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2010.03.02 21:10 9jack9 Cryptic Crosswords
A subreddit for cryptic (UK style) crosswords.
2015.12.22 23:49 imnotgoats Steam Holiday Sale Detectives
There's a bit of mystery around the Steam 2015 Holiday Sale. Post your clues and crack the case!
2011.05.08 16:02 MrRabbit Reddit for Grownups
This is a community for Redditors that are starting to get that "get off my lawn" feeling whenever they check their front page. So come in, have some fun, and enjoy the Reddit discussions that you remember from years past.
2023.03.30 19:58 Acrobatic-Exam9050 After 5 years of medical trauma, I finally found a new GI doctor..
I (27F) have always had bowel issues since I was a child but really nothing more than GERD and occasional constipation. It wasn’t until 2018 when I really started having GI issues.. the rollercoaster of doctor visits, tests, and medical debt quickly piled up. The entire process that year was extremely traumatic, as nobody believed how much pain I was in and the debt was insane.
I had a colonoscopy and endoscopy that same year at an office prior and had to switch doctors due to moving (my very first doctor was too far away.. and didn’t have any answers/ treatment plans) so I found a new doctor closer to me, let’s call her Jackie.
I was desperate for help. I could barely eat anything without being sick, ended up going to the hospital a couple times in pain, and almost lost my job from not being able to leave my house.. nobody had answers. Everything was “normal”. Jackie reviewed my previous tests/ procedures and ordered blood work… and came to the same conclusion but said it was “just IBS”. Gave me some pills and sent me on my way, she was always pretty cold.. but I stayed with her.
I was still having issues after being on medication for months (it was almost mid/late 2019 at this point) and was in a LOT of pain. I call for a follow up and Jackie was out of town for the next 3 weeks to a month.. but they assured me seeing another available physician within that same office/ practice was perfectly fine so I did just that but made it a point to follow up with Jackie as she was my main GI physician this entire process.
Scheduling conflicts happened, they forgot to put my appointment in their calendar, and I essentially didn’t get to go to that follow up with Jackie. After changing my diet, aside from it being pretty restrictive.. I’m doing better. But a year or so ago I had some bleeding and pain, so I went to Jackie. After I had a rectal exam, as I was still half undressed, she berated me in front of her nurse for seeing another physician in their practice back in 2019. I’ve blacked out what exactly she said to me but she went “cover yourself”, leaned back on the counter, arms crossed, and it went something like, “We don’t do that here” and “from now on you only see ME”. Her tone was incredibly jarring, more was said.. but I felt so embarrassed after going through that entire appointment, a rather vulnerable appointment at that, with no mention of this until after she performed the exam and hadn’t let me get dressed yet. I never saw anyone else aside from Jackie except that ONE time when her office said it was okay.
I left crying.. I never went back or sought any further care anywhere else for my GI issues because I’ve been scared that everyone will be like Jackie and that my issues aren’t valid enough for care. But, after 5 years.. I booked an appointment with a physician at a completely different office/ practice! I’m nervous, but optimistic. Thank you for letting me rant.. I hate feeling so alone with IBS, especially with mine being so severe.. but it felt good getting this off my chest. Fuck you Jackie.
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2023.03.30 19:57 Certain_Bus4931 Mandatory I passed Security + post!
Well, fellows, I don't think I've ever been this nervous during an exam but I managed to stay composed and passed with a not-so-terrible 777.
I used Dion's and Messer's Practice tests as my main resources. I was averaging 75-80% between all those tests on my first try. I studied actively for 2 months and wrote around 50 pages of notes.
English is not my first language so for me, the biggest challenge was not so much if I knew the concepts or not but rather being able to understand the questions properly. These questions are worded in a very tricky way and the options are so similar that technically, in many cases, all could apply so you REALLY have to read them and understand what is being asked. The practice tests I mentioned before are great to make you get familiarized with the exam's wording.
PBQs... oh boy. The PBQs can drain your clock so quickly that is not even funny. Also, they were brutal. Very technical and time-consuming stuff. I really would advise skipping them until you are done with the multiple choices. Sure, they are weighted higher when it comes to scoring but if you do well enough in the MC, then you can even get by without completing them (I missed a whole one and rushed through the other 4, leaving some of them incomplete)
Go through the exam objectives and if you can define in your own words at least 75% of all concepts, while also already being able to crack the wording puzzle (identify the keyword of the question) about the way ComptTIA ask their question, then I would say you should be ready to give it a go.
