everyone here to veganism. Ignorance always wins and it´s sad how they don´t want to listen to me once. They have not one good point for eating meat but get annoyed when I name one for veganism.

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I sit here at my hotel lobby-esque bartending job waiting for anyone to walk in, no one will. My heads pounding from last night. I went to a house show which was actually more of a yard show or even a shed show as a matter of fact. It was full of alternatives that make me question why the alternatives in my city are so different from the one i was in 16 hours ago. peculiar isnt it. I think its because the city kids who i saw last night are the only remaining culture of a dying metropolis where as my city now has a “keep X weird vibe”. i digress. im hungover and bored. wassup w u?

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My F27 partner M30 confided/kissed another girl who he works with Hi everyone, I F27 just found out two days ago that my partner M30 of five years kissed another girl while he was staying at his dads. A little backstory: Middle of April my partner started showing signs that he was depressed by being distant, avoiding eye contact with me, not seeming happy during family time spent with our son M4. For the first week that I noticed I would try to involve him in activities that we would do (playing outside, dinners etc), not holding him to daily responsibilities (housekeeping, waking up with our son, school drop offs, dinner, etc). It got to the point that he wasn’t communicating with me at all on any level and only staying in another room at all times. I started to blame myself and wonder if it was something that I did. I expressed my concerns, hoping that he would reassure me that he’s just dealing with something, instead I got told that he wasn’t sure what he wanted in life anymore or if he was happy being with me. I asked him to get into contact with his therapist which was booked a month out. I have always given him room to stop bad habits, start new hobbies, see his friends etc without making him feel like he couldn’t. My only request has been that he does it while also holding any responsibilities we have as a household/parents. The weekend after that first week I mentioned before he had told me he wanted to spend the Saturday with me and would help with yard work(something I enjoy). That Saturday he didn’t wake up until 11am and stayed in the room still. I was doing yard work and he came out and told me that him and our son were going to his moms to give me a break. He later called and told me that he was dropping our son off to go skateboard with his friend. I was hurt by this because he lied and bailed on me. I stopped what I was doing and went and picked up our son, I didn’t need a break from him. The behavior continued to confirm(in my mind) that he was unhappy with me. The next weekend comes and I’m spiraling into a depression of my own, feeling unsure of anything in the relationship prior to this i thought was happy/healthy. With no reassurance given to me, I asked him if it would be possible for him to go stay at his dads until he figures out what he wants. He does so and was gone for a month and a half. Only helping with our son on days that I worked and he didn’t have school. During that time he confided in a girl at his work and they began to talk sexually. The week before he decided he wanted to come home he met with her to tell her that he wanted to come back to me. She asked for a kiss and he gave it to her. He stopped talking to her the night before he came home. I asked him why he would confide/kiss another woman and he told me that I had not been there for him emotionally and he hadn’t felt connected to me (conversation, hanging out, etc) and that she was able to give him that. She cared about what he had to say. Before all of this happened we would still talk, I started playing video games he did with his friends etc. I thought that everything felt good and was only getting better. I’m now finding myself worrying that the moment I’m not able to give him what he needs emotionally and connection wise he will welcome it elsewhere. I’m still finding it hard for myself to ask him how he’s doing and talking to him. I feel that he hasn’t given me any emotional support in the past month and betrayed me. And now he’s expecting me to be able to give it to him during this time.. While he was out I was expressing my emotions during the time and it might have even been to the point of begging, did that push him away? Did that minimize his emotions?
What are ways that I can be there for him without feeling like I’m putting myself out?
What is something that I can do to make him feel heard?

Tl:dr old coworker admitted to abuse among other terribly sexist shit.
I matched with an old coworker on tinder. When I worked with him, he seemed nice. He’s recently divorced, but he was respectful to me when he was still married. I agreed to get a drink and catch up, I thought it would be fun.
Since I knew him prior I gave him my address rather than taking a Lyft. This is why I’m so torn on just blocking and moving on, he knows where I live and worse, he doesn’t live very far away. Terrible mistake, will not make again.
He picks me up and I see him trying to open the door for me. I get some people like to do this kind of thing, but I find it corny and annoying. My last bf would constantly complain if I opened my own door. Like I’m 30 years old. I can open my own ducking door. But that was fine. I could ignore that. We’re chatting in the car and he goes on a completely unrelated tangent and brings up his daughter, a teenager, having a boy over and he slapped her saying “my ex says it’s abuse but she had a boy in my house.” I went “your ex is right, that is abuse. Would you have reacted that way if she had slept with a girl or your sons had slept with someone?” And awkwardly try to laugh it off. This is the exact point I’m regretting riding with him and wondering how I can get an out.
We get downtown and he pushes me to the inside of the side walk. Again. Another thing dudes do that I just find weird. But with the added context, it’s just a lot of sexism. At the bar he insists on paying and I’m all for it at this point. He jokingly says the n word and I go “dude no that’s not ok, don’t aay that.” And he goes “well my black friends let me”. He goes on a rant about a black woman we used to work with who is now his manager. Says she’s incompetent and that she slept her way into the position. Even says she tried to sleep with him. I know this woman. She was the epitome of class. He goes on about how he yelled at her one day and should have been fired but he’s a top performer so they didn’t(we used to work in sales).
A guy near us asks if we’re together kind of looking confused. I go “no.” And he responds “I wish.”
He gossiped really nasty things about all of our old coworkers, some I shut down with a “I’m friends with this person still, I don’t care to hear this.” Joked about tying me up. Hit his vape inside the classy bar(I get it at dive bars, but there are levels). Asked if I thought the guys sitting next to us were gay. Told me he fantasized about me when we worked together(when he was married). Said “oh you’re just so independent, but I can break that.” He bought molly for rip off prices. I could have told him too, but I didn’t. When he went to the atm the people offered to sell me some and I told them I knew they were scamming him and they were just lucky that I found this to be a bit of karma.
I got home safe and unharmed but he left his dabs on my porch and had an excuse to text me to get them. It was a good $100 worth so I figure I need to give them back as quickly as possible so he doesn’t show up unannounced and he comes over with his teenage children in the car to pick it up and tries to start a convo about going on another date. I told him my kid came home early and unexpected(true) so I wouldn’t be able to go anywhere for a while since school is out and I don’t leave her alone at night.
I just. I can’t believe how bad this date was. He was nice to me, sure, but his stories were dripping in sexism. I would normally block and move on, this is why you don’t tell people where you live before a true conversation.