Thanks to all and best of luck as well!
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2023.03.30 19:57 Omni-Fitness Staking contracts that accept multiple ERC20 tokens?
Are there any current StakingReward
contract designs that accept not just a single ERC20 as the stakingToken, but rather a set of tokens that can be used for staking?
I want to do this, but this actually seems somewhat difficult because you need to normalize them all to the same value (probably ERC20:USDC value). And I'm not sure if this rate needs to be adjusted for as time goes on, or just at staking time.
Would love to hear your thoughts and/or any examples if some exist. Thanks!
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2023.03.30 19:57 GroverFC Maintaining Cedar Garage Trim
In our area, builders have started putting this
arched cedar trim above the garage. We just moved into a house that has it and it needs some TLC. I've already caulked and re-stained the boards. My question is do I need to do more to these boards to weather proof them? I'm getting mixed answers from internet research. Thanks!
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2023.03.30 19:57 Deempeer Why do the devs never care
So, after the PTB release, I have genuinely been wondering, as many other people, why the devs just don't care about any sort of feedback from neither the general community nor the fog whisperers.
I mean the first thing that obviously comes to mind is that they just don't play their game, or at least not regular mm, whenever there's a dev stream they just play custom games against each other, why? Because they're probably very terrified of actual mm because they most likely wouldn't have fun, so why are they forcing us to not have fun.
Another thing is, when the biggest content creators and people who understand the game the most, Otz, SpookyLoopz and many others mention on their streams and in their videos that they're very afraid of the healing nerf and they see it as a huge red flag they still just don't care and move on because the data in their excel sheet are saying that 90% of survivors are likely to heal at least once during a match so it's obviously too fast and too op.
I don't get it, I just don't, I personally love this game, have spent nearly 4k hours on it and I would hate to see it die, which probably won't happen, but I still wanna enjoy the game which is gonna be harder and harder to do if they keep making changes like these.
All these pointless nerfs and changes will have to come to an end eventually and some of the devs will have to realize that what they're doing with the game is just wrong. I just hope that'll happen sooner rather than later.
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2023.03.30 19:57 Inevitable_Bug_2226 Under stimulated at work
I know we all have good days and bad days. I’ve had to lower my medication dosage in order to be medicated and some days it feels like I didn’t take it at all, even though I take it twice to meet my normal dose. Today is one of those days, I have hot yoga after work, laundry to do, self-care, meditation and journaling. I really don’t want to give up today. I want to show up for myself but today I just feel chronically and infuriatingly bored.
Any tips or words of encouragement would be really appreciated.
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2023.03.30 19:57 loopdeloop_ubz I'm feeling less of myself because I can't give my partner an amazing orgasm.
So for some context me and my partner have been having sex for a while now and I can't give her a great orgasm I can make her cum from multiple things but they are never great. Meanwhile I hear that everyone is having amazing orgasms. Am I doing something wrong maybe there's a way to make it better? But it's really beating me down.
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2023.03.30 19:57 Def-facto Conclusions and CLIR
Hey guys! So I think I’m over thinking conclusions. After doing the first CLIR in the book I realized I struggled with conclusions (and more specifically intermediate conclusions). I’ve gone back over Chapter 2 and even redid all the drills to refresh my memory, and I think it helped but I’m getting hung up on something.
I’ve been using the Conclusions test and reminding myself “If you have evidence for why it’s true, it’s some kind of conclusion” and “If you have no better answer than “uhh reasons?” for why something is true it’s a premise” (pg 52) but this is where I start over thinking.
If there is a really bad conclusion that isn’t supported by the premises well at all how can you tell if it’s a conclusion or premise?
Right now I’m trying to start a CLIR on section 1 of February 1993. I’m literally on question 1 and getting hung up, and that’s what made me think it of it.
I know I can’t post it word for word, but it basically says that after the printing press was invented the demand for printed books was way higher than the demand for manuscripts ever was. It then goes on and says that the increase in demand shows that there was a jump in the number of people who learned how to read in the years following books being produced on the printing press.
I keep thinking the second part (the increase demonstrates a jump in people who learned how to read) is a conclusion. Mainly because it seems to be making a new claim using information from the other premises (like that there was an increase in demand). But I struggle to answer how I know the increase demonstrates that more people learned how to read during that time.
Instinctively I want to loophole it, and ask “What if the same amount of people knew how to read, they just could actually afford books and couldn’t afford the expensive manuscripts?” I’m stuck on if this is maybe a bad argument and that’s why I’m having trouble answering “how do I know __ is true” or if the last sentence is just adding more information and it’s a premise set.
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2023.03.30 19:57 Bright-Level1893 Wife looking at her and exes wedding photos
A little back story. About 2 weeks ago my wife’s ex sent her a message saying he missed their friendship and basically took an emotional dump on her. We had a big fight, which ended productively with each of us taking away some things we needed to do differently.
Last night I decided that this weekend we would all have a paint night. I pull open her art drawer and there is her wedding album from her past marriage and an album from their Disney trip. They definitely were not there a month ago, they were packed away. Should I be concerned?
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2023.03.30 19:56 TheLadyEve Warning: you can't "wax paper or parchment paper" bagels when proofing
I just made some bagels and most of them came out great but a few were too flat because I foolishly proofed them for 18 hours in the fridge on wax paper instead of greased parchment paper or parchment with cornmeal which is what I normally do. I just assumed they would be easy to remove for poaching...they were not. I'll post my recipe later as I make bagels often and I'm confident in the recipe itself, but this time it was a pure technical error on my part. They stuck to the wax paper, the wax paper ripped to shreds (again, this is not from baking, just from proofing in the fridge) it was an unexpected ordeal that I created for myself.
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2023.03.30 19:56 DirtyHoosier E-comm tech guy in a large company. What does my skillset make me?
Firstly, this isn't a solicitation for a job or consulting gig. I'm happy with my current job and am not looking for anything else.
Second, I'm trying to figure out what titles others like me have and what sort of peer groups they're involved in to gain/share information.
I work in a company that used to be quite a bit smaller, but has grown rapidly over the years.
I've went from volunteering to manage SSLs, domains, social media accounts, and website builds to:
- Negotiating after-market domain purchases, domestic and international
- Acquiring/recovering lost social media accounts and setting up new ones
- Data connectivity between internal/external database and websites. API's, custom code, etc.
- Managing the tech end of livestream events
- Tracking fonts and font purchases across multiple sites
- Managing maintenance and builds across multiple websites
- DNS setup/updates
- Purchasing/renewing and setting up SSLs
- Managing "lift and shifts" of sites, social and domains after acquisitions
- Analytics setups and some very light reporting
- Managing CC gateway setup and install
Beyond that, it's kind of whatever comes my way when it comes to "web stuff". I'm truly a Jack-Of-All-Trades. Note that I'm not an expert in all of these things. I manage vendors for several of them. But I do understand the processes behind each.
So for those of you out there who handles these sorts of things, what is your title? What are your KPI's? What is your job description?
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2023.03.30 19:56 krO_Osh Help me find a win con in my pauper EDH deck!
I just finished putting together a [[Malcolm, Keen-Eyed Navigator]] and [[Kediss, Emberclaw Familiar]] pauper edh list. It is basically just a pirate tribal deck with a lot of card draw that hopefully can make lots of treasures. (Deck list here: https://www.moxfield.com/decks/_9OW_pQyX0mg5OVE_fNzMA
When I goldfish the deck by myself it seems to do pretty well at drawing a bunch of cards and making a bunch of treasures. My only problem I'm having is finding a way to actually close out a game and deal lots of damage. I need something solid to sink all my treasure mana into towards the end of the game.
Got any suggestions for some big Timmy creature or a "X cost" sorcery or something like that to help me close out the game? Thanks!
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2023.03.30 19:56 StepwiseUndrape574 This Red Dead Redemption 2 Mod Adds A New Character And Single-Player Campaign
It has been more than nine years since Grand Theft Auto 5 hit the store shelves. Only about four years have passed since Red Dead Redemption 2 wound up in the hands of fans of the old west game. Most people have played through all the content of both, or at the very least watched streamers and content creators do so. Some people think that there should be new and big updates to Red Dead Redemption 2.
For TakeTwo Interactive subsidiary, Rockstar Games, both of the titles have been practically printing them money, but between the two GTA V has definitely been far more lucrative. With both of the online installments continuing to add content and making it so that there is more to do and play within the universe of these games.
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2023.03.30 19:56 redroguetech How do the deals work (on the business side)
How are the sale amounts determined? Do game publishers go to some random seller(s) based on market share to get their game out there, or do the sellers underwrite the sales to bring people to their site?
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2023.03.30 19:56 tayfilxandchill Need suggestions on my relationship
So I've been in a relationship for 4 months and i have known this guy for 5 years. In 5 years,he was always there for me,helped me with my overthinking,panic attacks and anxiety. After coming to the relationship, everything changed. He made my anxiety,panic attacks worse and then he admitted he did that intentionally. He then went on saying that i misinterpret texts,i have a narrative in my head so he can't convince me. He even took his anger at others out at me twice. I was stunned at this coz we hadn't had a single fight in 5 years and had multiple fights in 2 months. He said that "as I'm trusting you now, I'm showing you my real side",i mean i guess i get it why he didn't open up when we were friends but i did open up to him TOTALLY when we were friends and things went downhill which was affecting my mental health, i gave him 3 warnings that he's not being nice to my mental health and just to talk nicely during my exams atleast, that didn't happen. Texts weren't helping at all coz he was just apologising over and over again and i was just tired of listening the same things where actions pointed in the other direction so i stopped believing in his words. We decided to meet and sort things out,at the meet he didn't talk at all,he sat and laughed. It got that bad that i had to leave the place and he didn't even bother coming after me so i felt bad leaving things hanging and came back. I tried to make him talk by asking questions,giving time and even staying silent like him so that he would finally talk,he didnt. I talked for 2 hours to myself. He came and wrote a long paragraph explaining why he didn't talk,said that i was constantly attacking him even tho i was just telling what has happened and asking for his reasonable explanations of everything that happened. He always has had a justification for everything on texts,he didn't say anything on the meet. I warned him, things were getting worse,don't stay silent,he didn't listen. That was kinda my last straw coz i was struggling to stay happy with just 4 months in and everything was a lot to take in so i decided to break up (in the para he wrote he asked for a last chance but did mention that he will respect if i don't give) so he left that on me. So i sent him a break up text after i asked for some time to rethink things coz everything was hurting me atp,first he said "okay" then for the next 2 days,he was trying to convince me but all i was feeling was hurt that even tho he said everything i ever wanted to hear in 4 months,i couldn't get myself to trust his words so i didnt agree then. Here,i COMPLETELY forgot about the part that he had his exams next day and by the end when he finally gave up on comvincing me,he out the blame on me like him not talking,him not texting the right things and all so honestly i was so hurt that i became inconsiderate of his feelings when he was trying so after the hurt was less and seeing how he justified it and blamed things on me made me question myself so i apologised to him and asked if we could restart from beginning like from friends and find out our compatibility as the first time around was worthless. He didn't agree,he needed that relationship tag,i was reluctant to that. After i asked this,he was being so nice,flirting (didn't flirt in 4 months) and being there like he was before so i thought why not one last chance but my friends shouted at me and asked to talk to him and he got convinced to start from friends. This was fine but i don't think he gets it coz he's been sending love you texts and being all nice and I'm scared he's doing the "hiding himself" part again just to get back. He literally agreed that he was doing this during our whole course of relationship and even after that for a month as "things were going good" to quote him. I care about him a lot and i don't even want to think about losing him and i needed us to be on good terms which is why i guess i sent that apology text so it's complicated.
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2023.03.30 19:56 Jazzlike-Subject-441 Why is my dog aggressive with my family but not with me
My dog is aggressive when my family members handle her but not when she's with me. I recently went to the vet to get her some anti anxiety medication and so far with me, shes doing a lot better. She's not shaking as much, no longer pulling, and can ignore people from a distance. But when my family members take her outside she's pulling, lunging, and barking at any and everyone. Why is she like that?
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2023.03.30 19:56 jediabj77 33 [M4F] Netherlands / Europe - nerdy introverted gamer looking for an extrovert to adopt me :)
Hope you all are doing well.
Reposting again - still looking for my person, staying positive and not giving up!
I moved to Netherlands last year for a career switch from academia to the industry. It has been an interesting journey for me - from India to USA for my PhD, then to Switzerland for research and now to Netherlands. New country, new job and new life! I will likely be spending the foreseeable future here, and want find my forever person.
I want a friendship that could mature into something more down the line where we establish a deep personal connection - share thoughts, dreams, goals, aspirations, travels and stories, music, books, food and more. I very much want a relationship and would prefer to communicate with someone who is already in NL or planning to move here very soon. I am not looking for pen pals or casual acquaintances.
Some common grounds/ice-breakers: gamer, scientist, traveler, foodie, amateur chef and coffee addict sums me up. And yet, we are all more than the sum of our hobbies.
Gaming: primarily a PC gamer with a taste for RPG and strategy. Gaming is not the only part of my life but it is an important one so I would prefer if you were at least a casual gamer or someone who is willing to participate in that activity. I regularly play games like final fantasy 14, guild wars 2, path of exile, and civilization 6. I also have a switch and a PS5.
Non-gaming: I enjoy both cooking and eating out to explore different cuisines. My taste in music is too broad to list here but the favorite is Sufi music. Lastly, I am not a couch potato and like spending a fair bit of time outside - fitness, hiking, traveling, visiting museums, attending live performances or just exploring new places. Being in NL, I have recently picked up cycling as well - we will see how that goes.
Other details: I am politically left leaning, an atheist, a vegetarian and an introvert.
I am usually a very agreeable person, but somethings such as smoking, strong religious inclinations and an anti-science mindset are an absolute no for me.
If you've read this far and feel like there is common ground to build upon, please leave a message introducing yourself, and let us start a conversation :)
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2023.03.30 19:56 anelson Legality of US Citizen overstaying Schengen short-stay visa waiver in Portugal awaiting residency
I'm a US citizen currently in Portugal, finding myself in what I bet is a pretty unusual situation and I'm not able to get clear answers on the legality of the situation.
I lived in Ukraine on a Ukrainian temporary residency permit for a few years before the Russian invasion in Feb 2022. My wife (who is a Ukrainian citizen and does not have a US green card) and I decided to come to Portugal in January to take advantage of the temporary protection regime they have for Ukrainian citizens and legal residents. We submitted our application for residency online in January (sefforukraine.sef.pt). As of today 30 March, my application is still in "Submitted" status. We went to a SEF (Portuguese immigration service) office to ask about the status, and they said it was probably because I was an American citizen and it's odd that I'm requesting temporary protection, although they confirmed that as a holder of a Ukrainian residence permit I do have a right to request it. Based on this feedback I also uploaded to our residency application a copy of our Ukrainian wedding certificate, and a letter explaining the unique situation.
I've talked to a Portuguese immigration lawyer, he agreed it's an unusual situation and probably that's why there's a delay. He has other clients (Ukrainian citizens) who applied for the temporary residency permits after we did, and already received them.
He advised me to be patient and await the residency permit.
My worry is that in three days we will have been in the Schengen zone for 90 days out of the last 180. I don't actually have this residency yet, so I will have technically overstayed the 90 day visa, right? We have a trip coming up to Italy, which now I'm re-thinking since I just did the math and realized that will be after our 90 days are up. Will Portuguese or Italian authorities notice, given that there's no passport control on flights between those two countries?
If for some reason I urgently need to leave the Schengen Zone (for health reasons or a death in the family or whatever) and I still haven't been issued this residency status, at the border as I leave would the border guards consider my wife and I as having over-stayed our visas? The only way we have to get back to Ukraine is via Poland, so if we were banned from the Schengen Zone for over-staying a visa it would be catastrophic for us both when the time comes to return to Ukraine.
I doubt anyone else has been in this exact situation, but has anyone else found themselves in a legal limbo awaiting residency or a visa extension in the Schengen zone? Any thoughts on the legality of my situation?
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2023.03.30 19:56 newsboio I’m angry at my first ex
I’m angry at my first ex
I (22M) got broken up with by my (26F) (we will call her Tam) now ex-girlfriend exactly 41 days ago today. We broke up because for the last month of our relationship I noticed a shift in her mood and attitude towards the relationship (asking for more time apart, dryer text messages, lower sex drive (she’s always had a very high sex drive but not saying this is an end all be all) missed calls even tho she’s active on Instagram.) and due to my past relationship before Tam, I started to overthink a ton (i.e. constantly texting and calling and checking up on her to make sure she’s okay. Whenever there was too long of space without talking.) and worry that there’s someone else because these were all the signs from my last relationship before she left and immediately got with someone else. The overthinking got so bad I went through her phone while she was asleep and later in the day I told her that because I knew it was wrong.) Right before the breakup with Tam we communicated why I overthink and she was acting distant. I learned that this time of year (Jan-Mar) is a time where a lot of trauma in Tams life occurred. However move towards the day after Valentine’s Day. The overthinking still continued and the communication between us wasn’t fully there. And I told her how I was uncomfortable with her going to a bar with all of her guy friends and no girl friends and she told me to “get over the fuck over yourself” this of course lead to us lashing out at each other and her eventually calling it off. She promised we could talk when I came back from a work trip I was going on. But during that time of me being on our trip I learned Tam had signs of being pregnant and I began to overthink the future and over worry about Tam and her mental/Physical Health. Constantly trying to talk to her and eventually pushing her to forcing herself to block me before she took a pregnancy test but said she would unblock me to tell me the results. This in turn lead me to text one of her friends the night she was going to take the test because she never called me like she said she would. She got mad but sent me a picture of the results (negative) than told me she no longer wanted to speak with me when I got back not wanted me anymore and just wanted me to “fuck off.” That night I went clubbing with my buddies and got absolutely obliterated and texted that same friend and told her I was upset. She said “you’re my friend too if you need to vent. I’m here I won’t show her or tell her what you said. But I won’t respond.” So I texted her some awful things about Tam that I truly did not mean. I called Tam “A liar, other derogatory terms I wish I hadn’t said, and a woman who doesn’t know how to commit.” Fast forward to a week later and Tam messaged me saying “before I was just angry because I had a bad day than had to deal with you texting. But than I got to see this sends pictures of the text message I sent her friend and I truly never want to see or hear from you ever again. Goodbye.” I know ultimately my actions were my own. But I’m so angry at my first ex for all the mental and emotional abuse she put me through to where 3 years after when I finally got into a relationship again I still couldn’t shake the overthinking, overbearing, and over worrying that haunts me. I hate myself even more for knowing why it is that I do it and still can’t change it. I’m angry because Tam had her faults too but she was a shining light in this dark world, when we first started dating she knew how to reassure me and we knew how to communicate. By the end I fucked it all to hell and I blame myself but also my first ex. I also am mad at Tams friend for using my vulnerability against me to create more problems that didn’t need to happen. But in the end I know only myself is to blame.
TL;DR: I’m mad at my first ex for emotionally and mentally abusing me and causing me to self destruct my last relationship with overthinking, over worrying and overbearingness.
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2023.03.30 19:56 DotBeautiful2352 I'm not sure what to do next in my relationship
Hi. I'm new here and I know this is highly used as an advice blog for people. I figured I'd tell my story because at this point I'm at a loss and could use some input, preferably non bias. I apologize for this being so lengthy.
I (32F) have been dating my boyfriend (40M) for nearly 2 years. We have a great relationship and we are very compatible. I love him so much and hes been nothing but good to me. When we first started dating, we agreed to take things slow and not rush into anything. We decided we would hold off on introducing our kids until about a year into dating. I have 2 kids, a 12 year old girl and an 8 year old boy. They have separate fathers. I have split custody with my daughters dad and my sons dad is not involved. My bf has one 11 year old son with his ex wife, they too have split custody. We agreed to only have our sons meet, because as of right now I am currently going through a custody dispute with my daughters dad. I filed for primary against him for multiple reasons. We felt we should have my daughter meet my bf until after my custody trial and the dust has settled.
I have a very messy history with my daughters dad. We have been in and out of court many times over the past 10+ years since we split , a lot of it because he has made false accusations against me as a mother. I've had CPS at my door 3 separate times now because he repeatably alleges I'm this abusive, unfit mother when him and I are butting heads. All of these accusations were dropped and unfounded. He is extremely vindictive and has slandered me in court over and over. My life has been a living hell because of him, and he has manipulated my daughter into thinking he's this awesome parent and I'm the bad guy. He's coerced my daughter into keeping secrets for him and lying for him. It's an absolute nightmare and it one of several reasons I filed for primary. She doesn't realize his horrible and narcissistic behavior because he has her wrapped so tight around his finger. He even went as far as falsely accusing my last boyfriend of abusing my children and getting him involved when he did absolutely nothing wrong, eventually that relationship ended but not for that reason. It's a control issue for sure and I believe her dad is intimidated by my daughter forming any type of bond with a man other than him. He wants her all to himself. Which is unfair, because I never gave him a hard time about girls he's dated. I told him as long has they're decent people , not on drugs and treat my daughter well, I don't care who hes with. I am not that territorial baby mama. This just skims the surface of all the horrible shit he's put me through over the years. After I filed for primary, he filed an emergency petition against me claiming I'm emotionally and physically abusing my daughter. Not sure how this petition was granted but eventually after not seeing her for 15 days, I went to court with my attorney and everything was fixed and his petition was thrown out due to lack of evidence. My trial is in 2 months and it's been torture waiting on this day to come. It's been put on hold for months because the court system is pushed back due to covid and my lawyer also had to extend the trial because he had to go out on medical leave for a bit.
So back to the topic of me and my bf. We decided to keep my daughter out of the picture for now until after court. But we had our sons get acquainted and things seemed to be going well. We were spending a lot more time together over the summer and we were making progress in our relationship. I was really happy about this. But then it seemed like things came to a halt, and we stopped doing things as a family and just reverted back to only seeing each other on weekends he doesn't have his son. We live 40 minutes away from each other, so it's hard to spend time together with our kids schedules and work schedules. I see him a few times a month tops. it sucks but I love him and I've tried my best to make this relationship work. We text and talk everyday.
Recently, I confronted him and asked him why we haven't spent any time together with the kids. I told him I felt he has no desire to grow as a family unit and I wanted to know whats up, being that we've been together almost 2 years. He confessed the reason he hasn't wanted to engage the kids is because he is nervous about my daughters dad. He says he's afraid that when we introduce my daughter, her dad is gonna go A wall and accuse him of abuse like he did with my ex. I didn't understand where this was coming from, because I had been very open with him from day 1 about both of my kids fathers and my history with them. I told him everything he deserved to know. But then he told me that about 2 months ago he had talked with his lawyer and asked for advice on the situation and what he should do if my ex should ever tried to pull a stunt like with the last guy. His lawyer flat out told him to end things with me and that there's nothing protecting him and those kind of accusations could ruin is custody arrangement with his son and even his job position. She basically told him hes risking everything if he moves forward with me and he's in for a world of trouble. He has also discussed this matter with friends, family and colleagues who have gone through similar issues.
I'm crushed, I went into this relationship wanting to settle down. I told him from the door I wanted a family and marriage. He said he wanted that too, but now that he's been given this advice, he's basically telling me that right now he cant give that to me cause he feels he's at risk. He says he doesn't know what to do. I asked him, so what are we supposed to do, just not engage our kids and keep only seeing each other a few times a month? I understand his perspective, but what makes this hard is that he's coming to this decision 2 years in. I'm fully invested in this relationship and he just unloads this on me. It's not fair, I cant just be happy and have a good relationship with someone because my daughters dad is unhinged and his behavior is unpredictable. How is it right for someone to have that kind of control over my life and the person I'm involved with. Please don't judge me, I know I picked the people I had my kids with and can't change that now. I've been bearing the cross of my choices for years and I'm trying to make things right and do right by my kids. I'm just so down about this and feel so guilty for pushing people away with the baggage I bring. What should I tell my bf?
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2023.03.30 19:56 Solid-Cockroach567 Dr.waltons or SCP 4908 safe class humanoid scp
Dr.walton is a humanoid SCP infected with some anomalous virus while working at the SCP foundation The virus has increased his intelligence and has made him a valuable member of the SCP foundation he does not seem to age and he doesn't have a mouth even know he can still talk he has a skull mask covering the bottom of his mouth and a cowboy hat cover the rest of his head he is terribly disformed on his head do to incident [redacted] and glass he is an expert in humanoid anomalies and anomalous viruses he has work with the SCP foundation for many years making him a senior member of staff Dr Walton's has worked for SCP foundation and the CIA for many years and has become available assets SCP foundation He's given security detail due to his high ranking and name in the SCP foundation his family has work for the scp foundation for many years his mom dad and grandparents and siblings have also worked for many other other groups of interest in the SCP his little brother Joe work for the GOC. And he has a sister who rumor to work for the serpent's hand or the chaos uncertainty depending on who you talk to and she's worked for the CIA he his skilled in combat his siblings and other family members also have anomalous abilities incapabilities for working for the SCP foundation
He can shap his hands to any tools need he virtually indestructible
Special containment procedures
Dr.waltons is allowed to walk freely around sight as long as he's in his clearance level and does not leave side he is allowed to sleep with the rest of SCP foundation staff on site in the dormitories He is allowed scheduled visit has he has family who has work
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2023.03.30 19:56 ninul3479 I made some sprites of peppino in geometry dash, wich one should i do next?